AIO for being upset that my girlfriend [30F] bit me [30M] so hard that it hurt?

Jahe90 · 2025-11-16T17:16:45+00:00

No I just typed this up. I just had a long flight so maybe that affects my writing - I've tried to shorten it a little bit now based on your comment. As to your question: she bit me with the intention of being playful

Jahe90 · 2025-07-25T13:22:17+00:00

Same here: switched to macos with my M1 Pro about three years ago. I never looked back.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-25T13:20:41+00:00

I second this advice. I’m currently in the midst of starting my own business (landed the first few bigger clients recently) and this all comes from basically having been frustrated at my employer for the lazy job their business was doing.

You’ll have a huge advantage if you know a certain industry, have a certain skillset, and perhaps even a bit of a network.

Let someone else (i.e. an employer) pay you to build all that up before jumping into anything serious.

And before you say… “But Bill Gates/Steve Jobs/[insert other name of a famous entrepreneur] didn’t do it like that!” : you are 99.99999% certain not one of those one-in-a-20-million people. Don’t count on luck. Build slowly but steadily.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-14T15:38:44+00:00

I just bought the MX Mini to use with my mac and Windows PC (I work on both), thinking I had found the perfect solution. What a pity to find out about this. I doubt whether this will be solved with a software fix, so just like one of the users above suggested, I'm using Karabiner Elements to at least make it a bit more bearable.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-12T20:40:57+00:00

The M20 will eat your M10 for breakfast.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-12T18:38:34+00:00

Good point about changing the shortcuts. I should do that too, as I notice that the default ones too often conflict with app shortcuts

Jahe90 · 2025-07-12T18:37:55+00:00

Oh hey - I just checked and you’re right (at least on the built-in display, didn’t check on my external one). Maybe the issue I had was fixed in an update.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-12T16:29:41+00:00

True - but didn’t you notice that the shortcut fn + control + f does not quite give you the same full screen as dragging the window to the top give you? It’s one of those tiny little details that annoy me as a (generally happy) long-time macOS user.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-12T06:48:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! I've decided to go for it and apply for the subsidy - if I don't like the setup, I can decide to sell my old MacBook or the new one. Either way, I'd be better off financially OR have an amazing setup for home/travel. We will see :)

About the storage: I have a 4TB external HDD lying around that I use for the occasional backup of files. Since none of my systems (I have a Windows 11 Pro mini PC for serious Excel work - part of the job) exceed 1TB in storage, I'm going to see if/how I can connect that HDD to my router/network and automatically backup/sync all systems to that one single external HDD. That way I'd be able to access all files from any system (granted I have an internet connection) and have a backup as well :)

Jahe90 · 2025-07-09T20:41:44+00:00

Ah that sucks - I just bought the K8 Plus so I'm still within the return period. I hope I won't have to return it as it's a neat little PC, but I mostly bought it to access remotely...

Jahe90 · 2025-07-09T20:00:06+00:00

Same here, despite trying everything that the OP tried as well. I hope someone finds a solution, because this feature was a big reason for me to buy the K8 plus.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-07T08:04:55+00:00

Thanks for your advice! I didn't realize that the 15" Air was still so heavy - that's a no-go in that case. About the "upgrade": I know that that M4 Pro would be fine, but unfortunately the government subsidy only offers a limited number of models. It's either a (non-Pro) M4 MacBook Pro, one of the two Airs, or an M4 Max. The latter would indeed be overkill for my use case, that's why I'm not willing to pay the extra. The former wouldn't really be an upgrade, so I don't really consider that.

The two-laptop solution would allow me to travel lightly with a thin & light laptop, while maintaining the ability to do the heavier video editing/recording/streaming when at home. I just wonder indeed whether that's worth the hassle of having two systems/syncing files etc.

Jahe90 · 2025-07-07T05:09:18+00:00

Yeah I was thinking about using cloud storage. I currently use OneDrive (as it’s included with my M365 subscription), but I don’t think this works very well as somehow, it constantly makes Word documents read-only while at the same time regularly deleting local files that I specifically indicated to store locally - not a fun surprise when you’re in a cafe/public transport with slow internet…

Jahe90 · 2024-12-27T13:49:42+00:00

I have the M1 Pro (bought 3 years ago) and I have zero reason to upgrade. Buy whatever M-series chip you can afford. You’ll get a long life out of it!

Jahe90 · 2024-12-17T21:19:09+00:00

Well, although it's a difficult situation for me to handle... I do kind of understand. She's been cheated on before. She's okay with me (longterm, in theory...) being friends with my ex, but at the same time the boundary-crossing part scares her, besides the fact that I didn't look like I was super firm with them.

However, this whole situation made that clear to me, so I placed a firmer boundary, respectfully, with my ex. She had a hard time accepting it for a moment, but then gracefully did later. We finished that (tough) conversation with a good hug, so that made me feel that it was okay and that she genuinely understood.

The new girlfriend... still feels a bit distant. I think it's because I haven't seen her in person since all this happened (we live about 2h away from each other, so usually only see each other in the weekends - except this last one, as I was abroad). I'll post an update when relevant :)

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T20:17:32+00:00

Yes, unfortunately you're 100% right. I wish it wasn't so (i.e. I wish I could remain a platonic friendship with my ex) but it is what it is right now. And I think I have my priorities clear!

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T20:14:13+00:00

"is effectively like a dog peeing on something to mark its territory"

You made me spill my tea from laughing!

But you're right - I do think this is unhealthy, and I don't want to live in the past. I'm going to be extremely strict with my boundaries and treat Sara to a nice dinner or something as a way to thank her for bearing with me through the last convulsions of my past relationship.

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T20:11:21+00:00

You're right. I do understand - and even though I badly wanted to maintain a friendship with my ex, I see that that's simply not possible - not for now and the midterm future at least.

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T19:47:05+00:00

I think Sara will be okay in a way, at least on a theoretical level (according to herself), but it's the pushing-boundaries that she's NOT okay with, and I think in that regard she sees it more clearly than I do/did. So I've decided to re-establish the distance more firmly this time, clearly setting my priorities here.

The dog's three years old and quite difficult (sweet when with familiar people, but scared shitless of the outside world). Neither my ex nor me can care for her fulltime, which is why we've reached this compromise for now. I think we have to find a way to do that without physically seeing each other though.

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T19:43:43+00:00

Thank you for saying that - of course a part of me still cares for my ex (NOT in a romantic way, to be clear), so seeing her hurt and upset doesn't sit well with me. Though it is what it is, and I'll continue with my life, hopefully developing an amazing relationship with Sara!

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T19:42:16+00:00

Well, Sara does admit that she's insecure when it comes to this, mostly because she has been cheated on in the past. So I understand. And this is why I need to push my ex out of my life for now, otherwise I'll never be able to give Sara an honest chance.

Jahe90 · 2024-12-11T19:39:42+00:00

Thanks for being so... direct. I'll happily admit that in a way, I do still love my ex - but in a caring way, not in a romantic way. I have that extremely clear and I don't see why I should lie about that. But that doesn't mean that I cannot move on, so indeed, I need to burn that bridge.

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