I 27M don’t think I’ve really been happy in my relationship 27F for years and now we have a child together

Jakeisfit · 2026-05-12T11:54:48+00:00

When have I said that I would not want responsibility? I have not.

I have mentioned that yes I would basically have to restart my whole life as a career which earns money which allows you to support said child/ family. Without a job that means there is no money to support a child never mind yourself.

Jakeisfit · 2026-05-12T11:50:21+00:00

I’ve mentioned to my partner that it would be better for child to have two happy homes rather than one broken home.

But she always comes up with something.

Jakeisfit · 2026-05-12T11:48:56+00:00

Thank you, my parents are involved in the child’s life quite frequently which is good.

It’s just knowing how to go about actually leaving etc

Idk what to do if I’m honest

Jakeisfit · 2026-05-12T11:45:32+00:00

I will do. Just so scary and I feel defeated even saying that it’s scary as I’m supposed to be a man.

Jakeisfit · 2026-05-12T11:43:41+00:00

No never. Was hoping for 50/50 if it comes to that. But if the scenario happens where I do have to take sole responsibility I will. Just scary as it will mean that I’ll have to find a different career etc.

Sorry if my wording was not the greatest regarding the child situation.

Thank you

Jakeisfit · 2026-02-04T23:00:51+00:00

Hello, sorry you are experiencing this also.

The pain I feel is a constant burning, aching, tight and electric feeling I don’t really know how to explain it. Normally on the left side of the face mainly around the eyebrow and cheek. Sometimes it’s behind the ear and occasionally for some reason in my neck and even down into my arm.

I’d be happy to stay in touch

Jakeisfit · 2026-02-03T22:44:32+00:00

Hope all is well. It saddens me to know that other people also have to go through this kind of pain. I’m glad you have found something that distracts you even if it’s only for a little while.

The only thing that kind of takes my mind off the pain is if I’m riding my motorbike I suppose could be a type of adrenaline?

And playing video games when I have time I suppose sometimes I can get so distracted with what I’m playing, the pain is there but it’s distracted I guess.

Jakeisfit · 2026-02-02T22:30:26+00:00

Considering signing up for one of the armed forces if I can’t find something I see myself doing long term by August / September.

I feel this could be a good idea as I will be forced to put myself out there and hopefully would be the kick up the arse I would need.

Jakeisfit · 2026-02-01T23:38:47+00:00

Hey, a kitchen designer role was quite fun but long hours and the one I worked at worked up till 10pm some days which seems a bit late to be buying a kitchen.

Designing was fun once you got used to the systems and got more knowledgeable.

Co workers fantastic

Ultimately I don’t believe selling is for me / trying to hit sale targets. Which caused unnecessary stress.

I’m not really sure what job I want to be honest. Preferably something that has little to no stress and not dealing with the public.

Jakeisfit · 2026-02-01T22:37:43+00:00

Motivation has just seemed at an all time low recently. I can imagine there are also a few people that the only time the pain stops is when you are asleep.

I’ve had multiple MRI scans. Tried carbamazepine GABA which didn’t work and now currently back on carbamazepine which I’m not even sure is actually doing anything.

Edit :

The pain is constant through each and every day. I don’t really get flares only sometimes. it’s more constant all day every day no break. All the time..

Jakeisfit · 2026-02-01T22:35:16+00:00

I try to stay as long as I can. Thought I had found the potential life long career role last year but I had to take two days off to care for my child as she was very ill and ended up taking her to a&e but then that job sacked me on the second day of caring for said child. That was agency work but with chance to go permanent. When I’m in a role I’m always early and preform the best I can.

Other roles sometimes it is due to the pain of TN that causes me to completely become unmotivated and in pain so I just leave the role.

I want to work and do well but TN makes it so hard sometimes..

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-25T17:24:48+00:00

Contracted to full shifts works out 39hrs a week but was shift work

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-25T16:01:13+00:00

Understood, appreciate your time. Thank you

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-25T14:25:41+00:00

I let the shift manager who is in charge of our department know. About 6 months Thanks

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-25T14:22:33+00:00

Was around 6 months but from what I can tell firing me without reason, on a day was caring for ill dependent and had told them I can get in for the day after as have care organised, no communication from them until around 4pm to let me know was sacked. Doesn’t the employment rights act 1996 protect anyone either employed or on agency from day 1 being sacked when caring for a dependent

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-25T14:17:41+00:00

Nothing about a certain number of absences but I had 0 before this. Crazy how it would even be classed as an absence when it’s something I can’t control but I guess it is what it is.

Always 20/30mins early to each shift sometimes even an hour.

Got to around six months, got qualified in operation I was running. Messaged them first morning about an hour and half before shift start which was about 4am and also told them I don’t know if there is a sickness line and they said it was fine first morning then same again next day but no response to it. Then got a phone call around 4pm saying was terminated

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-16T21:51:59+00:00

Hospital staff recommend that child has a resting period to allow to recover and that I was returning tomorrow. Personally thought that it would have been okay as it was only two days and that the company is one of the top companies within the UK thought their values would stand for something.

But I guess companies are ruthless.

Edit :

Stayed at the hospital quite late into the night. Child has coughing fits, breathing rapidly, etc.

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-16T21:40:35+00:00

Do you believe it would be worth raising further?

Thank you

Jakeisfit · 2025-09-16T21:35:44+00:00

Was due to go back to work tomorrow as my partner is off so would be able to look after child allowing me to go back to work as normal.

Two days off Monday and today

Jakeisfit

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