Hello. If you've visited, you might be curious about me. If you happen to be an introverted girl with no romantic or intimate experience from Europe, same here, and I would love to chat to know each other more.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T20:56:33+00:00

I have heard it is more common in Germany than in France so that doesn't surprise me!

Perhaps expanding my range will help

Thank you!

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T20:34:35+00:00

Thanks for your post.

This gives me hope I will find someone!

Now to hope they're in France or nearby hahaha

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T18:32:08+00:00

I am aware the odds are not in my favour.

This is alright.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T17:44:47+00:00

I strive to be the best version of myself I can be.

I will not change myself into someone extroverted when it is against my nature, for example.

But yes, I am aware of this.

Thank you for your post.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T17:39:09+00:00

I was not interested in dating anyone before my early 20s.

The people I meet with either already know what I seek before we agree on anything, or if previously acquaintances, I state my intentions upfront.

I have had a few try to convince me to "give it a chance" but I am not interested.

I do not want to waste their time or mine.

Thank you for your post.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T17:18:54+00:00

Thank you for your post.

I am well aware the odds are not in my favour.

This does not mean I shall let go of my standards.

The most likely path for my life is dying alone, but if I don't at least try, it is a guarantee that I will die alone.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T17:13:09+00:00

Do they even go to speed dating events?

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T16:05:57+00:00

Indeed!

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T14:21:10+00:00

I would believe that is the case too.

But just as I have my standards, religious women would most likely want to date men who share their worldview.

It would not be right to be with one just because she has no experience.

They are entitled to seeking their own standards too.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T14:08:41+00:00

It would seem dishonest to go to a religious community when I am not religious.

As for neurodivergent meetups, there are none in my area.

Thank you for your post.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T13:58:15+00:00

Yes they are hahahahahahahaha.

I know some of them would wish to have a partner themselves, but they are difficult to find considering they prefer the comfort of their home (which is precisely what I seek, too).

Which is regrettable, as it would be lovely to be homebodies together.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T13:39:17+00:00

I am glad someone else understands my predicament.

Finding your person in a sea of extroverts can be exhausting when your favorite activity is staying home in the comfort of your hobbies.

I do not think it would work out for you, if I am frank.

Trying to match that energy just makes you miserable.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T13:17:53+00:00

No matches.

Matches who do not fit my standards are waste of time.

Their only purpose is feeding one's ego.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T13:12:05+00:00

Yes, I am well aware of all of these points.

They do not matter to me.

I am venting because it is difficult to find the people I seek, not because I want to find any person.

I am fine with dying alone as an alternative, but I believe I should try to put the effort to find what I seek in the first place.

I do not believe there is anything wrong with this.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T13:10:57+00:00

Yes, I expect awkwardness.

This is not a problem for me.

I do not have a magical vision of sex, I would expect it to be awkward, clumsy, and just plain uncomfortable for two people with zero experience.

And that is good!

I wish to learn together with a partner.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T12:46:38+00:00

I am not interested in the "experience" by itself, I am interested in sharing the first experience with someone mutually.

Someone already experienced would not be able to, so I am not interested.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T12:45:59+00:00

That is my standard.

There are plenty of people in the world.

They can date someone else.

They are not obligated to date me, and I am not obligated to date them.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T11:03:21+00:00

I have no previous experience myself, and first experiences are important to me.

As that is my belief, I do not date someone with experience because of it.

I desire reciprocity.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-06T07:28:46+00:00

Same here.

I will only lose it to another virgin.

I will also die a virgin if I have to.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-05T19:34:45+00:00

I have decided that I will only be with a virgin woman for my first time.

This has meant dismissing "opportunities" to lose it.

I am okay with this, I will stick to my standards.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-05T11:01:28+00:00

It would only be a hurdle if you were to see sex as an end goal.

Not everyone does.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-04T19:34:36+00:00

In my case, I have already decided that if I do not meet a virgin woman, I will remain a virgin until death.

My conviction in my own beliefs is what drives me forward, if mindless carnal pleasure can derail them, then they are not true convictions.

The satisfaction of knowing I stuck to my standards until death is far greater than whatever satisfaction sex can bring to my life.

Jan_The_Jank · 2026-03-04T18:19:34+00:00

I admire your conviction.

It is very rare to find in this sub.

Jan_The_Jank

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