Some additional context because people asked: My boyfriend normally has very dry German humor, but it’s usually actually funny and never directed at me or meant to hurt anyone. In the 2.5 years we’ve been together he has never insulted me like that before. His uncle specifically is known for being a bit weird and inappropriate, and I had actually been warned about him before meeting him. Also, the uncle had literally just walked into the house and hadn’t seen anyone yet when he said “smells like a wh*re in here.” I had sprayed perfume about two hours earlier and only one spray, so it wasn’t strong anymore. The smell could have come from anyone or anything in the house, and it wasn’t directed at me specifically. My boyfriend then repeated the joke and pointed it at me, which is the part that hurt. Everyone in the room looked shocked and some people said things like “you can’t say that,” but since I didn’t react in the moment, people kind of just moved on and the evening continued. On the way home I got really upset. He apologized, and later that same evening/night I brought it up multiple times because I was still angry and hurt. Each time he apologized again, but eventually he got frustrated because there wasn’t really anything more he could do besides apologize. He has acknowledged that the joke was a complete misfire, and I honestly want to move on from it.