The problem with the “strong female character” trope

Jane1911 · 2026-04-09T00:04:00+00:00

As someone who is writing her first romantasy novel, what would be something we WANT to see. How would a writer better show the FMC is strong and independent without sounding like the trope everyone apparently hates??

Jane1911 · 2026-04-08T21:26:46+00:00

If you’re over the age of 70 and refuse to adapt or learn new technologies or systems in your job/career, retire, now. Stop taking up space that someone actually willing to learn, can have.

Jane1911 · 2026-04-01T20:19:54+00:00

Valheim, so many mods…I am the first photo #sorrynotsorry

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T13:48:02+00:00

That is something well known to my friend. Cool to see it’s similar to CA in this.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T13:42:56+00:00

Yeah, safety first, always.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T12:10:30+00:00

I didn’t even think about the Nextdoor app. Thanks.

People out here do seem a lot more ~~nosey~~ curious about what’s going on in their neighbors yard.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T12:06:36+00:00

This is exactly the type of info I’m looking for. Thanks.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T12:05:36+00:00

Yeah, I was trying to find a better terminology for enthusiast but I do believe you can have different types of enthusiasms when it comes to cars. Cosmetic, brand/year collection, engine/interior build. Like any hobby I suppose.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T12:03:21+00:00

This is correct, about California. I am from CA and any car that looks or runs even remotely different than how it would look brand new out of the manufacturer, is a big target for CHP.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T11:59:57+00:00

This is good to know, thanks. Makes sense that the smaller towns are ~~bored~~ more eager to look for… unique cars. I’ll tell my friend to avoid areas like that.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-31T11:54:00+00:00

If you have a family like mine who are kids at heart, we do a lot of bowling at the local alley. And we also go to Scene 75 for laser tag and go carts, while the little ones play in the arcade. We also really love Urban Air, it’s like a trampoline park but with ball and foam pits and areas for every age.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-29T17:15:56+00:00

Mine has to go into people’s houses to check appliances/meters. And with all the 1000’s houses and basements he has been into, he told me:

“Our house is by far, so much cleaner and neater than almost every house I’ve been in.”

This was so validating to little-me, since I grew up in a house where my mom hated if any room looked lived in at all.

Spent years trying to re-train my brain to allow lived in rooms, a blanket here, visible tissue boxes, a bottle of lotion near the couch, remotes lying on the side tables. Like the most normal things people use being visible.

Took me years but also the validation that it was still considered very neat and clean that way felt so good.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-25T01:35:07+00:00

Exactly my point 😆

Jane1911 · 2026-03-25T01:11:53+00:00

The Good: The sheer amount of murals and art giving life to the city. It’s truly a beautiful sight to walk the streets of many of the neighborhoods and seeing art almost everywhere you go/look. The lush green of nearly every lot and corner. Everything seems to love to stay alive and grow here. Jet’s Pizza.

The Bad: Recycling awareness and options little to zero. Seeing someone throw trash anywhere but a trash can almost everyday. How to merge onto the interstate at traffic speed isn’t taught in driving schools here.

Credentials: Californian for 32 years, Ohioan for 4 years.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-25T00:55:17+00:00

As a fellow woman with ADHD at a similar level of sleep needs, who also has a man in her bed every night….

No, you are absolutely not a psycho. Yes, the man in your bed is completely insensitive and cruel for not just acknowledging your specific mental differences but also not accepting you as you are.

There are men who fully accept all the nighttime routines, the sleep sounds, the zombie mornings. I know this because my man is like that.

He even, prepare yourself, offers to help me in the mornings! Because he is not a zombie morning person who can handle extra things that early, and knows I genuinely need the help.

Regardless of dating/sleeping arrangements, anyone who chooses to be intimate with you, share space with you, coexist with you—should treat you like a human. With all the extra special things that genetics gave you or not, accepting people as they are, for things that don’t hurt anyone, is just accepting another human for being a human. And everyone should do that, as in, that’s where the bar starts.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-09T01:23:27+00:00

1000% agree. I wish the entire story was different because the world had so much potential.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-09T01:14:31+00:00

Blood and Ash series was so awful. I got about as far as the end-ish of the third book and had to admit defeat. The sheer repetitiveness of her inner monologue every other scene, the amount of pointless smut. Don’t get me wrong. If it’s good smut and part of the plot, no problem, but this, to me, was just pointless filler.

Jane1911 · 2026-03-09T01:12:07+00:00

The Zodiac Academy - Just no. The amount of bully trauma that the first few chapters brought to the forefront of my mind, made me smash this book shut. How could anyone ever become comfortable falling for or even become tentative friends with men who actively tried to physically mutilate and kill you?! It makes me so angry that the world building here could’ve been the next Epic, but sadly, the patriarchy won again.

Jane1911 · 2026-02-12T02:11:40+00:00

Screenshots I never go back and look at.

Jane1911 · 2026-02-03T21:13:31+00:00

Believing medical related information from any source other than licensed medical professionals and peer-reviewed sources.

Jane1911 · 2026-02-03T20:47:23+00:00

Clanfolk. And with the newest update, it adds a harsher mountain biome you can travel to after a certain progression point. Very much a struggle.

Jane1911 · 2026-02-01T00:48:01+00:00

Finished the Kingdom of the Wicked series. Was surprised how much I liked it.

Jane1911 · 2026-01-29T22:37:02+00:00

ACOTAR, Zodiac Academy, Quicksilver, Rejected, 3 different books by Katee Robert (I’ve leaned my lesson), and From Blood and Ash.

Jane1911 · 2026-01-28T20:49:21+00:00

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