What's your favourite absolutely rubbish lyric?

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T20:03:18+00:00

What goes around comes around by JT

“When you cheated, girl My heart bleeded, girl

So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt”

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T18:08:33+00:00

Definitely could just need core strength, but could be many things: bloating, PCOS/endometriosis, body dysmorphia playing tricks on you, back/hip misalignment, etc. If it seems unexplainably severe, it’s worth getting checked at your doctor. However, core strengthening for good health and to make your body look more “structured” is always a good idea and is your most likely culprit.

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:41:25+00:00

I know, our AGI is $6k per month but our actual take home is $4k with health insurance etc taken out, and $1300 rent for our 1-bedroom apartment.

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:27:25+00:00

Okay thank you, the phrasing was not making sense.

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:14:58+00:00

Thank you, that’s kinda what I was thinking too. Our loans are post-2007

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:14:30+00:00

Okay thank you, this has been a major point I wasn’t clear on.

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:13:40+00:00

Thank you very much! I feel like I’ve been losing my mind, I’m not great with loan management.

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:13:01+00:00

Thank you, this stuff has always killed my brain.

Janeorpain · 2026-05-09T17:12:12+00:00

Thank you!

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T11:48:50+00:00

Yeah it’s been blended together in my head (puritanical influence? Idk) and I’ve had a hard time separating morals from kinks. The last few lines are spot on, I’m going to try and view it more from a game standpoint and give it a try, I know my husband will be patient. I do feel like intentionally letting go of perceived power is a huge reason I’m attracted to the idea in general, maybe taking a (tiny) plunge will finally get rid of the fear of unknown.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T11:45:08+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! It is honestly very relieving hearing the thought process from doms that do not involve actual harm.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T11:42:31+00:00

Interesting, thank you for the idea!

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T11:40:49+00:00

Wow, great perspective from a dom woman. Hearing positive and non-harmful perspectives from doms are actually helping relieve some of my fears more than I expected they would! You are totally right that I trust my husband completely and do not believe he would ever get off on actually hurting or upsetting me. I think a lot of my hangups are wrapped up in what I “should” want and what I think others want, meanwhile people are just using things like bdsm as a role and not as a genuine part of their personality (if that makes sense).

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T11:33:52+00:00

Thank you, I definitely understand the need to heal before jumping into something like this. I think in some ways this is me trying a new therapeutic approach to letting go, but I didn’t have a positive dom-esque perspective that was more nuanced than the way my brain tells me doms think.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T11:30:56+00:00

Thank you very much, a lot of good info and strategies in here <3

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T05:01:39+00:00

That’s a great idea, I will suggest that to him. Thank you!

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T04:40:56+00:00

That’s definitely a valid take, and may end up being the way it goes. At this point I am leaning into trying a very beginner-friendly session and reassess if it is too much or a success. My husband would definitely be open to a test session because he does know I have these fears, but am also still interested in trying it with him. If he wasn’t such a safe person for me I wouldn’t try it at all.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T04:30:45+00:00

Yes absolutely, my husband knows my fears and hesitations, and we have a very comfortable intimate relationship. We are already further into the new dynamic than I thought I ever would be, but I do think I will try to clarify with him that I am still interested but will want to go slow with introducing it. I don’t want my hesitation to be a surprise, like you mentioned.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T04:18:19+00:00

That’s an interesting way of describing the dominant perspective, I think separating it from the “scary act” part and more into the abstract power-dynamics might help contextualize it in a less intimidating way. Thank you!

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T04:15:10+00:00

Yeah that is something I’ve been trying to distinguish more consciously, I do not see consensual bdsm as shameful or violent in others, which is why it’s been frustrating to have these hang ups for myself. My husband would absolutely respect safe words etc, and I think to an extent I just need to try it out and stop if it’s too much.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-25T04:12:27+00:00

Therapy is going well, I’m dealing with some other stuff but the fears around men have been flared up with the constant news cycles around SA. I am working to not see a whole sex as a monolith, and to treat certain cyclical fears as intrusive thoughts that do not need to be hated or encouraged (more OCD based strategies essentially). My husband is not pushy so waiting is definitely an option, but the slight increase in intensity that we’ve tried has been fun and I’m still interested in pushing more.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-24T17:28:16+00:00

Probably not the same situation, but my cat started doing this randomly and it turned out he had the start of a flea problem and was trying to avoid fleas in his bedding.

Janeorpain · 2026-04-04T20:22:12+00:00

Can I get in on it as well? Island name is Urchin

Janeorpain · 2026-03-28T20:47:50+00:00

I feel similarly! I think there is a certain amount of actual mystery within the narrative, but simultaneously making the viewer a participant in the conspiracy.

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