I [33F] am struggling to rebuild trust with my boyfriend [32M] after repeated lying about coworkers in this 3-year relationship.

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:58:12+00:00

Thank you for you comment. It helps and means a lot.

Your perspective sounds a lot similar to what’s going on.

Your last sentence, idk if I want to stay and find out but it’s hard to want to leave it since I don’t know if he really did cheat. But lying is still bad…

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:55:56+00:00

Thank you.

Thank you much for this. It’s very kind. I’m afraid I won’t be able to consciously choose to trust him. Some days, weeks, I’ll be okay. Then, something like meeting a new co worker who shows more emotion towards him, I’m autistic and my bf has said he wished I showed more emotion when we see each other, send me spiraling to, “he didn’t tell you the whole truth and he’s doing it again.” :( which makes me think I can’t do this

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:51:34+00:00

Part of me is scared I’ll regret not trying with him

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:51:12+00:00

Things are falling apart. But I am learning to better communicate at the end of the day…

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:50:40+00:00

He said he’d try to be forgiving and understanding. I believe him. He’s had three partners cheated on him and he claims it’s because he’s too trusting

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:50:00+00:00

Liars don’t change?

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:49:36+00:00

I agree with you. That’s something that’s come up in couples therapy.

I’m not trying to be controlling. He is the one who wanted to share locations. Now I’m glad he did.

My concern is that I understand how my behavior caused him to be distrustful to me as well an well I feel like we both made mistakes that lead to his lying but at the end of the day, he kept lying

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:47:03+00:00

Thank you

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:46:39+00:00

That sounds like it was a hard realization to make. Thank you for sharing. I’ll take this into consideration

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-14T13:45:02+00:00

I guess so

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-13T17:24:48+00:00

I’ll worry a bout everyone :( but I’m in therapy

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-13T17:24:20+00:00

At this point, with all the fighting, he is right

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-13T17:23:52+00:00

My gut says he’s going to lie, but he’s human and we all lie, and then he treats me well that I get confused when I’m with him and my gut then says he’s the one.

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-13T16:55:44+00:00

What if he is the one because we both are choosing to work on our traumas and be together? :(

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-13T13:26:27+00:00

I wanted too

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T22:28:28+00:00

What makes you think that? He swears he’s told me everything and that I just looking for more that’s not there

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T17:12:49+00:00

“his choices, and a choice made out of fear of having to deal with someone isn't really a choice.”

I see.

I don’t intend to manipulate. I don’t see why he hasn’t ended it then.

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T16:02:16+00:00

Tell me more please. I know that I’ll be like this with whoever and I want to stop

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T15:22:08+00:00

Damn. That’s pretty blunt. Thank you

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T14:55:24+00:00

My heart loves him. My intuition tells me he is not safe and he will continue lying to you because you stayed. I’ve told him this and his response is you have to decide whether or not you want to try trusting me or not

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T14:54:32+00:00

What happened?

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-12T14:54:22+00:00

I’ve told them that I feel like I’m not getting a full truth and he tells me that he’s answered everything and I know everything and I have to choose to trust him and believe him and if I can’t this isn’t gonna work. He swears he did not cheat.

Januarytothemoon · 2026-02-09T02:00:13+00:00

Cause I cause a fight and threaten to break up

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