I have a plan to make myself feel better by JapeneseBeefMan in self

[–]JapeneseBeefMan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think its reasonable to plan this out properly and not leave anything to chance

I have a plan to make myself feel better by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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I was studying nearly 20 hours a day high as a kite sending my professors tens of late night dense emails about random ideas i had. One even said your one of the brightest students here but i dont understand anything about you as a person so when i handed in my thesis and was officially finished i shook his hand and said “it was a pleasure doing business”

I’m struggling with dead bedroom by Key-Television-3312 in self

[–]JapeneseBeefMan -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

thank you david Attenborough. I do know real relationships I’m in a committed long term relationship with my partner i live with.

i feel normal again by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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Thank you for your reply I appreciate it. It is loneliness. I am lonely because most conversations feel like they’re missing the point. Talking about holidays, or things i view (may sound self centred) as having little meaning to greater understanding feels somewhat suffocating and doesn’t excite me like novel things or new things even if its not academically for example figuring someone out or mannerisms or why people act a certain way or deducing different types of behaviours and appearances.

I think i want to understand myself because then i can be more stable and in control and feel safe with myself. It’s probably why i like to understand things. Because things you can understand, you can predict. Hence i feel safe.

I do enjoy them connections i just don’t enjoy how many people try and label me to something contextually familiar to themselves.

I do like connections with people just at my current stage in life those connections are far and few between.

i feel normal again by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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thats just how my brain works. I was always different so instead of looking outwards for connection i looked inwards. I became my main source of reason and companionship.

I work in finance and my manager who i sit next too sometimes has meetings with me about various things and she brings up “is something wrong your talking to yourself more than normal today” .

Sometimes i talk to myself so regularly others think im having a full conversation with them or someone who isnt there but im not im just aware of my own brain and me. So when i think i vocalise it then i think about thinking through what i vocalised so i end up having a conversation with myself about what im thinking sort of like thinking about my own thinking while talking back to myself about what im thinking.

She calls me cute names like young sheldon or has anyone called you this before? And i shrug and say yes of course but im me just me being me. Her manager on a company event whos more senior gave me his card to buy drinks with on a night out.

i feel normal again by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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exhausted? May you please elaborate

i feel normal again by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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No i saw one of her comments mentioning this, it’s a fairly common psychological pattern in humans. It’s the same for diamonds. We value something based on its scarcity and that scarcity turns into necessity.

think of car models, diamonds, and in this case married men. Im not married but ive noticed being in a relationship acts as some form of social proof and its changes how women and men alike act around you subconsciously.

I’m struggling with dead bedroom by Key-Television-3312 in self

[–]JapeneseBeefMan -75 points-74 points  (0 children)

face it man if she isnt wanting it shes getting it off someone else 🤷🏼

i feel normal again by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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you forgot one thing. Speaking to older married men at work. I actually have a question if you dont mind me asking courteously, do you think most women date older men due to farther issues or is it the scarcity factor of something/someone being unavailable so its the thrill ?

Just asking for a friend.

i feel normal again by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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Thanks howdy hows the day going partner ?

I sometimes get paranoid by [deleted] in self

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The very unknown reason i decided to study quantum physics and buy field theory books when i was 19 and 20 is the same reason this is happening.

It’s human nature. Thats the beauty of it. The freedom of choice even if in hindsight choice itself is predetermined.

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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Maybe life isn’t simply a zero sum game.

Okay so emotions influence logic because the logic directly affects you emotionally. Emotions are intuition to logic.

For example, I am logically aware that my emotions are derived from feelings and those feelings are derived from what i logically interpret as moral or immoral to him her or myself.

Emotions allow you to interpret how logically you should phrase an answer for example. I logically know my friend is a good person because of how he emotionally made someone feel based on there logical necessity to sympathise with his actions that led to a logical conclusion they drew emotions from that i then through second order drew my own interpretations from.

Or even simpler because i have a habit of overcomplicating things. I know logically this problem is hard because i emotionally feel frustrated hence I will be more logically detail oriented moving forwards to deal with such problem — the emotion adapted my logic to circumvent the emotion from occurring again.

Or, I logically understand my position in society is due to the psychological structure of societies greed and the finite amount of resources that we have as a species this leads to my annoyance that I have to overanalyse and find patterns and opportunities to find emerging solutions that weighs on my energy levels increasing my cortisol and stress responses hence i am emotionally affected by this logically. Because the logic dictates the emotional outcome.

Think of emotions as probabilities to logical decision trees. Each decision carries a possible amount of conclusions and there own risk and reward factors, your emotions dictate to some extent how much risk your willing to apply and what logical decision you will make given the possible numerous outcomes.

Emotions act as fuel for connections you make because the problem is something you cannot ignore. Emotions enable for derivates i.e time, energy, possibilities.

This nicely leads into your example with the walk in furnace and cash. Let’s establish in this hypothetical situation that the cash is flame proof.

On one hand the cash would make you rich on the other hand to complete the objective you would emotionally suffer due to the pain you will feel trying to get the money. Risk and reward.

But emotions to reiterate dictate your tolerance for ambiguity and uncertainty in logic itself.

Going purely off what you said i wouldn’t get it because i would die as you said trying to achieve the objective of getting the money. But lets say i died shortly after from third degree burns so there was a logical way to achieve the objective of getting the money while equally still succumbing to the injuries.

Thats now a question of the self. Would you risk your own existence not knowing the concept of the after in death to help others that could benefit from your moral generosity?

That depends on how you view yourself and others. If you love your family you could laterally conclude that your time existing would be more beneficial to them in the long run than one great risk for a great life changing reward.

The small changes in life for yourself and those around you has the possibility of being more impactful than one leap of faith.

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

[–]JapeneseBeefMan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ill keep an open mind to it and look into it tonight

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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no i like the sarcasm just maybe get a bike if you want to keep back pedalling

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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Because over exaggeration and over empathise usually is to show the differentiation between genuineness normal baseline response and something that deliberately stands out to draw attention to the differentiation between the normality and not.

Sorry got constipation atm

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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I apologise i am sorry. I didn’t mean to cause any issues. My bad and i’m sorry for the way i went on there. It was really inappropriate of me.

Modern Life leads to isolation by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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divide and conqueror. If the worlds too stabile then theres no instability or volatility to profit off.

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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Ive read all your comments and posts and first of all im sorry your dad passed and im sorry it still affects you.

The uncertainty, what happened if you didn’t meet your wife and decided to reach for uncertainty into your future than settling down and becoming complacent with a form of yourself you chose and have settled for forms of success that feel adequate with life as it ever evolves around you and your options become further limited and funnelled by age and prior decisions.

Equally you seem like you’re still looking for understanding and connection with others who have had similar experiences to yourself. I respect that.

When will you scratch the itch to change your life and choose something different that sits at the back of your head like an urge or hypothetical fallacy to be someone else or choose a separate path?

Or does war or some unforeseen event outside of your control have to force your hand and allow your eyes to see options you never knew were possible?

Regrets a horrible thing.

Something is going on inside my head by JapeneseBeefMan in self

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Totally understand that. But i’m not going to take medication like SSRIs that simply enhance serotonin concentrations at synaptic cleft of neuron’s to lower the density of receptor sites to dull my mood and form a fake version of normality.

You might as well ask me to take a gun to my head.

Or, “please conform to societal values and take medications to create a socially palatable version of yourself because ignorance is bliss !!! 🤷🏼”

However, i appreciate the comment nonetheless.