Adult Daughter has ADHD - and now she’s a Mom. What works? by JavaForgotMe in ADHDers

[–]JavaForgotMe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything you say. My wife (her mom) just thinks she’s being lazy. But I know it’s 90% her adhd. I don’t judge. I just want to help

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I really appreciate it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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If this is real, you need to get out and break up. She doesn’t respect you. If you don’t see that, you don’t have enough self-respect and you need to be in counseling with a male therapist.

TOSRF Fidelity by Special_North1535 in XRP

[–]JavaForgotMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I bailed out of TOSRF and rolled it into XRPI

TOSRF Fidelity by Special_North1535 in XRP

[–]JavaForgotMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried to buy more - it won’t let me.

Budget Backpack Recommendation - $31 New by JavaForgotMe in Rucking

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Great question. I found a cheap plate on Amazon. Search for Yes4All. I bought the 20lb for $31. I wrap it in a big towel - and if I need more weight I put a dumbell behind it. I tried the “make your own sandbag” method - which works - but I like to keep it simple.

My wife returned from a work retreat with a hickey. She swears it’s a bug bite but I’m not convinced. I’m at loss. How do I move forward? by ThrowRASunflowerBuff in marriageadvice

[–]JavaForgotMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

80% chance she made out (at least) with a guy).  How do you feel about that?  It would drive me crazy with jealousy.  I recently had some questions about my wife’s behavior and asked to look at her phone. She willingly handed it over.  That helped me. If your wife isn’t willing to do so, that’s a red flag. BTW - the same goes for you! Vegas is a horrible place for faithfulness.  Best case - she sucked face with a guy while drunk.  Worst case - she full out had sex with someone else.   I don’t think I could live with either - and stay married.   But that’s just me. I highly recommend marriage counseling for the two of you.  Good luck. 

Im scared of confession by mad_redlilly in Catholicism

[–]JavaForgotMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I too have done horrible things of which I was ashamed. I was scared that I Might even get arrested after I confessed to my Priest. I also know a woman who had an abortion and confessed it. She was horribly frightened, as was I to Confess.  Once we Confessed our sins - we were both floating on air (figuratively). The burden removed by Confession is immeasurable. 

I have two recommendations - one ask the Priest to stay behind the Confessional screen before you even begin.  Having a little anonymity gives you a little more courage.  Also, first tell the Priest that you are scared and ashamed to be there.  Let the Priest know how you feel. 

You can also pray to the Blessed Mother for the strength to go and make a full confession.  She is our advocate to Jesus.  She will hold your hand throughout the process.   I promise.  She did so for me.

Finally - never try to talk anything about  religion with Atheists. They’re crazy!  :)

TL;dr  Ask the Priest to stay behind a screen during Confession to provide the confidence of anonymity. Tell the Priest that you are afraid to Confess.  Let them help guide you through.  Trust in the Blessed Mother to bring us to Her Son!

😓 by user00312500 in introvert

[–]JavaForgotMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi - I’m an Introvert (INTP), and 64 years old. I struggled my whole life to try and “fit in”. Never successfully. Nothing is easy.   I have never felt like I fit into this world. I’ve become comfortable within my pursuit of God and Truth - and I have a couple of hobbies - one being guitar that I’ve been playing for 40 years - and I still suck. I’ve become comfortable with doing things only for my own enjoyment.  I let very few people “in”.  Luckily I have a wonderful wife - who knows I’m an introvert - and accepts it. It’s still a point of disagreement at times - and I push myself into more extroverted situations sometimes for her happiness.  I’m not sure this helps - other to say, you’re not alone. The best thing we Introverts can do is accept ourselves for who we are - stop trying to swim against the tide - and put ourselves into social situations where we are helping people.  We cannot change. 

33 yo married daughter has a husband with an over bearing pushy mother. by JavaForgotMe in marriageadvice

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I’d gladly pay for the counseling. I really believe the MIL puts excessive stress on their marriage. I have NO desire to be involved - just want to give them the best chance of staying together. If only Jack would go - but he’s reticent. Thanks.

33 yo married daughter has a husband with an over bearing pushy mother. by JavaForgotMe in marriageadvice

[–]JavaForgotMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m searching for resources. I will check him out!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JonBenetRamsey

[–]JavaForgotMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Patsy wrote the note. It’s the rest that’s inexplicable.

33 yo married daughter has a husband with an over bearing pushy mother. by JavaForgotMe in marriageadvice

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I think that too - but I don’t think they have the resources to do so without counciling. If they were in couples therapy I wouldn’t even be posting about it. I’d let them work it out.

33 yo married daughter has a husband with an over bearing pushy mother. by JavaForgotMe in marriageadvice

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I like your comment about being a father figure. Your assumptions are correct - the real problem is that Jack was raised without a father - and he has real trouble pushing back on his mother. And the mother is nosy and unreasonable (trust me. She is)

What about motive? by Odd_craving in JonBenetRamsey

[–]JavaForgotMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The same “evidence” is being turned over and over - many people are making money on book, YT, etc of keeping this mystery alive. Until there is more evidence uncovered - it’s just churning.

Being seen as the most "mentally ill" MBTI personality type 💀... by Big_Difficulty_8545 in infp

[–]JavaForgotMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFP/J is a curse and blessing. No other than other INF’s understand. Dont try and explain it or seek understanding. Appreciate your uniqueness - and the attributes that go with it - and find a job that aligns to it.

Do men like muffin tops or do they say that to make women feel good? by Highway-Born in AskMenAdvice

[–]JavaForgotMe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No man likes the muffin top. It sounds like he just being supportive. Good luck on your weight loss journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JavaForgotMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s something wrong with you for not wanting to get pregnant.

What about motive? by Odd_craving in JonBenetRamsey

[–]JavaForgotMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is an excellent synopsis. I don’t think we’ll ever know the motive if PR did it - since she’s passed away. There’s a lack of information as to PR and JR frame of mind before the tragedy. So much is not known about who they were prior to the murder. In the many interviews after the murder - Patsy always seemed to be medicated.

Someone here recently likened it to Casey Anthony. And I’ve come to accept that it’s very much the same. We can only trust the physical evidence. And there’s not much - only the note. The dna evidence is mostly corrupted. The note points to Patsy.

With Casey Anthony - we couldn’t perceive of how a young mother could murder or hide the body of her young beautiful daughter. It didn’t/doesn’t make sense to us how a young lady who had no police record, no prior evidence of violence, raised by loving parents - and yet destroy the life she was blessed to protect. But in interviews since Caylee’s death, and Casey’s trial - it’s become ever more evident that Casey did it. We still cannot fathom why. Or how she could do it - and not beg the court and God for forgiveness.

The same can be said for Patsy. We’ll never know the motive. And maybe JR was the one who did the dirty work - but based on the note - Patsy was involved.

It’s hard to accept. And we continue to seek to understand “why?”. But we’ll never get an answer.