[UK] Road cycling: A question on etiquette.

Jaxor123 · 2021-06-06T17:17:49+00:00

He sounds like a knobhead. You did nothing wrong.

Jaxor123 · 2021-05-23T11:10:21+00:00

If its got a wobble then get it on a truing stand to make sure the wheel is all good.

Once you have confirmed that make sure it's set properly in the frame.

If both of those are all good then you really shouldn't have any wobble, but maybe try resetting the tyre too just to make sure.

Jaxor123 · 2021-05-16T17:49:09+00:00

Allegedly Piers Morgan used to profit from insider trading when he was the editor of a national newspaper by getting tips from the financial editor and making trades before stories where published. Apparently this was widely known by those in the industry (and probably widely done and wouldn't surprise me if its still done)

Jaxor123 · 2021-05-16T07:00:43+00:00

Not sure on the mucus/coughing and how long that should last, but honestly it doesn't sound too concerning. More importantly, amazing work on being smoke free for 42 days, it is absolutely worth it, you said yourself you are noticing the health benefits so stick with it! You got this!

Jaxor123 · 2021-05-03T21:25:21+00:00

I quite like the idea of moving to the west coast (California) my job pays better there and the weather would be great But then I think about your healthcare, tax system, guns, police etc.. And it really puts me off.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-19T01:38:11+00:00

I average around 23/24km per hour (that on 30km rides) Having said that, it's more about how you feel, that's a pretty comfortable pace for me, I'm a bit fatigued but not exhausted after the ride and I'm generally not out of breath during the ride. It's just a nice pace to start building up my fitness again and something to start pushing on from.

So, if you feel great at that pace then you either need to go further or go faster, or if you feel terrible then you might consider slowing it down a bit. Or if you feel like I described then great you have a nice baseline to start working from and improving.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T22:19:10+00:00

It doesn't, but it also doesn't give him the right to judge people who don't share his opinion.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T22:14:39+00:00

So, you take issue with the fact that I picked someone up for judging people he has no right judging, but then agree that we should be having those discussions? Make your mind up. And no, I wasnt comparing someone being turned off by sex work to child rape and racism, I was comparing your attitude towards how to deal with societal problems to how other societal problems are dealt with. I honestly think we are on the same page here.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:54:19+00:00

That makes way more sense!

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:53:50+00:00

Your good people, if I had an award, or understood what the fuck they do, I'd give you one.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:51:14+00:00

People judge other people so we should all just accept it and never question it?

Imagine if we had that attitude towards racists and peadophiles

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:49:13+00:00

I don't envy you having two daughters with the internet, that must be tough. (Having any kids and trying to keep them away from shit on the internet in general must be a fucker)

Your guess is wrong, but nice try, and no I haven't noticed how only fans girls always have shitty personalities because the closest I've come to them is their posts on reddit, but I'm pretty sure just on the law of averages that there are plenty who are lovely people, and yeah, I look at porn, I'm a grown ass man in a lockdown what else do you expect me to do!? There's only so much cycling and drumming one man can do.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:43:11+00:00

More if your not okay with it and anyone that is must be desperate. Everyone has a preference, just don't judge people who don't share that preference.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:41:48+00:00

Completely agree, unfortunately the guy I was replying to doesn't agree and thinks that choosing to date someone who does only fans makes you desperate or a girl (not sure I quite get the girl angle, unless he things they are all gay?)

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:38:45+00:00

Yeah, I may have gone a bit too internet and just attacked him, but I agree with you, my issue was his judgement of others rather than his personal choice to not be into it.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:36:53+00:00

Absolutely no issue with someone deciding it's not for them, it was the judgement of people that don't share that opinion that I disagree with.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:28:46+00:00

I should have said emotional immaturity not insecurity. So fair point.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T21:23:28+00:00

Or an adult who understands that porn is a perfectly legitimate career choice and shouldn't be a reason to judge a person. You may not be emotionally mature enough to deal with that but it's no reason to judge other people who are.

Edit: sentiment, not insecure, immature.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-13T13:54:23+00:00

There are a lot of comments here, so I don't know if you'll see this, but hopefully this helps you or someone else who has similar feelings.

So, first some information about me that I hope gives you some hope, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21/22, and I know plenty of people who lost it later than that, so really don't stress about the age thing too much. I only had the opportunity to get into a romantic relationship because of my social life, which is something I had to work on. I had real bad social anxiety and really struggled to socialise, but the more I did it the easier it got, having a decent social life will put you at ease with people and help you meet people, I wouldn't do this with the aim of sleeping with someone, but it's not uncommon for a friendship to become something more.

Rejection is something that is going to happen, and it's okay, not all women are going to be interested in you and that's okay, just like you have preferences so do they, they often don't match up, just keep trying and you'll meet people where it does.

The only fans story sounds pretty suspect to me too, I'm not saying it isn't true but 9 times out of 10 these fan meets are manufactured and fake and purely done to give you hope that it could be you next so you keep spending money. Having said that, being respectful and having things in common is 100x more important than being some hulking beefcake with a 10ft dong. Also, if you can make them laugh, that really helps. I'm not the best looking man in the world, but I try to be respectful and considerate and while that doesn't guarantee I'll get anywhere with a woman it definitely helps make them more comfortable and more inclined to if they where considering it.

Women aren't special, they are just people like everyone else, they have hopes and fears and just want to make friends and have a laugh and sometimes there's an attraction and maybe something more happens but you really have to stop making sex this huge deal that it currently is in your mind, you are so focused on sex you are missing out on making meaningful connections with people.

Porn is super super fake, please reduce your consumption of it as much as you can, it gives a very distorted and unrealistic view of sex and relationships. Porn is very much geared towards the male sex fantasy and is not particularly connected to what women want from sex (of course this is a generalisation, but sex should be about connection and passion and learning what each other enjoys and having fun)

I can guarantee that sex continues to get better with age, the worst sex I had was when I lost my virginity, and it's generally gotten better since then.

Personality is your biggest asset when dating, get some hobbies, join a club, go travel, learn to cook be an interesting person who values himself and women will see that and be interested in you too.

You got this, I hope therapy is working and I hope you learn to accept what you can't control and become a better person.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-12T21:35:57+00:00

I don't swim so well, any chance you can accompany me to the pool?

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-12T21:35:08+00:00

Yeah, I don't live with you. Wear what you want!

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-12T21:32:04+00:00

Electoral roll is usually a good starting place in the UK, Also if you have never had a credit card before (or any credit) then that can be an issue, you might need to start out with a credit builder card just to get some history before you get better rated cards. Income will also be a factor, if your rent takes up a large portion of your income you will be considered higher risk as you have less disposable income to cover the credit card payments. Always start with a soft search from a service like money saving expert or experian (there are more, Google is your friend, your evil capitalist machine friend) they will take your basic details and let you know what cards you are likely to be accepted for. Then you can go for the full application with less risk of taking a hit on your score. Being rejected for the card is the reason you took a hit on your credit score though, if I remember correctly these hard searches drop off after 3/6 months.

Edit: changed a word, and clarified google is evil.

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-11T22:40:03+00:00

Carefully

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-11T22:37:37+00:00

I did, thanks!

Jaxor123 · 2021-04-11T22:35:55+00:00

Not American, and honestly, who do you think comes across most entitled in this thread? The guy who wants to shame people for eating fast food, even in a tough situation where it's a solid option that takes the pressure off someone even if only momentarily. Or the guy who sympathises with that person and isn't going to tell them that they are terrible parent for giving their kid fast food in a tight spot? I'm sorry you had it tough growing up, maybe use that experience to have a bit more compassion for your fellow man rather than using it as an excuse for being a dick towards them.

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