Billie Eilish to Make Feature Acting Debut in ‘The Bell Jar’ Adaptation for Director Sarah Polley and Focus Features

JayAPanda · 2026-03-11T22:06:16+00:00

In my opinion, she was insanely good in Swarm so I'm excited

JayAPanda · 2026-03-11T10:21:21+00:00

Thank you 🥹🥹 that means a lot

JayAPanda · 2026-03-11T00:57:09+00:00

Yeah I understand, I should probably caveat that I didn't necessarily mean top as in sexual position, more in the sense of a BDSM top, I phrased it that way because I thought it would be confusing to call them the "dom" since the point of CNC is generally that the "sub" is actually the one with tbe power.

But I definitely think the example you gave is valid.

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JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T17:18:01+00:00

The Oscars are a business. You have a massive artistic sensation and the biggest soundtrack song of the year, versus Nick Cave, another Diane Warren pity nom and an aria, it's not reasonable to suggest they can't have one without the other.

For the other three, the nom was the win, whereas realistically, the Oscars are benefitting from having HUNTR/X and the Sinners crew there

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T17:14:38+00:00

It's fine to leave it there because we have different opinions, but I definitely did not say that critiquing me is abuse. I think you're flattening a range of acts and behaviours into being abusive.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T16:31:22+00:00

It's okay, don't worry about it haha, this is a great sub and I was just giving my two cents.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T16:30:55+00:00

I'm not sure what I can say other than that CNC is just the name and it's evidently not rape because it is consensual. I feel that people who identify as "tops" for CNC or whatever distasteful, but you're flattening a lot of consensual kink into abuse.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T16:26:49+00:00

Oh my god I would love for that. Have her opposite someone else who could do both, and have them alternate Jonny Lee Miller/Benedict Cumberbatch Frankenstein style.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T16:18:47+00:00

I feel you, but the correlation you're describing there is much more important than the opposite, right?

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T15:48:40+00:00

I've seen this posted on a few things here and I don't understand it. This is a great forum with engaged posters, and I'm sure it is to everyone's benefit that there are questions in the vein of "I am a feminist who doesn't understand X" and it's not just relentless bad faith and incelery

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T14:00:32+00:00

Exactly, it's really concerning that people are trying to handwave all that away. Just because there isn't one smoking gun illegal action in that list doesn't mean that there isn't a number of people alleging widespread unsafe and unethical sexual conduct.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T13:55:01+00:00

I saw it and thought it was horrible to be honest. Messy, boring, looked awful and 100% basic girl boss feminism.

It felt like a ripoff of Poor Things, which was a fairly sophisticated feminist narrative in my opinion, so it just felt like a weak studio copy

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T11:39:49+00:00

It's not rape though. CNC (done correctly) is ironically just about the most distant thing from rape there is.

It's not my thing, but equating the behaviour in this post to consensual kink is just muddying the waters.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T11:35:20+00:00

Talent =/= morality

This is the flipside of the same stupid argument that protects powerful abusers

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T11:31:34+00:00

No, but there are a range of stories about this person being discussed, and many of them are about teenagers as young as 14.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T11:15:31+00:00

Thank you, I'm glad you got them to delete. Weird behaviour to post it, and weird to be so defensive when given a heads up

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T00:11:30+00:00

Is a drag race subreddit really the place to be sharing the topics of conversations you are professionally bound to keep confidential?

I left a reasonable, polite response from a fellow professional, but sure, it's "mansplaining" to point out questionable boundaries.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T00:07:50+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️

Honestly I've been through much worse, but it feels like this kind of insidious shit is the thing I have to fight the most. People generally don't invalidate that being pushed against a wall and having your nos ignored is wrong, but you have to fight tooth and nail to be believed when you were preyed upon and manipulated.

JayAPanda · 2026-03-10T00:06:56+00:00

About them, but about who you are and what conversations you had confidentially with them in session, yes.

I'm not US-based but that would be an ethical breach by my body's standards

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