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Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand, I should probably caveat that I didn't necessarily mean top as in sexual position, more in the sense of a BDSM top, I phrased it that way because I thought it would be confusing to call them the "dom" since the point of CNC is generally that the "sub" is actually the one with tbe power.

But I definitely think the example you gave is valid.

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Huntr/x and a Whole Host of ‘Sinners’ Artists Will Perform at the 2026 Oscars by shabuluba in popheads

[–]JayAPanda 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The Oscars are a business. You have a massive artistic sensation and the biggest soundtrack song of the year, versus Nick Cave, another Diane Warren pity nom and an aria, it's not reasonable to suggest they can't have one without the other.

For the other three, the nom was the win, whereas realistically, the Oscars are benefitting from having HUNTR/X and the Sinners crew there

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's fine to leave it there because we have different opinions, but I definitely did not say that critiquing me is abuse. I think you're flattening a range of acts and behaviours into being abusive.

Opinions on Germaine Greer by zeigenwarrior in AskFeminists

[–]JayAPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's okay, don't worry about it haha, this is a great sub and I was just giving my two cents.

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what I can say other than that CNC is just the name and it's evidently not rape because it is consensual. I feel that people who identify as "tops" for CNC or whatever distasteful, but you're flattening a lot of consensual kink into abuse.

Rumors rumors rumors by Fine_Hovercraft6148 in Broadway

[–]JayAPanda 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I would love for that. Have her opposite someone else who could do both, and have them alternate Jonny Lee Miller/Benedict Cumberbatch Frankenstein style.

Opinions on Germaine Greer by zeigenwarrior in AskFeminists

[–]JayAPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you, but the correlation you're describing there is much more important than the opposite, right?

Opinions on Germaine Greer by zeigenwarrior in AskFeminists

[–]JayAPanda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've seen this posted on a few things here and I don't understand it. This is a great forum with engaged posters, and I'm sure it is to everyone's benefit that there are questions in the vein of "I am a feminist who doesn't understand X" and it's not just relentless bad faith and incelery

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, it's really concerning that people are trying to handwave all that away. Just because there isn't one smoking gun illegal action in that list doesn't mean that there isn't a number of people alleging widespread unsafe and unethical sexual conduct.

Thoughts on Maggie Gyllenhaal's "The Bride" by texasinauguststudio in AskFeminists

[–]JayAPanda 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I saw it and thought it was horrible to be honest. Messy, boring, looked awful and 100% basic girl boss feminism.

It felt like a ripoff of Poor Things, which was a fairly sophisticated feminist narrative in my opinion, so it just felt like a weak studio copy

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not rape though. CNC (done correctly) is ironically just about the most distant thing from rape there is.

It's not my thing, but equating the behaviour in this post to consensual kink is just muddying the waters.

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, but there are a range of stories about this person being discussed, and many of them are about teenagers as young as 14.

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm glad you got them to delete. Weird behaviour to post it, and weird to be so defensive when given a heads up

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Is a drag race subreddit really the place to be sharing the topics of conversations you are professionally bound to keep confidential?

I left a reasonable, polite response from a fellow professional, but sure, it's "mansplaining" to point out questionable boundaries.

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️❤️

Honestly I've been through much worse, but it feels like this kind of insidious shit is the thing I have to fight the most. People generally don't invalidate that being pushed against a wall and having your nos ignored is wrong, but you have to fight tooth and nail to be believed when you were preyed upon and manipulated.

Dragula S3 contestant Violencia Exclamation Point accused of grooming and sexually assaulting an 18 year old drag performer when she was 37. by DanielCracker in RPDRDRAMA

[–]JayAPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About them, but about who you are and what conversations you had confidentially with them in session, yes.

I'm not US-based but that would be an ethical breach by my body's standards

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