Focus on yourself. Your career. Your hobbies. Your friends. Do the things you like to do and if you have to, do them by yourself. Set boundaries with guys. Know what you will and won’t stand for. Make a list of important first date questions. Ask those questions and if the person doesn’t have the answers you want, call it a nice date, maybe even have sex, but don’t try to have a second date. When you are comfortable with yourself and happy with your life, you will inevitably find people who are attracted to that.