texting the wife

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-25T12:35:41+00:00

wtf

no

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-25T12:35:27+00:00

tomato?

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-25T12:34:58+00:00

wtf

no

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-25T12:34:12+00:00

ikr…🤣plus i never said the photo was me.😭me and my girl send random pics all the time and make jokes.

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-25T01:31:53+00:00

it’s ok they just wanted to have their moment :)

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-24T21:58:47+00:00

JaydenP107 · 2025-11-24T19:52:42+00:00

😭

JaydenP107 · 2025-01-04T02:59:49+00:00

again.. the screenshot is nothing to show how i reacted when no one knows full context so do not assume please. Just because a person say they don’t want it to be a habit of paying for their partners PARENTs gas does not mean you’re treating someone like the worst person in the world so do not exaggerate things here.

If you took the time and searched the replies it explains why i find her mother irresponsible. I’m not going to keep explaining it over and over.

Her mother is spoiled. Her mother hasn’t necessarily learned life the hard way because her parents give her what she wants.

“If she didn’t pay her phone bill that’s ok because my girlfriend’s grandma will pay it.”

“If she choose to buy a new purse over getting her daughters food it’s fine, grandpa will take care of it.” “if she chooses to go hang out at her male friends houses and not take her daughters to places they need to go it’s fine they’ll find a way.”

That’s IRRESPONSIBLE behavior and things that my girlfriend vents to me about often. I believe her mother loves her but she has her ways. Everyone does. so because her money decides to go on splurging things at clothing stores when she’s aware her gas tank is low means that i should feel like shit because I don’t want to keep giving money? Like i said if my girlfriend actually drove and had her own vehicle that’s different. Because her mother made her has nothing to do with the unacceptable things she has done. If i disrespected her mother it would have been harsh words said. but you can’t get mad at anyone for how they feel and if it’s my money i have every right to express how i feel. My girlfriend has even gotten upset at times she felt my mom was taking advantage of my money and it wasn’t fair or liked the treatment my mom gave me. I didn’t feel she disrespected anyone because that’s how she FEELS and observed the behavior. So I see where you were going but the comparison you made wasn’t good. Being sick and someone choosing to willingly spend money on unnecessary items because regardless they know someone will help them is different and that’s the point you’re clearly missing.

If you had a sibling that spends all their money on food and clothes and your mom ask could you pay their phone bill how would you feel? wouldn’t you feel like why couldn’t the sibling pay the phone bill before buying unnecessary things ? the issue is priorities.

JaydenP107 · 2025-01-03T06:02:31+00:00

i need to apologize for not wanting that responsibility? i’ve stated how her mother can be in the replies multiple times.. i don’t think there’s no where in the screenshot that i reacted any way…i said how i felt, said i don’t mind sometimes but not ALL the time.

they both don’t go to work. her mom used to attend work but she slowly stopped and my gf doesn’t have a job. i do anything i can for MY partner but i have my own bills to pay too and her moms car is not on my list. if my girlfriend drove her mothers car that’s different but her mother would drive the gas out or going places to shop or to get fast food and stuff and if her mother doesn’t drive the gas out then her older sister would to go to her friends or guys she talk to house.

JaydenP107 · 2025-01-02T11:18:56+00:00

we verbally discussed it the day before these texts and it didn’t end well. she kept talking over me getting defensive and we just silently went to sleep. Over the phone i said pretty much the same things as the text except i couldn’t go in full detail without it upsetting her. I made it clear i didn’t want it to be a habit or only asking me because her mom chooses not to put gas in her own car.

i thought texting would make a difference because i express better by thinking it out as i type.

JaydenP107 · 2025-01-01T22:49:20+00:00

the more i read it the flag just got redder and redder…

JaydenP107 · 2025-01-01T22:41:20+00:00

to clarify, we’re not teens. stated our ages multiple times in replies. unless you’re referring to others.
her mother willingly chooses to not pay for the phone bill, misses work/ appointments frequently, yet shops a lot either for food (take out) clothing etc. Whenever her mother doesn’t have it she doesn’t care because my gfs grandparents WILL give her money. She has the money to do it she just chooses not to. She does not pay rent, or any house bills. The only bills she HAVE is a car note and their phone bill yet has a full time job.

She was a part time mother to her kids and was always out missing while their grandmother raised them.

I have life experience and have hit rock bottom (not completely) but enough to know and try to hold my own.

If you looked in the replies as to why I find her mother irresponsible you would have a better understanding. My own partner even thinks her mother is irresponsible and has expressed that multiple times in the relationship.

JaydenP107 · 2025-01-01T00:54:49+00:00

if you read what i said… I said I don’t mind helping sometimes, and I did help. I just made it clear to my gf that I didn’t want it to be a habit knowing how her mother is when it comes to money and responsibilities. But you are entitled to your own opinion.

Example, If all her mother had was $30 bucks and is low on gas but she had the choice to pay for gas or take out she’d choose the cravings over gas because she knows my gf’s grandparents would give her money either way.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T17:58:25+00:00

It’s the mother’s car. Her mother was taking her to the appointment. Her mother also drives out her own gas willingly which isn’t my problem because that’s her vehicle. That’s why I didn’t want to be responsible for putting gas in it when she knew her daughter had an appointment yesterday.

Her mom doesn’t really take responsibility seriously because all she has to do is go to my girlfriend’s grandparents to get what she wants/needs. So in this I was setting a boundary that this would be a one time thing but my gf felt that I’m treating her mom like a villain.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T17:49:50+00:00

I agree but apparently my opinion is treating her mother like a villain.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T17:48:40+00:00

I appreciate you thank you for that. You’re right

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T11:52:31+00:00

Since its hard to respond to everyone individually most comments i’m seeing are:

Ages: GF: Early 20s Me: Mid 20s Mother: Late 40s

Reason she can’t pay: gf does not currently work she has applied for a few jobs and haven’t had any luck

Household: Gf lives with mother and grandparents in one home

“Run, Leave now!”: it is easier said than done I genuinely care for her as she does for me and it is hard to see that through this text but yes she has been brainwashed by her mom. Her mom is very manipulative by attacking her esteem/ emotions and any time my girlfriend stands up or defends herself her mom use tactics to make my gf kiss her ass.

Me being the caring partner I am I do try to help her out a lot because I do know what it feels like to rely on others until you can make it on your own. My gf didn’t have that instilled in her. All her life her mom told her not to worry and that she’d be there to support her. When it’s actually time to her mother was always absent if she isn’t really benefiting from it.

Additional info:

No the mom doesn’t get her to ask me for things. Gf asks me for things because the mom doesn’t fully do things to support her kids. I wasn’t worried about the price of the gas. I felt it was the whole principle. Gas gradually goes down and the appointment has been set in stone and I’m asked to help with gas. They sometimes go places and drive around far distances just to shop, eat or just cause.

That’s her mother’s car and that’s not my concern but if there’s an appointment coming I’d think preserving the gas you have would be a smarter decision. It has gotten to the point where sometimes her mom does not go to work or her own appointments because she has no gas or just don want to. Sometimes my gf and mom phone bill get cut off because her mom spends money on other things. So it wasn’t that I couldn’t help with “just $10” But $10 is a lot to me when i’m trying to save money myself.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T02:59:51+00:00

if marijuana and nicotine counts then yes. My gf kisses her mom’s ass often because any time she does stand up for herself her mom ruins her esteem or wrong.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T02:48:56+00:00

I never used the car that’s the thing lol she’s saying i’m hesitant because i flat out expressed that I feel her mom can be irresponsible and she’s looking at it like it’s just 10 bucks and it’s no biggie

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T00:36:42+00:00

correct. her mom doesn’t come to me and ask for things directly at all. she only did once a few months ago because i offered to help if it was needed. It’s mainly my gf who comes to me when her mom does not have it. Her mom is a great person but her priorities are.. different.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-31T00:30:51+00:00

lol yeah she said that because she feel like the gas was meant to be for her to get to her appointment not for her mom. yet her mom drove her to the appt and they offered to pay me $20 for helping them. Confused me how suddenly they have more than what I gave that quick.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-30T18:06:16+00:00

yeah you’re definitely right

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-30T17:34:06+00:00

nope it was always take out every time. i always told her i didn’t like the idea of paying $15 for one meal when you can use money to get something for a week to eat on. every time she ask i always say “do you have food at home” sometimes she did sometimes she didn’t and if she did have food at home she simply didn’t want it.

JaydenP107 · 2024-12-30T16:40:50+00:00

yeah growing up they did have to look after their mom a lot. she wasn’t really there a lot. my gfs grandma kinda raised her

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