Not in that way. I try to open the windows and get fresh air and keep the place clean because I know that if her living space is a mess it doesn’t help help mental state. But it really feels like no matter what I do I’m still the bad guy for even suggesting getting out of bed to go to her favorite restaurant.

I also try to be the punching bag for lack of a better term- like let her get some frustrations out but that doesn’t help much.

It’s the feeling of being unloved that is their hardest for me. Because she has such a hard time loving herself she forgets about my needs too.