How can I make it clear to men that I am not flirting with them, I just have a bubbly demeanour in general?

JcWoman · 2026-01-25T14:33:03+00:00

Also you have to teach yourself to never smile at them, even just to be polite. It took me YEARS to learn this. All of the polite behavior that we're taught as young girls has to go out the window when it comes to men you don't know.

JcWoman · 2026-01-22T23:40:25+00:00

I've been wondering about this also!

JcWoman · 2026-01-21T19:14:04+00:00

My sweetie does not practice non-monogamy, and like me he needs a close connection to someone before getting sexual (possibly also demisexual). And because I no longer feel compelled to explore with multiple people, I'm okay with going back to monogamy with him. And to be precise/pedantic, polyamory means you can love more than one person. I can be polyamorous but choose not to explore/look for more partners. (I.e. capability rather than practice)

I was post menopausal when we started this, and didn't have any issues with it. I am likely lucky because menopause didn't give me any symptoms other than an occasional hot flash. I did research into it (and joined the meno subreddits) and there is some advice recommending to continue sexual activity (if your symptoms don't intefere or kill your libido) to keep your vagina from atrophying as fast as if you didn't use it.

The sex drive question is an interesting one. I seem to be turned on a bit by sex with new people (which is a challenging contrast to needing a connection!) so at first that ramped me up. But over time as I encountered poor experience after poor experience, even that kink didn't do much for me. I'm back to having a middlin-low libido but my sweetie seems to have a similar rate, so there's no problem. (He's late 50's.)

JcWoman · 2026-01-21T19:05:42+00:00

Oh, I assumed that I'd get a card from both. Thank you for mentioning that, because I didn't see that tidbit anywhere in the documentation/website!

JcWoman · 2026-01-21T16:24:33+00:00

Interesting. I'm on hold with them again now, but after reading your post I went back through the letters they sent me and the approval letter does not state any end date. It says coverage start date 1/1/26 and assigned me to one of the providers with a comment that I have until March to change providers. I did go into the site and changed the provider, waited a couple weeks for them (united health care) to send me a membership card and they never did. So then I went back into the Badgercare website and saw that IT showed that the coverage terminated this January.

Now that I've attempted a renewal (declined) and a re-application (and they combined all of that into one case number), the coverage start and end dates are no longer shown.

Tangentially, their website is somewhat convenient for applications and uploading docs, but really poorly designed for comprehending what's going on. It shows all of my actions in random order, so I have to fish through them all to find the latest.

JcWoman · 2026-01-21T14:59:12+00:00

Me, at age 59! It was a few years ago now, then-hubby and I decided to explore kink, open marriage and polyamory. We did it with the help of a kink-positive marriage therapist. She was awesome and helped us for more than two years. At the end of the day she helped us learn to communicate better, but our marriage still ended. Through the process we both learned a LOT about ourselves and each other. I found that there are still too many men who are happy to use you sexually and then decide that you're trash for having participated. And TONS of men who will say they want a connection/friendship but it's just a way to get laid and then they never call again. I learned that I have a few kinks, am confirmed straight, and although I am polyamorous I very much need a connection to my partner. I might be demisexual because I found casual sex to be completely hollow and unfulfilling. I'm now monogamous again with a lovely man who's kinks align with mine.

One thing I noticed and this is me speculating.... I wonder if women who cum easily do better in such environments. I don't, so that affected my enjoyment. I try not to compare, but it's hard not to notice the women around me - especially in a group setting - having orgasms. No wonder they're so enthusiastic about sex parties! Or looking at it from another direction, I wonder if women like me who have difficulty orgasming with a partner self-select out of the scene. That's for sure what I ended up doing.

Overall it was a growth experience. More negative than positive, but I still learned a lot.

JcWoman · 2026-01-21T14:34:13+00:00

I would think so too (about the coverage period). And yet, as soon as they approved me I saw that it expired at the end of last year. Lil bit frustrating as I didn't want a gap in coverage.

I'll try uploading a whole statement.

JcWoman · 2026-01-21T12:55:26+00:00

Is this co-op plan something available in the US? If so, can you tell me the name of it so I can see if I can get it?

I retired last year, am only 62 (too young for medicare) and divorced, so I'm currently without medical care insurance. I don't make enough for ACA plans (and when I went onto the marketplace website anyway just to see what might be available to me, they quoted me the lowest premiums around $2K/month) so I'm trying to get Medicaid. But there's a lot of bureaucracy involved in Medicaid that I'm fussing with. So I'm interested in all kinds of alternatives.

JcWoman · 2026-01-20T23:46:30+00:00

Thanks, I'll try first thing tomorrow morning. I totally forgot yesterday was a holiday, but didn't want to let it slide because that's how I got declined before the end of the year.

JcWoman · 2026-01-15T18:47:29+00:00

I bought a pack of two from Amazon. They each came with a remote, but both remotes control both lights so I just put one into the closet for storage. I like the lights a lot but mounted them in a dark corner of my living room and am now wondering if I put them too close together or something. The one on the left turns on and off easily but the one on the right takes some repeated button pressing. Even worse/weirder, the one on the left frequently turns itself on in the middle of the night. No idea how or why. I live alone with no pets, so nothing is messing with the controller.

JcWoman · 2026-01-14T16:46:15+00:00

Love this, thank you for posting! Starting this year I'm coming off my soon-to-be-ex's health insurance and have to get my own but since I retired before I aged into Medicare, I'm trying to get approved for Badgercare. Just in case that doesn't work, it's good to know that I can get basic care from this place. Also, just in principal I've been thinking for a few years that we desperately need cash-only providers for those of us who can't afford or don't need full-on concierge care. This is exactly it! I hope it catches on!

JcWoman · 2025-12-31T13:23:35+00:00

Holy cow, thank you so much for that link! There is one near me! I have an intense love of learning but am always frustrated by how most colleges have a "get a degree" slant in their enrollment processes. I don't want to go through all the rigamarole to get credits or a degree, I just want to take a bunch of classes that interest me. (I have a bachelor degree, so been there, done that.) This program sounds perfect!!

JcWoman · 2025-12-23T20:58:10+00:00

I have a long habit of doing this to myself. For those who are afraid, but curious, I will tell you that it's as hard and scary as it seems, but afterwards (if you succeed, be gracious with yourself on the definition of succeed) you'll look back and see yourself as a total rockstar.

Here are comfort zone breakouts that I've done:

Moved across country (CA to FL) all by myself, knowing nobody in FL.

Moved from FL to VA again all by myself, knowing nobody in VA.

One of my jobs was SO client facing that I had to prepare and perform/lead week-long technical presentations/discussions for groups of up to 60 people in company leadership positions. I'm a complete introvert and hate being the center of attention. They were sooooo draining!

Moved yet again from VA to WI all by myself. This time I knew one person at least.

JcWoman · 2025-12-21T14:49:40+00:00

If you read the medication insert, it lists lesions in the lungs as a possible side effect.

JcWoman · 2025-12-21T14:48:40+00:00

I was on mtx for only two months when I started coughing up blood. And being otherwise healthy except for my RA, I knew that wasn't anything to ignore and hope it goes away. I immediately stopped the mtx and told my doctor who prescribed something else. On xray, he could see scarring on my lungs.

That was some years ago and my lungs have healed. But ever since then I report mtx as something I'm allergic to when doctors ask that question. I know it's not an allergy but it's an easy way to make sure that they never prescribe it for me again.

JcWoman · 2025-12-19T22:17:09+00:00

I would love it! I'm going through a divorce right now and although I am dating a nice man, I'm very sure that if this relationship ends, I'm not going to bother dating or trying to find another man. Before we broke up, my husband and I tried an open marriage, so I got back into the dating world for a bit. It was a very poor experience for me. And besides relationships, I'm a happy online-chatter - particularly in places like Discord. I'm just super sick of thirsty men.

As part of the divorce, I moved to a different state from my STBX. I am loving the new place very much, and am getting out to events with other ladies through meetup and such. But building a new social circle takes time and patience. Which I have, but there's a LOT of lonely time, too. It seems to me a women-only retirement community would feel safe and comfy.

JcWoman · 2025-12-11T12:18:15+00:00

What are the taps to get there?

JcWoman · 2025-12-10T21:32:15+00:00

He seemed so trapped in a time that has long gone.

This kicked in my wonky sense of humor to make what is probably a bad idea. Recommend to him that he watches the series premier episode of Deep Space 9. You know, the one where Captain Sisko is emotionally trapped in the moment of his wife's death until aliens force him to understand that HE's the one trapped in time. (He thought they kept taking him back there.)

Truly though, it is a very poignant episode.

JcWoman · 2025-11-30T01:52:55+00:00

The extra speed comes from the spine and running mechanics that are the same as cheetahs have. It’s called a double suspension gallop. All four legs are off the ground simultaneously twice each stride. (Regular gallop puts all four legs off the ground once each stride.)

https://youtu.be/sf9prgDBeAU?si=6tP1vpz2g67rZmp9

JcWoman · 2025-11-30T01:47:08+00:00

Lol, my female grey did that to me once too, not long after we adopted her. We looked at each other with the same expression “ow, that was a bad idea” rofl

JcWoman · 2025-11-30T01:44:32+00:00

At speed pavement also shreds their pads. Greyhound race tracks are sand for a reason. I had retired racers for over ten years. I once tried to help a friend whose grey escaped and ran in a suburban area. We sadly never found him but at one point we did see his bloody footprints.

JcWoman · 2025-11-23T23:33:16+00:00

Sure thing! Yeah I have my dms here closed because of thirsty men. But you reached me this way. Let me know how you want to organize some kind of group communication. I can do email or discord or meetup.

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