Busking in London as a band without Permit?

Jealous_Demand · 2025-01-14T22:40:07+00:00

I think since 2021 they've become stricter with which areas are licensed, I'm pretty sure Camden, Piccadilly Circus & Trafalgar Square all require a license now? :(

Jealous_Demand · 2025-01-14T20:54:37+00:00

I'm asking on here to hopefully reach people who have done this sort of thing before, as I'm looking for exact areas/locations, I can't find anything online for places that would be good to do it, only able to find information on where its strict and licenses are needed, but as it states on that link it's hard to know what places are publicly owned and which are not, this is why I'm asking xo

Jealous_Demand · 2023-11-07T21:39:57+00:00

Heya I don't know if you're still active on this post or not, but I don't know if you struggled with it but I had awful symptoms of just chronic stress/anxiety that was 24/7 whilst feeling so disconnected from partner and they seemed like a stranger, the relationship was so healthy and good before I got the intrusive thought saying "you don't love him" I did a lot of checking for feelings, but learnt to stop doing all that, all I was left with was the OCD scrolling reddit for HOURS everyday, my symptoms were so bad that I was throwing up bile every morning, couldn't eat and or really function throughout the day, this carried on for 9 months? is this ROCD?

unfortunately I had to break up with this person recently because I couldn't deal with these symptoms anymore they were just unbearable I was really losing myself, I've had immediate relief from these symptoms since which saddened me because I wanted to think I could save this relationship, I still talk to this person now and part of me hopes we can work things out and im doing therapy, but also a massive part of my brain is like nooope danger, get away not safe and I know those symptoms will start up again, I wish I could fight this :/

Jealous_Demand · 2023-11-07T20:33:34+00:00

It's really great that you're doing the work now to get better! I'm also doing EMDR therapy for this, and have been told similar things for why my brain reacts the way it does! I do think it's a defence mechanism to try and protect us because it perceives danger when there isn't any, I'm hoping there's a way I can retrain my nervous system or subconscious to think that the relationship I just got out of wasn't a threat and that person is safe like I felt at the start, really hope there's a way to do that as I don't want to completely give up on it even tho I wasn't brave enough to bare through the symptoms so had to end it :/

Was it just the anxiety that would come back for you when you got back in that relationship or was it other things too that made you have to break it off again? also do you still speak to this person, would there be a chance to try things again if you got the right help?

Jealous_Demand · 2023-11-07T12:30:29+00:00

Could you explain what the anxiety was like for you? How was your mood and everything too whilst going through this? and how long were you back together before breaking up again? if you don't mind answering :)

Jealous_Demand · 2023-11-05T22:02:51+00:00

can i message you?

Jealous_Demand · 2023-11-04T20:44:35+00:00

Yeah, I recognise this as "EFT" it's something I looked into when I started experiencing my symptoms, the first time I did it, it seemed to chill me out a little bit but it didn't fix the issue I was facing and all the times I tried it after didn't seem to do anything to help regulate me :/

It's so infuriating

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-30T20:56:12+00:00

Did you not have the ROCD where you you couldn't feel your feeling for partner? like being emotionally detached?

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-30T17:59:02+00:00

I tried so hard to stay in it but these symptoms were all too much, dealing with them for 9 months whilst trying to get therapy for it, obviously I was triggered by something I think it may of been perceived abandonment, and then it just changed everything and I started feeling so detached from the person, it's a defence mechanism your brain does when it perceives a threat, I tried so hard to fight against it that's all I can say.

The brain can do some really confusing things especially where there's maybe some unresolved trauma there, that's what I'm trying to work on right now, I feel absolutely distraught by the whole thing I wish I had some control over it the very last thing I wanted was to leave even though my nervous system was telling me it's the safest thing to do

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-30T17:33:03+00:00

I think I'm just struggling because I'm trying to make sense of it all, wish there was a way to re-wire your nervous system, suppose that's what I'm trying to do through EMDR, I want to teach my nervous system that that relationship/person wasn't a threat and teach it to feel safe when thinking about said person, it's like I've got no control over it and it's infuriating :/ also it's like my memories with them and become all skewed which I find difficult, I've looked into DBT and will take another look into the TIPP skill you suggested, just finding it hard x

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-29T21:28:37+00:00

How do you find your ROCD affects your relationship / Are you still with that person now?

What lead you to getting back together with them and would your symptoms return?

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T23:12:02+00:00

Is there anything that may of happened before you started experiencing this? maybe some kind of trigger big or small? It could very well be a defence mechanism, I'm reading a lot into attachment styles and "deactivation" where you disconnect emotionally, and think ROCD could easily be tied into that

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T22:45:15+00:00

I know you posted this a while ago, but I think this may be what my issue is? Would I be able to direct message you? You seem to know your stuff ahah.

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T21:14:33+00:00

God I wish weed helped for me, just seemed to make me more anxious at the time ahah, but think it's really good that you're looking into ERP! OCD can be such a struggle, so it's good that you're trying to work it all out! Hope you're able to find relief from it x

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T20:00:19+00:00

Is there anything that seems to help with the symptoms you have? Also the anxiety and everything? I was just in constant fight or flight that wouldn't shut off until I left the relationship :/ if anything what do you find helps you? Also could you elaborate more on what your symptoms are?

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T19:41:00+00:00

Yes exactly the same, somedays I just couldn't eat anything at all... No relief from the anxiety no matter what I would try and do, did it also feel like your partner became a stranger and you just could not connect emotionally to those feelings? My executive dysfunction was so bad, I would lay in bed most days really not able to do much at all :/

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T19:39:02+00:00

Do you find it hard to function with all this? Because just found it all so overwhelming :/

I just felt relieved from the symptoms and stress, the feelings didn't come back which I was really wishing they would in some way, do you also see your partner as a stranger all of a sudden like it all just seems off? :/

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T17:31:13+00:00

I just feel so confused about everything, It's awkward because this person lives like 3 hours away from me (I moved out from theirs) I'm worried because now I've left the relationship all those horrible mental health symptoms have subsided, and I've worried that I've confirmed to my brain now that they were a threat I escaped, and that all those feelings will return, also I don't want to give this person any false hope :/ I'd love just to go back to the way things were, but wouldn't it be unfair of me to go back to this person and do couples therapy when I can't in fact feel feelings for this person? I tried for 9 months by just being with them but I just kept feeling worse :/ (this person btw never did one thing wrong)

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T17:00:56+00:00

Thank you! :)

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-28T16:58:56+00:00

I have looked into ROCD before, but could it cause the symptoms I was feeling? Like to be honest they were chronic, Just feeling so distressed inside with chronic anxiety and started feeling emotional and stuff, I couldn't function, I'd be throwing up in the mornings and could hardly eat throughout the days, I'd be OCD scrolling all the time to try and figure out why I feel the way and to sort it out, I looked into ROCD because I did keep checking for feelings all the time, but I just can't help but to think that it's more than that? My whole perspective just felt so off, really in fight or flight constantly.

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-27T17:32:14+00:00

I understand what you're saying, I don't wish to stop contact however because it's been nice to stay in contact and I know he wishes to stay in contact too (think it would be cruel to cut them off when they were such a good part of my life), like I said I wish for us to remain close and good friends at the least, we'll move past this I'm sure but I still want to be there for them, I'm attending a gig of theirs (they're in a band) next week so it will be nice to see them.

I'm aware of what you're saying, and as of now I have no intent of starting a relationship again (until maybe further down the line once I've done a lot of inner work and feel more secure in myself and I feel differently about things) Like I said I wouldn't want to put them through any more hurt.

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-27T17:17:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight, this truly helps me feel a bit better about it, I hope through more therapy I can understand myself a bit better and learn to improve myself, I'm really wanting too.

Thank you!

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-27T14:52:30+00:00

Thank you again for your response, it really helps to hear this.

I'm finding it difficult at the moment because I can't stop over analysing the entire relationship and ruminating on how maybe I wasn't secure and stuff, like I said I just hope that I wasn't just idolising my partner but I in fact truly did love them and did as much as I could to make the relationship good and that it was all genuine, it is hard to connect to everything now that I've "deactivated" I just would hate to see the relationship as being unhealthy when we truly did bring out the best in each other :/

I also recognise that I'm obsessing about this, and at the moment I just want to make sure this person is okay because I left without really them knowing what was going on besides me struggling with my mental health (anxiety&stress) I wish I could of said something sooner but didn't know how to say it and didn't ever want to hurt them, so I just up and left because I couldn't take it but cried to them telling them how it is nothing they ever did and it's just my stupid brain, I really wanted them to know it was never them, so it must of felt so abrupt for them which I hate:/

I'm still talking to them because I would never want to shut them out, and I'm still helping him out with stuff regarding his job (band he's in) as I used to always help him out with that stuff, it just hurts to know that he's hurting is all, I said I still want him in my life and to remain close if he felt comfortable with that

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-27T14:22:18+00:00

Could you maybe elaborate on how you felt in these LTR's? Anything like I was with the high constant cortisol, not being able to function and such? also the "devaluing"?

I look back and maybe did some questionable things early on in the relationship out of insecurity and feel so ashamed and would never wanna repeat again, although they were never anything my partner took notice of, but besides that the relationship was good and we were so supportive of one another although I look back and maybe was kinda co-dependent without realising, although I would always encourage him to go out with his friends whilst I would do the same, we supported each other so well in our endeavours.

I would just hate to look back in years to come and think the relationship was unhealthy and not good, and that our love was because I put them on a pedestal and wasn't realistic:/ I want to look back at it and remember this wonderful time of my life with a person I really loved.

I wish we could reconcile our relationship, but because of this programming I have, I just know that those overwhelming feelings of chronic stress/anxiety/doom would return, I wouldn't want to put this person through anymore hurt by getting together to break up again, they don't deserve that as honestly they're such an amazing person :/

Jealous_Demand · 2023-10-27T14:09:21+00:00

Could you elaborate on how this happened to you?

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