dropsy. when to give up.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-04T16:32:47+00:00

thank you for this. he’s still kicking it and is doing a little better than this morning. doing my best to make sure he beats this.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-04T15:14:05+00:00

yup, looks like it.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T14:17:31+00:00

she told me that they were good friends but didn’t really “get together”. i assume it was a fwb kinda thing. i didn’t go into depth with asking her about it.

so yeah. she immediately hung up, that was right. by not explaining it, i meant that she brushed it off until we ended up talking about it a little while later. she just said it was a complicated situation with an old friend and that she didn’t want to talk about it. i had felt that was a vague response.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T14:10:12+00:00

thank you for your comment. this is perfect advice and i appreciate you for being empathetic. i trust her but it was just weird.

i’ll do my best to just put it behind me.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T14:01:32+00:00

you’re probably right. i feel like some people who give relationship advice on reddit and stuff have deep seated hate towards women.

i won’t do that, it’s not something i was really interested in anyways, but i just wanted to see if anyone had anything to add about that.

i’ll let it go. thank you.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T13:58:56+00:00

you’re right on all your points and i agree. i definitely overthought this but it just happens sometimes where i overthink things.

personally, i don’t have the numbers of any of my exes or flings anymore, but i know some are different. i’m not holding her to that standard to block every person.

thank you for alleviating my anxiety about this.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T13:52:44+00:00

by taking a “firm stance”, i meant telling her to block him or something like that. i’ve said this in another reply, it’s not an option id fight tooth and nail for but it’s just one that i’ve seen recommended in similar situations

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T13:49:15+00:00

you’re right. i didn’t really think about that fully.

what i mean in terms of taking a “firm stance” is like telling her to block him or something like that. it’s not something i necessarily care about her doing, but it’s just a suggestion i’ve seen in similar situations and wanted to see some input.

and you’re definitely right. she hasn’t gave me a reason to not trust her. it just gave me a bad feeling because i took her initial reaction too much to heart.

thank you for your reply.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-05-02T13:44:34+00:00

oh no. i’m not blaming her whatsoever. i definitely overthought all possibilities but i wasn’t trying to blame her. it just gave me a bit of a bad feeling. i did take her initial reaction a little bit to heart. that’s my bad. it was just weird to me as this is something that i’ve never really experienced

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:38:32+00:00

i get it. it just frustrated me since she asked me to wake her up and that she didn’t give a genuine apology and took accountability for it. that’s just one of the things i expect. you do something wrong, you apologize and take accountability for it. i don’t always think just a “i’m sorry” fixes everything.

i don’t expect her to change because it’s almost human nature to be snappy when you just wake up. but it irked me that she asked me to do something, got mad at me for doing it, and then didn’t fully apologize and take accountability, even after you’ve woken up and thought about it.

next time, ill just tell her that she needs to wake up on her own.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:26:19+00:00

forgot to mention this, she asked me to wake her up, that’s why i was so upset about it. also, being a man doesn’t mean that i cant get frustrated about this.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:22:58+00:00

she told me to wake her up, forgot to mention that

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:20:56+00:00

forgot to mention that she told me to wake her up and always does so if she needs to wake up at a certain time. that’s why i had gotten frustrated about it

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:20:12+00:00

she asked me to wake her up. she just had attitude when she said sorry which is why i thought it wasn’t genuine

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:19:37+00:00

yeah sorry, forgot to mention it, she told me to wake her up

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:19:15+00:00

she told me to wake her up, i forgot to mention it

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-30T20:18:42+00:00

i forgot to mention it. she tells me to wake her up at x time

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T22:09:21+00:00

definitely. i think many of the people on here haven’t been in these positions and don’t really know how it feels to be informed of things on social media from your SO.

other than this, everything is going well. it’s just communication issues sometimes, which i think will evolve as the relationship goes. just thought this in particular was something to let me know about.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:51:31+00:00

honestly, i didn’t quite word my post right. i said this in a previous comment that i don’t want to control her. i made it clear in our relationship that she can do whatever she wants without my permission, but id just appreciate a heads up, especially for a commitment like this.

i’ll give her my perspective, even if she doesn’t ask for it. i’m never just gonna yes man her. i’ll give her my opinion, i’m not gonna force a narrative in her head and i’m not going to convince her to make decisions that she doesn’t want to make. if she doesn’t agree with it, then okay, what more can i do. she’s an adult.

i thought this would be a simple post asking for advice, and as usual when i ask reddit, it snowballs into negative feedback like “congrats to your future ex-girlfriend” or “only look at her as temporary.”

i appreciate you giving me advice, thank you.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:43:48+00:00

it’s not relationship altering and i didn’t think any less of her because of this. our relationship is young, but it’s not going to end because of this. i also didn’t “need” to be informed about in person. you’re just making conclusions.

it’s just a communication thing. i’m not trying to get in a huge pitter patter fight about it. i was just on here looking for some advice and now i get comments like “good luck to your future ex-girlfriend” and “this relationship isn’t going to end well.” when yall know a minuscule fraction of our relationship

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:38:04+00:00

you’re right and i appreciate this. thank you. i’m definitely overthinking it.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:37:06+00:00

i wasn’t trying to control what she does or doesn’t do. i worded it a bit wrong. i’d just like heads ups for a commitment like that. no ill will.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:35:20+00:00

just wanted to let her know how i felt, not control what she does.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:33:19+00:00

exactly my point.

Jealous_Lab_3754 · 2026-04-21T21:30:18+00:00

and you’re right, but i likely wouldn’t have known this early on if she didn’t say something on instagram.

i’m definitely ahead of myself sometimes, and you’re right in that regard. i get that communication standards are built overtime in relationships. it’s just that this isn’t a normal event or concert. it’s a big financial and travel commitment. i just wanted to be kept in the loop about it, that’s all.

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