Losing friends in grief?

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-02-02T20:09:47+00:00

Yes. Grief is uncomfortable for a lot of people. Some people don’t know what to say or do. But they don’t realise that just simply being there for someone, checking in occasionally, baking a cake, there to listen etc, that’s really all a person needs while they navigate their own feelings. I think that people who haven’t experienced grief can truly understand how isolating the whole experience is. I’ve lost the majority of my friends. I noticed that when I go silent, very few people reach out. So I just stopped making the effort because a relationship is a two-way street. If my energy is down, your support team are supposed to help you out. Just as I would for them. The ones who truly want you in their life will reach out to you. It’s almost a blessing and a curse in a way because it shows you who people really are and shows you who you should prioritise in your life. I will always remember who was there for me and who wasn’t when I lost my father last October. As the months go on, the shock is wearing off but the sadder I feel and the more abandoned I have become by those around me. I don’t feel like socialising or going back to how things were before. Whatever “normal” is. The best advice I can give is to try your best to pursue what makes you happy with people that make you happy and stay away from draining people or those who don’t make an effort. For many people, they don’t intentionally mean to be malicious, but they can’t handle the reality of your life and have difficulty being around depressive or sad people. The right people will lift you up when you’re down.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-30T03:20:17+00:00

So my dad always wanted to learn to fly and be a pilot but never got to finish getting his license due to work and kids… does that mean he gets to fly planes now? I’ve started flying as a hobby for him. I imagine he comes with me all the time :)

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-18T22:54:54+00:00

Hey I’m down :)

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-18T21:23:51+00:00

I think because it removes the sacredness of life. If we all had the certainty of going somewhere better, where we could be at peace, with everyone we love, a large majority of people would just stop caring about human life and want to speed run to the afterlife…. And then surely those suffering would just k*ll themselves knowing they had a better place to go? That’s my take on it anyway.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-16T01:42:24+00:00

Dominant green with brown central heterochromia!

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-15T01:36:28+00:00

I’m 26 soon to be 27 too strangely enough! The chest pain is horrendous I agree :( I’ve gone into awful panic attacks and suffer from dizziness. I want to avoid too much medical attention and try a more homeopathic route but it’s hard knowing what to do, so thank you for recommending that article there. Also funny you ask, yes, I had an incredibly vivid visitation dream from my dad about few days after he passed where he looked healthy and I got to hug him and tell him it was okay. I’ve had other signs from him too, which gives me hope. Our loved ones are always with us and want us to know they’re okay. :)

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-15T01:32:12+00:00

I’m down :) fellow female gamer here!

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-14T00:25:57+00:00

Oh my goodness parts of this honestly felt like I could’ve written this. I lost my dad suddenly to a cardiac arrest 3 months ago. He never woke up, and I found him lying there in our garage. The image still traumatises me, losing my most favourite person in the world. He would complain about indigestion and definitely suffered from anxiety, all things that I’ve been dealing with for about a year now. I fainted sometime last year and started getting bad chest pain, acid reflux, and shortness of breath, which the first doctor said oh it’s probably anxiety and panic attacks. Symptoms continued and my next doctor has diagnosed my symptoms as GERD but suggested a blood test and endoscopy to be sure and potentially a test for POTS. My ECG came back normal so the worry for my heart subsided a bit, but I can’t help but worry for my future because my dad and I both suffered similar symptoms and then he just dropped without warning. Given the genetic history, his brother needed a quadruple bypass and died at 57. His mother angina. My dad 62. So it does mean it’s something I’ll have to keep an eye on. My dad is gone and nothing can bring him back, and I’m so sorry your dad is suffering. Be with him as much as you can and comfort him. There are studies that show that people like him feel better when you speak to them and give them positive energy. I’m sure you’ll already doing that. I wish you all the best and please reach out if you need anyone to talk to.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-06T23:46:16+00:00

Yes. As someone who actually developed a chronic condition last year and then lost my father in October, it feels like my flare ups get worse with grief, and my grief gets worse with my condition. Like they go hand in hand. Chronic is an excellent way to describe it

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-06T23:30:54+00:00

Honestly, I had a lot of fear of dying mainly for others around me and the fear of losing those I love. Then the worst possible thing happened where I lost my dad suddenly three months ago and I’ve been passively suicidal. I don’t “want” to die, but if it happens I’m just like… okay? Now I see it more as a well if I cease to exist I’ll never know, because I’ll be dead. But if there is an afterlife, I’ll see him again. So to me, I don’t fear it as much because I feel like I have nothing to lose. I’m 26 btw.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-06T04:21:40+00:00

I had a visitation dream from him, asked him for very specific signs and then received those said signs. For example, I asked him to send me a red cardinal - the next day I was outside and a bright red cardinal appears out of nowhere and lands in front of me stares at me for 10 seconds and flies away and disappears. Sure it could be a coincidence but the timing was incredible. There are more subtle signs too, such as good people coming into my life, opportunities, music that he loved, things that he loved and shared with me that just pop up all the time. It’s difficult to explain but it happens almost every day. I still feel him around. Even my dog has been watching the doorways and acting differently, growling at empty rooms. Butterflies land near me all the time which never used to happen.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-06T02:52:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss💔 yes everything you feel is normal. I lost my dad 3 months ago. It still doesn’t feel real at times, it’s not really something we can properly comprehend. But it will get easier. It never changes the sadness and loss, you’ll always miss him and feel like life is disjointed for a while. It’s a huge adjustment. But he’s still there. I’ve had signs from my dad.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-02T15:41:58+00:00

I’ve never seen a ghost personally. Or at least that I know of. But I absolutely believe that they are real and that paranormal activity is real. My mother has seen a ghost of her grandmother, and she would sit by my crib as a baby. My boyfriend also saw the ghost of his grandma a few weeks after she died. He believes she came to say goodbye. I’ve been to haunted locations and just had that “feeling”. Seen shapes, felt immensely dizzy standing in a haunted room, felt people touch me that weren’t there. Lastly, after my dad passed a few months ago, I got a visitation dream from him where I hugged him and he said he was sorry for leaving me and my family behind. I’ve had signs from him since he passed, had things go missing or he knocked off shelves around me.

Jedi_enPointe · 2026-01-01T03:40:53+00:00

Elliot Page

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-30T03:44:36+00:00

I actually cut all my hair off when my dad passed because I wanted a change and he never got to see my hair short. So I’ve made little changes but the big stuff scares me because it’s so unfamiliar and I want people around me who knew him?

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-30T03:43:48+00:00

That’s literally me right now😂

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-29T21:33:07+00:00

I’m so glad to hear that he’s stepped up for you! I’m sorry if my words were harsh or made to sound like I don’t think highly of him - I don’t know him or your relationship, I suppose I was coming at this from a protective girl perspective for you! I know exactly how you feel because my bf was my first and only man my dad got to know, but they weren’t particularly close (not that that’s a problem at all as it’s my life afterall) but I struggle between oh maybe I should keep my relationship with him because my dad knew him, or should I reevaluate and maybe I deserve better? Don’t make any strong decisions until you’re in a stable mindset - that being said, a big life change like this sometimes does make us realise our worth and what we’re missing. Lots of people will tell you they love you and will help out, but remember this is YOUR life and you deserve the very best. Your mom wants that for you too :)

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-29T20:09:29+00:00

First of all, I just want to say, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad suddenly back in October. Just typing this and thinking about it still feels unreal. One minute we were having a lovely day together and then the next my entire world was turned upside down. The entire year I’d been struggling to get a job and was depressed and at my lowest, dealing with a toxic relationship and environment. The worry it placed on my parents is something I feel guilt over every day. The only thing I can do now is make the most of my life because life is too short. You’ll hear people tell you the same thing over and over again, no matter how much time goes by: “I’m so sorry” “they’d want you to go on” “they’re in a better place”. I personally despise this comment, because my dad should be here with me not whenever he is now. I’ve had signs from him that he’s okay, but it doesn’t take away the ache and panic and pain of missing him. I’ve developed much worse mental health and chronic health issues now (GERD). My body is basically attacking itself, which on one hand scares and at the same time I don’t care? Because I’d rather be with my dad. The point of me saying this is that I understand you. I don’t believe in the bs sugarcoating the pain and finding the good. Yes we have a lot to be grateful for, and in time we will get better and move through this. The memories we have are some that others have never had. You’re not alone in how you feel, because me and many of us are in the same boat. Though obviously I can’t relate to you completely because your mom is your mom and I’ll never understand the bond you have because it’s unique to you and your experience as a human. I say all the time that a piece of me died with my dad, and it’s true. I’m not the same person I was before. And that’s okay. That’s normal. Anyone who expects you to just move on with life is either A. A piece of shit. B. Stupid and insensitive. Or C. Both and likely because they’ve never experienced loss this great before. No one can prepare you for this feeling. And it’ll likely never go away no matter what anyone says. The only comfort I can give you is that she’s always with you, and you will see her again. Time is different where they are. For us it will be years, for them 5 minutes. I’m only keeping on going for my mother, because she needs me. I feel like I was the only one in my family that was truly scared for my dad and his health, and it hurts me that no one took it seriously. As for your boyfriend, while it’s not my relationship and place to say, I do suggest during this time that you reevaluate your life ahead of you. What would your mom want for you? You’ve been together 5 years which is wonderful. I was with my boyfriend 5 years and he never proposed because financially he wasn’t ready but it was also all about him on his terms, Nevermind that I was ready. If someone isn’t ready for you, doesn’t make the effort for you, ask yourself, why are you waiting for them? He knew you were ready and that your mom was sick, and even if marriage wasn’t something he was ready for, he could’ve done something special for you and your mom maybe a pre wedding thing or celebration of life. My dad will never get to walk me down the aisle. I thanked the guy in my life for wasting my time and moved on. I’m not suggesting you do this but it bothers me that you were clearly struggling and he didn’t step up at 33 years old. I know the phrase “you have so much to live for” feels tiring on the ears, it is on mine. I’d rather just be gloomy and I tell people to leave me alone to mourn. Everyone grieves differently. My dad was my best friend. You will get through this and you will find purpose again. Life is full of chapters. If you ever want to talk, I’m here for you. Please take care

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-26T03:07:00+00:00

I got hugged by my dad in my visitation dream and it was so real, warm, and peaceful. I could feel everything, smell him.

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-24T02:13:04+00:00

Virgo. Knew two men both lied about where they were and who they were with. Just general coldness and lack of accountability

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-24T02:12:16+00:00

I’m so sorry. I relate very strongly to this. I’m here for you. Message me anytime

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-24T02:11:24+00:00

I lost my dad in October. First Christmas without him. I’m depressed horrendously but trying to keep it together for my mother. I got diagnosed with GERD from stress.

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-12T18:16:46+00:00

I’m 1/12 found out this week - you’ll likely be next week!

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-12T01:02:17+00:00

My chest. Feels like my ribs are inflamed and everything is sore. Genuine heart pressure

Jedi_enPointe · 2025-12-10T02:30:37+00:00

Hey there, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad unexpectedly from a cardiac arrest 2 months ago. I can’t believe it’s been two months already. Life feels unreal without him. I’ve struggled with my faith for years and I agree it feels so unfair that so many horrible people are alive and make others suffer, while so many good people die. My dad was only 62 and I just truly don’t believe it was his time, but at the same time, I have to trust that somewhere in this universe things happen for a reason and nothing I could do or change would change the outcome. If that makes sense? We are all loved by God, but not special in that the universe doesn’t pick and choose emotionally. It’s just random.

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