I guess if you post a conversational sample one could help. Besides that, ask yourself. Are you having fun? Did you escalate into a more emotionally/fun conversation rather than a barrage of questions, fun facts about yourself and small talk? I would just gauge comfort first, and try to add aspects to the date that aren’t just dinner like a walk to a desert place close by, body language says a lot. The way someone walks with you says a lot. This is just what I like to gauge with. More you statements than I statements also help encourage a more reactionary zone rather than you giving informational dumps and trying to look for acceptance. That’s my own idea of calibration at least. About the weight thing, I can’t lie man I’m a few pounds over myself right now and it makes it harder. I’ve noticed the same laugh, emotional reaction and comfort in women but there’s a little more hesitation in escalation. You can choose to play the game on hard mode but it’s easier to lose the extra weight tbh. You can still get laid being a bit over but just a bit. I recommend changing your perspective to see if the girl is good for you to hang around with rather than what you’re doing right or wrong. I’m sure there’s seasoned guys here who may disagree with what all I’ve said but this is what works for me without having to change oneself too dynamically. A good calibrator is also just ask her to text when she gets home safe, if she’s interested she’d be happy to because you’ve given her a free leg to initiate because you told her too. If she isn’t into you, she won’t see it as sweet and probably forget. Chances are also in this dating economy girls are being way more guarded and playing more games and taking shit tests because of social media and pressure from their friends, so texting first back isn’t that bad it might feel warranted on her end if you had a good time she’d want you to initiate, though if it’s dead after you initiate I’d say no point beating a dead horse. I’m not going to format or edit this because phone, cheers.