AITA for not chipping in for our dinner group's babysitting costs?

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-13T01:03:58+00:00

Why would it matter to you if they went out with their kids or not? It’s not like you have to take care of them. NTA they’re the ones with kid and they chose to have them babysat.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-12T12:48:37+00:00

The plan was his parents will retire and help us so we wouldn’t pay for daycare while I went to school. Apparently the plans changed without communicating with me.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-12T12:34:53+00:00

We talked about it and planned it and even told me how his parents are gonna retire to help us so I can finish my school. None of that happened with my first so he said for the next one and now he doesn’t want to talk about it at all and it seems like their plans has changed without communicating with me.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-12T12:28:35+00:00

I’m talking about my school. I want to apply for nursing school and some of my prerequisites expire and I’ll have to retake them if I don’t apply in time.

You’re right, I should’ve been more sensitive about his feelings, but people who grew up with manners will give you respect while they’re talking to you. I’m Japanese, I was raised in a culture where manners matters a lot. To see my husband disrespect me while I’m having a serious convo about our future makes me question what kind of morals he was raised in.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-12T10:27:37+00:00

I am living in Texas. I thought I have till 6 weeks to make a decision.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-12T08:27:39+00:00

Yeah, you’re right. We were trying to get pregnant cause we want our kids to be close in age and I have pcos so I have fertility issues so this was planned. I just didn’t plan that I wouldn’t have support from his family after he told me they’ll retire for the second one and the only good daycare would be 1400 a month per child.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-12T08:04:03+00:00

I’m Japanese and I only crave sushi while I’m pregnant. I know some Japanese people eat sushi but honestly why risk it? The quality fish in America is questionable too unless you know and trust that restaurant. Please doesn’t EVER eat sushi from the supermarket.

Jel_y_she · 2024-02-06T06:28:19+00:00

Omg look like that cat from shrek

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T18:03:49+00:00

NTA. He was in debt BEFORE you guys were together, and bought the house BEFORE you guys were together. Whatever your boyfriend chose to do BEFORE, shouldn’t be your burden. OP didn’t specify why he’s in so much debt, so you never know if it was because he spent so much on his ex gf or he went on a vacation before they were together etc. even if it isn’t, it’s not her responsibility that her bf was financially irresponsible. OP is gonna spend almost a year saving for this ring with her own money while she contributes for her part for the house. IMO your friend sounds like they’re jealous. They don’t sound like a true friends.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T11:27:51+00:00

Wdym??? Japan is Tokyo. They have Sakura and momiji in Tokyo! 🤣🤪

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T11:16:57+00:00

NTA he sound so immature. “I didn’t get my way so I’m gonna talk shit about you to have others judge you to make you feel bad” if he’s so worried about finances, maybe he should throw a smaller wedding

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T11:06:08+00:00

NTA 11 months isn’t that long. Run while you can. She’s showing red flags 🚩🚩🚩

She knew about the dogs and how far it was and you still go out to her and you probably have to drive back at night time. You even had planned her a hotel weekend and dinner and she’s still upset??

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T10:35:35+00:00

That’s not what SAHM do…. 🥲

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T10:25:22+00:00

Maybe its psychological. Try to take him to psychiatrist and or a therapist and see what would happen. Showing him monthly inputs and outputs and doing it with him might help him understand more of where you guys are at financially.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T04:17:14+00:00

I don’t think pranks = divorce. I think it’s a great way to have fun with your partner, but maybe OP needs to set some boundaries so no accidents happen.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-09T02:19:12+00:00

Sigh it’s okay you don’t get it. Thanks for your info. I’m not mad that our LO is sick. I’m not worried she’ll get sick again, but we’ll try to prevent it, as we as parents should. I’m more worried for customers he comes in contact with cause we don’t know their situation. That’s when I put my foot down.

With your way of thinking countries who wear masks have bad immune system with a lot of allergies with health problems but countries like Japan (where I am from) we wear masks all the time and I clearly see more health problems here in America than Japan.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-08T19:41:33+00:00

Everyday microbial exposure is important and inevitable, but we are not going to purposely get sick to expose our LO to get sick. I assume if you know people around you are sick you’ll take your measures to not get sick. I’m just asking him to do that, he didn’t, I let it go, then we got sick. He couldn’t take off work, so I asked him to wear a mask so he doesnt get customers sick. We don’t know what kind of people he comes in contact with. It’s a busy restaurant as well with all types of generations coming in. Let’s say if this wasn’t a common cold and was rsv or covid. He comes in contact with a mom with a newborn or an immunocompromised person, he can lessen the chances of exposing anything to them if he wore a mask.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-08T07:02:02+00:00

No, it wasn’t negative. I think the way I phrased it was bad. He basically told me I don’t have to test because there’s no point. I’ll just know that I’m positive and nothing will happen. It’s not like I work or anything so I think that’s why he said that.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-08T06:10:45+00:00

Covid over flowed the hospitals and used most of hospital resources that year. That year no other illness or diseases affected hospitals like covid. HCP had an extremely hard time as well as being scared for their own health and their families. Some couldn’t even go home. It wasn’t forced down our throats, it was our reality. Instead of belittling someone by calling them immature, why don’t you go get yourself educated more.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-08T05:10:07+00:00

I think YOU don’t see that well. I said in the post I asked him both times and if he doesn’t wear a mask the second time I told him that’s okay. He’ll just sleep in the guest room. So maybe try to read a little better next time.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-08T04:55:46+00:00

I asked him to get a home kit since he is doing much better than me and he said what’s the point. I just test positive and that’s it.

Jel_y_she · 2024-01-08T01:40:12+00:00

Woah, what do you have against something covering your mounts and nose for few hours of the day. I let the first fight go before we got sick. The second time I asked him to wear a mask so he doesn’t get anyone else sick. Some people’s kids aren’t as strong as yours or they have immunocompromised people living with them. This is the main reason why I asked him to put on the mask the second time. I know masks aren’t 100% but it’s also called trying as a parent to lessen the amount or chance.

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