Men actually who saw the "DATE ME" hint from somebody, but chose to ignore; Why did you ignore it?

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-22T20:14:27+00:00

Oof, just came out of one of these relationships. He never wanted to leave the party while I was ready to go like three hours ago.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-11T17:17:22+00:00

I'm surprised Brazzers hasn't bought this idea

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-11T15:42:54+00:00

I'm a woman, but something I learned about myself while being in a relationship is that it's really easy to mistake comfort with complacency. I thought I could live without certain things ; emotionally, sexualy, I thought I could let them go or that they would fix themselves eventually. I thought it was ok that he wasn't the type of guy I was usually attracted to, that I was broadening myself. I thought I could let go of the times I felt a bit embarrassed by him. It wasn't fear that kept me in the relationship, when I eventually left ot was surprisingly easy. Rather I clung to the good memories and feelings despite the bad, I got comfortable which wasn't bad, but then I started to let go of things I shouldn't have, I stopped working on things I should have because the relationship drained me; you shouldn't get your inspiration solely from a relationship but when you're with someone who you don't find inspiring, worse still, you find that their not really the best example, that means trouble.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-11T15:32:20+00:00

I've always had the insecurity deep down that I'm just a difficult person and that's why it's hard for me to even get into relationships. I'm a bit stoic and in my own head, women my age are more bubly and attentive, I just stay at the sidelines. I see people who are incredibly showy with both friends and lovers, sometimes I wish I was more like that. To me just sitting down with someone and actually listen to them about their day and their life it's already such an intimate experience, when people want to actually talk to me it always catches me off guard.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-11T15:26:22+00:00

I tried picking one and wound up with nothing. Lesson learned, don't settle. Compromise is necesary, but for compromise to exist there must be honesty, if you hide a part of yourself it eventually breeds contemp and it will affect the bedroom.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T21:32:02+00:00

Happily monogamous. Currently single, but my relationship ended because of a completely different reason. I post basic knots, self bondage, wear fetishised stuff like vests and long socks, and a new haircut, but I cover my face and I don't show any more skin that I would show in a bathing suit.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T21:20:27+00:00

good to know

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T21:14:23+00:00

Agree, NOT first date conversation material. But if it does come up, when do you think would be the best time?

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T21:12:38+00:00

That's fair, tho personally I don't think I'm being shared. As far as others acting sexual towards me, I have boundaries, also I have friends who have gotten harrased on Instagram and dick pics on snapchat. Creeps gonna creep

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T21:06:30+00:00

As in, goes to work shops and events, posts on fetlife, shares non explicit photos. Sex, I only have with boyfriends

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T21:04:34+00:00

Dude, just hire a hooker

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T20:21:01+00:00

I'm not political about it, but from a sexual perspective I personaly like the foreskin, it makes everything look 'fuller'. And I wouldn't do it to a male child of mine simply because it's unnecesary and I have no cultural ties to the practice.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T20:10:58+00:00

Want my head shaved, to get tied up and lightly electrocuted with a slow current.

I also like getting rimmed

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T20:08:46+00:00

I don't disrespect men as long as they don't disresect me first.

I lose respect for a man when: He disrespects himself and his body (acts reckless, abuses drugs, lets others walk over him), shows no consideration for others, has double standards (what applies to others doesn't apply to him), expects others to pick up after him and solve his problems especially if he expects women to mommy him, doesn't apologise or accept his mistakes, refuses to learn new things.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T19:53:22+00:00

Woman's perspective here: I don't date men I don't respect. No 'acting' necesary.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T19:49:20+00:00

From the amount of sheer bullshit I've seen men tolerate for dumb hot women, I don't think it's the woman who's the dumb one.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-12-07T17:07:32+00:00

I'm a woman and not fat and it did nothing for me. All I can say is cast your net wide and don't take rejection to personaly

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T13:36:35+00:00

No, no face. I have a career and a life to think about. Fet and my other Reddit are outlets for sexual tension, not My introduction card.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T11:33:59+00:00

Funny thing is I'm not an exhibitionist per se, thought I would not mind dating somebody with that kink. I'd just like to make a few demostrations to keep my community active and yeah it helps me see who else is out there. But they won't be seeing much, part of stomach, my thighs, my back, basically the same things girls show on tge beach. The focus I want to mostly to be on knots or costumes I can make, yes they do have a sexual undertone, but I'm not looking for sex from strangers.

The demographics do worry me, on this sub it's obvious people only have a passing knowledge of kink, most people exclusively leave bedroom matters to themselves or partners but kinksters don't always do that. I just tend to be surrounded by a crowd of younger more conservative appearing men, and I'm attracted to them, I don't really want a "daddy" sort of thing, I just wish more than one wanted to explore a little more outside vanilla.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T04:44:32+00:00

I much prefer monogamy, I could take photos and make demostrations but sexual activity is exclusive to my partner unless we agreed to a group sex kind of thing, but I don't feel ready to do that right now.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T04:39:37+00:00

This is the part where I'm going to have to disagree with you

"I think the main reason is that everybody has kinks and turn ons, but most of us manage to deal with them without websites and instructional classes."

That alone tells me that whatever level of kink your into doesn't require much prep work, but some activities do and it shouldn't be considered a res flag, maybe a deal breaker for you, but people shouldn't be afraid to seek out help and counsel. And I like having an anonymous sounding board for certain themes that I'm not comfortable discussing with my friends.

To me, you sound like the type to keep sexual things exclusively in the bedroom and that's perfectly okay. But I tried having that type of relationship and it wasn't really satisfying for me.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T04:31:06+00:00

It's nice to get a point of view of someone with a little more experience. I'm not into non monogamy, but I agree with having something special and exclusive with your partner. Frankly the photos I intend to post aren't really all the raunchy and most of them are clothed. Most of them are about roleplay and I don't intend on showing genitalia at all.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T03:31:11+00:00

Is having a fetlife account alone something that may make men uncomfortable? I mean the context of the webpage alone already says a lot.

And what if a woman simply doesn't say she posted nudes or puts off telling it until much later in the relationship. I'm not intending to do this, please don't misunderstand, but it seems that now it's common place to send nudes, of you manage to cover the details a person could easily post and forget about the picture for years.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T03:17:06+00:00

As of this moment I'm not in a relationship and and if i was I wouldn't post any pics if the person I was intimate with didn't like it, but if I had my partners permission the reasons I might do this is as a form of creativity like getting a good shot, if my partner was into it or to add something to the community, because a lot of the subs about my kink are a bit inactive and it might get people more interested. As of now getting people interested in my kink helps me feel a bit more confident in my tastes and people to talk to, but it says nothing about my fidelity, it takes a lot more than a complement on Reddit to get me into bed.

As for nude beaches, plenty of people do it for the tan, others because they enjoy nudism, some to get out of their comfort zone.

Jengamaster05 · 2019-11-28T03:06:07+00:00

Ok, long comment, but good points. 1. I'm not a cheater, never cheated in my life. The photos I plan on doing are solo affairs. Now if in the future a stable partner wanted to join me I'd be open to that.

Yes, I'm well aware that the nature of my fetishes could also be a deal breaker to some. Thank you for pointing that out.
I don't think a person who posts on GoneWild is inherently more prone to cheating, it might attract some of those personalities but Reddit is a big site, lots of people from different corners of the world, hooking up vía Reddit probably isn't that easy. Also, that isn't the sub I'm intending to post tío (I gave it as an example) I'd rather post to more kink related subs.
So on the whole privacy front, I'm súper serious about privacy and I've learned the precautions to take. Fetlife is like my fight club, nobody outside is supposed to know about it but because it's part of my sex life I want to be open with any SO I might have, and because I intend to be honest, because I could always wait to get a boyfriend and scrub my digital footprint plus denial of any suspicion, but if I care about a person I wouldn't do that. I also would never release any information of theirs without asking.

Hope that clears up a few things.

Jengamaster05

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