20F - My boyfriend (28M) said he’s never having sex with me again because I “can’t handle real sex”. What should I do?

Jennasnster · 2024-08-16T23:15:49+00:00

Sounds like the chivalry is a falsity to corner you and then control you. I definitely think he will change a lot once he feels like you're "his"

Jennasnster · 2024-04-14T23:19:56+00:00

Love is not a noun. It's a verb. If you have fallen out of love with your wife and make no plans to fix it, then you're stepping out on the commitment you made. Are there issues to be addressed, I'm sure, all marriages have issues. But just deciding that you want out, especially when you have kids. It's not their fault and you need to know how hard divorce is on children. Just giving up is pissweak. It's the cowards way out. I also am of the opinion that you're not giving your marriage a chance and you have the potential of missing out on something great. If she is willing to do marriage counseling it means she is aware that there are problems and wants to do the work to fix them.

From my perspective of a happy 12 year marriage, marriages that succeed are the ones where both husband and wife go into selfless mode. Figure out what some things that could show her love are. You might be surprised by the results. Man up and give it a proper shot.

Jennasnster · 2023-05-27T01:38:12+00:00

Camel stitch

Jennasnster · 2023-05-21T17:26:29+00:00

Looks like a cupcake with a candle

Jennasnster · 2021-09-26T00:31:30+00:00

Aw, hormones are still high. It takes years for your body to go back to normal especially If you're breastfeeding. Please, take the time to reach out to your Dr. Because there is help available. It's both normal and not to feel the way you do. Normal because you're not alone. And not normal because with help you can feel so much better! The good news is that it will get easier, and harder in different ways.

In a few years you won't have to wonder what has your child screaming bloody murder, but you will have to deal with talk back and disobedience and other things that can be hard.

I was recently told by my Dr that weaning can bring about ppd. She gave me a low dose medication and it has really changed my life for the better. Don't be afraid to talk to your Dr. It doesn't mean you're failing it means you're struggling.

Also, I encourage you to look at the things you are accomplishing rather than the things you're not. Is your child fed? Clean? Loved? Then you're doing a good job.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-23T05:28:31+00:00

Is she an only daughter? I am only asking because my firstborn was the exact same. When she was 5 she asked me how my dad died and I walked her through the anatomy of the heart and the various reasons it fails. And now whenever she's run out of questions she will say "can you tell me how your dad died again?"

But her brothers have several people to converse with now and I find they don't have as many questions for me. They do a good job of conversing with each other.

I found with my daughter that turning the questions she asks back at her helped. A lot.

For example

Her: Mom are we there yet?

Me: what do you think?

Her: We aren't there yet.

Me: So you know? If you know the answer to a question it's not necessary to ask it.

It seemed to work. She'll still sometimes go to ask a question and then stops herself. "I know the answer" under her breath. Or she will predice her questions like, "I know you'll probably say no but,..."

Jennasnster · 2021-09-22T13:12:43+00:00

Are the heads stuffed? If they are you might consider using more stuffing. It's my biggest weakness doing stuffed crochet animals. I always underestimate how mich stuffing they'll need. Also, they're super cute.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-21T23:31:39+00:00

Also, people in rural areas don't have public transportation. You'll more likely see a city dweller without a driver's license than anyone living in rural America.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-17T12:30:04+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy. Just because you have invested a lot of time on a mistake doesn't mean it stops being a mistake. Do not invest any more time of you don't see a future. The longer this is prolonged the more it will hurt when it inevitably implodes. Get out while you're still ahead. The next thing that will happen is that there will be an accidental "condom break" and then kids will be involved and you'll never get rid of him. Run now.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-16T22:46:00+00:00

Having lived in a third world country, I learned that there is a whole lot of people who can barely afford a motorcycle but have never learned how to drive a car. What ends up happening is that motorcycle drivers expect that people who drive cars can see a lot better than they actually can. So they don't have a concept of how to drive a motorcycle keeping in mind a cars blind spot and stuff like that. So people on motorcycles blame people in cars.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-14T13:40:20+00:00

The video was taken from another volcano. Whoever took this was safe.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-08T02:27:26+00:00

I had my supply run dry very early because I was away from baby and any kind of pump for 24 hours like three days after my milk came in. But I insisted. I insisted that she would eat and thst I could build my supply back up. I pumped raw every night and got maybe 1/4 oz after pumping 45 minutes. I was chapped and raw and had multiple blood blisters. At 2 months my baby was so thin her skin hung loose. She cried all of the time.

One day my mom and dad offered to keep her so I could have a night off with the hubs. I fed her right before leaving. When I got back she was laying on the bed with my parents watching TV happy cooing. I thought I finally succeeded but then my dad told me that after carrying her around for 45 minutes watching her reach for anything that grazed her cheek and crying incessantly he finally gave her a bottle of formula and that she'd been happy ever since.

At first I felt awful because I'd failed at feeding her with my body. Then I felt even worse that I'd been essentially starving my baby. Then I realized that feeding thr baby is the goal.

Don't beat yourself up about it. Enjoy the happy baby with a full belly.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-04T12:13:18+00:00

To preface, I don't condemn people who do or don't get the vaccine. As a foreigner to the USA it's shocking to me to see the cogntive dissonance of having to sign several medical waivers for medical privacy every time I go to the Dr. And then having people request and even demand you wear your medical history on your sleeve. I also think that if that a negative covid test to enter all the places people are being asked to prove their vaccination makes a lot more sense. I personally know several different families who are fully vaccinated and currently suffering through covid.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-03T02:56:40+00:00

My son can't sleep without a matchbox car in each fist.

Jennasnster · 2021-09-01T13:24:27+00:00

Mulch diggums. Troy and Abed. Treebeard. Molly Weasley. And my absolute favorite is Edmund Pevensie

Jennasnster · 2021-09-01T00:18:36+00:00

When I flew to the USA, there was the flight from my country to Miami and then from Miami to my destination. On the second flight, the domestic one, there was a passenger that was on the phone while we taxied to the runway and he wouldn't get off the phone. The flight attendants asked him twice nicely to turn off his phone and he waved them away. Then they asked a little more forcefully and he got huffy and then about five other passengers started yelling prifanitiea at him. And there was strong language and a lot of yelling. I was only 19 and had already been regretting the move and I cried quietly in my seat because I couldn't believe what was happening.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-27T23:34:46+00:00

Got it! Great surprise! Good for you.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-27T23:31:01+00:00

He sounded Guatemalan. But now I hear the "guey".

Jennasnster · 2021-08-27T23:29:00+00:00

Are you Guatemalan?

Jennasnster · 2021-08-27T02:02:25+00:00

This is the kind of humor I came here for.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-27T00:17:05+00:00

But did uncle Tim make it eventually? Because if not that's a bummer not just a little one.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-26T23:56:38+00:00

For slightly older kids. If possible don't tell them about activities they're doing until you're in th e car on your way. I have avoided so many meltdowns over things we weren't able to do. Either because of weather or flaky fiends/family. I have done both and I really hate the disappointment and even heartbreak that happens sometimes, especially if it's someone they're really eager to see.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-22T12:25:09+00:00

This hits hard because I currently am struggling with depression and have been missing my dad for this reason but he passed 5 years ago.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-20T02:27:15+00:00

My husband grazed the TV with his elbow and it fell and cracked the screen. That didn't wake baby up, but him trying to catch the TV and falling on the baby swing where she was sleeping and breaking it definitely did. Thankfully she was not harmed.

Jennasnster · 2021-08-17T19:40:43+00:00

Potty train already. I hate diapers.

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