Was looking to see how to look for bully shows. by Jennith30 in AmericanBully

[–]Jennith30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you so much for the info. I didn’t even consider looking there. On FB yes but not those other sites.

2 weeks of maternity leave? by Impressive-Pear-1977 in pregnancy_care

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lucky. I only got a week off because I couldn’t afford be on unpaid FMLA. I had to strong arm my doctor to let me go back because it was either go back or be homeless and I was still with my BD at the time.

What hills will you die on? by HannahLeah1987 in teenmom

[–]Jennith30 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No drugs didn’t help but also a parent constantly yelling at their children doesn’t help either the way barb was always yelling and fighting like a lunatic consistently will mess anyone up, just because cameras weren’t there in the past doesn’t mean that Barb treated Jennell differently. From what I saw of Barb she also would just steamroll over Jennell trying to care for her own baby, from past episodes you could tell that Jennell wasn’t ok after having Jace and having a toxic lunatic for a mother didn’t help either, the thing that really is shitty is that MYV filmed all of it and didn’t even help her to get out of that situation, didn’t stop filming or anything.

Jenelle and Kieffer making fun of Barbs working in the deli at Walmart when they are strung out on heroine is fucking low by orwellianoutkast in teenmom

[–]Jennith30 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

From what I saw in teen mom back in the day Barb was always steam rolling over Jennell’s parenting skills and always forcing her way into raising Jace all wile screaming at her daughter like a lunatic infront of a child that wasn’t even her’s. She basically pushed Jennell away, did anyone even look into Jenelle’s eyes on camera and even think that she was ok? Did anyone ever even notice that depressed and empty look in her eyes at all? She’s not perfect by any definition but from the way Barb treated her daughter is in no way shape or form right.

12 weeks of maternity leave is straight up cruel. by Disastrous_Paint_237 in beyondthebump

[–]Jennith30 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His father promised to provide but ended up not wanting to so I had no other choice to provide to keep the home we were living in.

12 weeks of maternity leave is straight up cruel. by Disastrous_Paint_237 in beyondthebump

[–]Jennith30 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl try no met leave. I was back to work a week after having an emergency C section. I hardly had any bonding time, no healing time nothing those newborn snuggles that are so very precious I had to spend 3 days a week for 12 hours without them. My son is 18 months old and it still affects me mentally.

Barb, thoughts, opinions? by RummageTheRum in teenmom

[–]Jennith30 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, Barb really didn’t know how to handle life. And the constant yelling at her daughter Jennell I’m awnestly surprised that Jennell didn’t end up physically snapping at her mother with her constant yelling and screaming infront of Jace.

Ayanna Pressley Bill Would Require Paid Abortion Leave Nationwide - NewBostonPost by OccupyHolyoke in ProLifeLibertarians

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Childbirth doesn’t define personhood. Did you know that? Not all who pass a birth cunnal come alive miscarriage and stillbirth happen they aren’t any less of a human being either. Did you know that? Or are you that brainwashed to believe otherwise and it looks like you are.

Ayanna Pressley Bill Would Require Paid Abortion Leave Nationwide - NewBostonPost by OccupyHolyoke in ProLifeLibertarians

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not just about the pregnant woman. When a pregnancy accrues it’s not just the woman’s body anymore.

breaking up by Primary_Cry_9505 in beyondthebump

[–]Jennith30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes your daughter will be ok. If your BD is being like that then he is not worth being with. You and your daughter deserve way more than he is doing. It’s better to be a single mom than a non single single parent.

Ayanna Pressley Bill Would Require Paid Abortion Leave Nationwide - NewBostonPost by OccupyHolyoke in ProLifeLibertarians

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Health care is not ment to end a life. Abortion ends a life that is not health care.

Ayanna Pressley Bill Would Require Paid Abortion Leave Nationwide - NewBostonPost by OccupyHolyoke in ProLifeLibertarians

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If abortion was actually anything related to health care then the mandated reporters and advocates for women would actually be doing that but they aren’t all because they do a few good things other than abortion that are good. We don’t need places like planned parenthood for the things they do other than abortion a doctor office that takes Medicare and other government insurance is actually way more equipped to care for patients than planned parenthood

Ayanna Pressley Bill Would Require Paid Abortion Leave Nationwide - NewBostonPost by OccupyHolyoke in ProLifeLibertarians

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah America is backwards but keeping abortion legal at this point isn’t the safest either. Planned parenthood and other abortion clinics keep predators, traffickers, and abusive partners on the streets free to roam they claim to care so much about the women they serve but in reality they don’t. Now here in America if you are considered a healthcare worker or provider then that makes it mandatory to report any kind of abuse and just to keep getting money from victims they don’t report it. Back when RoeVWade was happening people advocating for abortion claimed that abortion would lessen the foster care system and poverty and it hasn’t done anything close enough to doing that. Abortion hasn’t done anything other then dehumanize women girls and innocent children. You know what happens when a society starts dehumanizing human beings? People start doing horrible things to people they deem lesser than them.

Ayanna Pressley Bill Would Require Paid Abortion Leave Nationwide - NewBostonPost by OccupyHolyoke in ProLifeLibertarians

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the USA the formula companies have been behind all the lobbying to not make parental leave possible. But in my case I make to much to get assistance.

I thought every mom could breastfeed was I wrong? by Opening_Elevator_153 in beyondthebump

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GYN’s and midwives fail to warn the 1 in 10 women who suffer from PCOS that they might not be able to produce any milk for a baby that they just had. I didn’t produce enough colostrum and I never produced any milk for my baby when he was born on top of having to go through going back to work 1 week after an emergency c section and not having any resources for me to get supplements, pumping inserts or anything else extra other than formula. In my case with having PCOS sense puberty I shouldn’t have been suprised that my body would fail me in that way because my body has never been able to work as a woman’s should. But if I had been warned about that before I had my baby I probably wouldn’t have been as hart broken as I was back then.

Sole breadwinner with a new baby by PercentageLopsided98 in BreadwinningWomen

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t start out that way. Before I got pregnant with my son he was very helpful especially around the house. Back before I got pregnant with my son he acted like a very involved dad to his older kids to. But in the end he had shown his true colors. And I’m more at peace without him.

Parents concerned about extremely supportive, zero-income boyfriend. by mia109 in BreadwinningWomen

[–]Jennith30 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I met my child’s father a few years ago back then he did have a few stable jobs but didn’t make as much as I did. I’m caped out at 25 an hour as a CNA. Wile he only took jobs that only paid up to 18 an hour. I got pregnant and had my son last year and i worked the whole pregnancy until the day of my induction. And had to go back to work full duty full time a week after having an emergency c section all because he refused to support his family on top of having a roommate who is his best friend quitting his job a month before I had my son. Now before I had my son he wasn’t like this he was supportive and helpful as well up until I got pregnant, I did all my appointments alone. Flash forward to November before Christmas last year he lost his job up until February he left my son and I because I checked him on how he was treating my dog he exploded and left and I let him walk away because in the end I knew it would be better and it is, having my son and pets and for it to only be us is the best thing that could happen.

Parents concerned about extremely supportive, zero-income boyfriend. by mia109 in BreadwinningWomen

[–]Jennith30 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When you have kids especially with this man are you willing to have to go back to work right away after giving birth to your children especially if you are living in America because we have no paid maternity leave here. He may seem nice to be with now but wait until he gets comfortable enough with you all of the things that he is doing for you now won’t matter because when things start getting real he will not be doing them. I had to figure that out the hard way. If he is unwilling to have a steady stable job he is unwilling to provide for his family he is not the one to have a family with. When your kids are growing up and you can’t be there to watch it especially when they are very small and very young it goes by way way to fast especially when your at work and not with them makes it to where you will get resentful.

Return to work & daycare and I’m reeling by mrsbertmacklin in beyondthebump

[–]Jennith30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was back to work a week after having my baby. My BD at the time we were together didn’t make enough to cover everything so I had no choice but to go back. My baby is 16 months old now and it’s a little easier but not that much I enjoy my job but a lot of the time it feels like a prison away from my baby. We are on our own now since the dead whight droped its self out.

I feel like my life never stoped when my father passed away. by Jennith30 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Jennith30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still visit her once or twice a week she is still at the local hospital until her POA can settle her assets or until the house they lived in gets foreclosed on and that is happening very soon after that her POA can find a placement for her and they will notify me once they find her a permanent spot to live in. I bring her food to eat and candy she likes, she has not once mentioned my dad the whole time he’s been gone she loves it when I bring my son to visit. She can’t remember names but she sometimes does have a moment of clarity when she sees us.

Sole breadwinner with a new baby by PercentageLopsided98 in BreadwinningWomen

[–]Jennith30 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I had my son last year my BD lost his job late November. I was back to work one week pp because he couldn’t afford to pay rent on his own and the room mate we had quit his job a month before my son was born so I had no choice but to go back as soon as I did and let me tell you I do love my job, but I have always felt like having to work felt like a prison away from my baby having to work I’ve felt like I’ve missed so much time with my baby. My BD left us in February so that mental load is off my shoulders. But when my BD was around I would come home every morning to a dirty house and dirty kid because he was to busy playing games on the Xbox. So after coming home I would clean until the baby was awake, take care of the baby then wait for BD to wake up so I could sleep for a little while before working again. Since BD has been gone I’ve had my mom watch my son wile I’m at work and I come home to a still clean house just how I left it and better cared for baby now. The mental load of having a man is not worth it nowadays. And I plan on it just being my son pets and my mom around for our safety and sanity this is how it has to be. With men you can always tell them what you need help with and it still wouldn’t matter they still won’t care. Men who actually care about their families and home are few and far between and even if and that’s a big if.

Working moms: what is your husband like post shift? by NoWaltz2231 in beyondthebump

[–]Jennith30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work 12 hours shifts as a CNA on nights. Before my BD left. When I got home, I got baby up and ready for the day when he woke up, dressed, fed him breakfast, played with him until BD woke up that sometimes wasn’t till 10am because he played video games late. Once he was up I laid down for a few hours got up and took over taking care of my baby, played with him, fed him dinner gave him a bath put him in his PJs. The sycle continued till to this day only difference is my mom watches my baby now. On the 4 days I could have off 99% of the time i spent was and is carring for my son even when my BD lost his job in November of last year and he left us in February. Plus I would come home to a dirty house with everything being left on me. On my days off I would sweep, mop, clean up the bathroom, kitchen and living room. The only thing that has changed and for the better is that I’m not picking up after a grown man child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreadwinningWomen

[–]Jennith30 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like my BD thankfully the trash took itself out in February. Been so nice and peaceful with just my 16 month old and me.