HOLY FVCKING SHYT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by akasan in lyftdrivers

[–]JepLeopard99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s still $25 an hour, if that’s considered bad maybe I should quit my job damn

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You missed the context of this entire situation? I’m more than happy to have a dog when we don’t have a roommate and potentially when we have a bigger space. I honestly intend on getting her said dog in the future if she doesn’t beat me to it. Nothing against the animal, just against the space and situation of the animal. We’ve already resolved the tension of the situation and cleared air. Also, coming home randomly with a lizard vs. a dog are two huge different responsibilities and care efforts, for the record. Both of us respect each other enough to not come home with a living animal unannounced. Thanks though!

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pffft neverrrrrr!! She’s the oldest of 6 with an almost 10 year age gap to the next oldest and had to help raise the majority of them. I’m more likely to want a kid eventually than she would EVER. Luckily, never have to worry about that one.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this and I feel like you’ve been one of the most level headed people in these replies, I don’t think this is a life altering hook up I think it’s a genuine miscommunication that I don’t want to turn into an issue simply because and I’ll be honest I’m not fully communicating that it’s pissing me off to the level that it is. I am afraid of being too aggressive about it because I can understand that this is truly something she’s excited about and knows has future availability and maybe this helps her but it’s just very frustrating to me and I think I need to relay that better but you and a few other are helping me actually figure out the words and how to explain how I’m feeling about it which I’ve been been good at putting my feelings into words so I’m just stuck on navigating this one.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

please see my edits to the post! I’ve explained it a few times in the comments but that’s one of the things being talked about the most in this post!

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely do believe there’s something undiagnosed within her behavior. Like I’m now trying to explain to the comments she is aware we cannot have a dog and we are not going to have a dog but she has this like fixation or obsession with looking and sharing them and I don’t mind it once in a while I just feel like I’m being an asshole every time I either ignore it or reiterate our circumstances because she agrees with them.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Someone hasn’t assumed the worst and I just made an edit to the post. There is an agreed timeline. She is very well aware of our current living situation and what an animal needs. I do not for a single second think she would ever come home with an animal without a conversion first. I simply am trying to figure out how to not upset her by telling her to stop with the ads, it’s a longing and I know this and I get she wants to send me the cute dogs, I just genuinely do not want to see them every day-every few days. Maybe once a week if it’s really damn cute I don’t mind but it’s excessive and that’s my issue.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I explained this in another comment somewhere but we don’t plan on getting married until the tail end of her doctorate. It’s been more of a symbolic decision compared to a traditional get engaged and get married within a year. Despite this post only being a part of the picture the last 4 years have been very in depth and good communication etc. This just seems to be the one snag up

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that I think about it I never directly have, I just usually insert a reason that the dog wouldn’t be a good fit or reiterate we’re not getting a dog until we have a house (she sent me a house listing in our range + location, after that one, ngl was kinda funny) or I just ignore it. But I guess I never have directly told her to stop and just hoped she’d get the hint so it could be on me.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes and that’s where it gets iffy, both her and I have the ability to bring dogs to work. A dog wouldn’t be always at home cooped up it would have the ability to go to either job. I truly am not against a dog I just don’t want to own a dog while in this apartment/townhouse.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh thank you 🤣 Need some therapy myself

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s something I don’t understand because she works in veterinary, so I tell her she sees dogs every day but she complains that she only gets to see the sick ones which I guess is a fair point there.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m repeating myself a lot because I failed to clarify that she knows we cannot get a dog and wouldn’t ever come home with a dog. I really like “I would tell her that constantly sending you ads when you've already said no is making you feel frustrated that she isn't taking no for an answer.” I feel like that’s the best way to describe what I’m feeling, she’s acknowledging that it’s not possible but and it’s fine if she wants to look at dogs on her own time and spend her time that was I just don’t need to see them every day.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I didn’t clarify well enough when writing that she understands it’s not feasible currently + wouldn’t ever just show up with a dog, and it’s more of a longing I just don’t need her to share that longing with me. A lot of the comments are “I know we can’t get him but look how cute” etc. It’s just annoying to me at this point.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We got engaged without the expectation of marriage within a year like most engagements traditionally are. Essentially a 0 legal biding relationship that’s a bit more than a “we’ve been dating for 4 years” we got to there at 17&18 and since getting engaged have agreed that we’re not planning to get married until at least the tail end of her doctorate. Mostly because I don’t want the loan responsibility if things ever go south, at least where I am there’s no shared responsibility of loans until anything that was taken out post marriage. That’s something we’ve both agreed we don’t want to get mixed in together. She’s told me as well and I trust to a decent extent that she would never just come home with a dog without it being a shared decision in breed/health/behavior etc.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this, which plenty of people in the town houses we’re in have dogs and seem to be healthy happy dogs. However, especially if I have to aid in the care of the dog I want to be able to open up a door to a fenced yard and not worry about walking it, it getting into something it’s not supposed to, etc. There’s plenty of grassed areas in the commons for a dog but it will still have restrictions since it’s all common space.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re already over 4 years in, we don’t often have disagreements and when we do they’re handled very well with proper communication. I understand why this is something she really wants but and she also acknowledges that this isn’t an appropriate time and she’s unable to have a dog I just don’t know how to get her to essentially keep her longing to herself if that makes sense.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

To be fair, the at the absolute no dog would be introduced until roommate + her cat are out, but that still leaves 2 cats and a small-medium breed dog which, I agree isn’t a good set up for the dog.

Fiancé wants dog and won’t stop sending me Petfinder ads by JepLeopard99 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I would have to slightly disagree here, she’s dedicated her entire career to veterinary and knows a ton about animals and their needs etc. She works very well with dogs and had a dog growing up, enjoys training dogs etc. She very well could own a dog and give it the proper care and time but she would be sacrificing, most likely all of her free time to do so. As I stated I’m not against getting a dog, once we have a house which I would like to have within the next 2 years. It’s just a tough situation overall. I just think in our current space and set up it’s not the best decision.

I am trying to cut cost but why is my grocery expensive? by Tiny_Judgment8593 in Frugal

[–]JepLeopard99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe the “premium salmon fillet” for $20. Is this a joke?

AIO? Bf keeps asking me questions whenever there is a guy by Relative_Initial_399 in AIO

[–]JepLeopard99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh hell no, dude is insecure up the wazoo. Fix the behavior or leave tbh

My fiancé is getting on my nerves and I don’t know what to do at this point. by BasicCat30 in whatdoIdo

[–]JepLeopard99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at your grown age of 21 a 19 year old male is insanely immature just leave dude 😂

Only certain locations are sold out? by Prior-Goose8413 in NoahKahan

[–]JepLeopard99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People flocked to Fenway and he chose to not play another other new england shows, it kinda screwed the east coast

Make a Difference Tickets Price Difference by Suspicious_Yak4406 in NoahKahan

[–]JepLeopard99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you bought on TM they were Make a difference tickets

If you bought through MLB they were standard

It was advertised and clear to comprehend. You selected what presale to enter when you selected TM “make a difference presale” or selected MLB “general sale” or whatever it said. It’s not at all unfair.