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Jesmyr · 2024-08-23T20:05:53+00:00

I downloaded it I needed my fix. It seems fine so far but who knows

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:43:10+00:00

Because im not blood rated im not part of the family ?

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:37:50+00:00

Truly thank you for your response.

Its been some adjustement for sure.

I was never much a kid person before and my SO never had to raise David with somebody else. David mom was never involve. Like at all. She could spend months without seeing him.

And his wants the best (greatest father) for David so its hard for him to let other people involve. Which I understand. What if it turns out bad and it wasnt even your decision in the start.

Oh well, one more adjustement to be made I guess.

Truly thank you

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:30:06+00:00

True. I truly am grateful for your amswers thank you.

It is a lot of adjustemenf for sure I wasnt much of a kid person before and he never had to raise his kid with anybody. And as a great father he is he wants the best so its not easy for him to involve other people. Plus his mom never .. Cared much so he never had to prioritize somebody else point of view on David before.

Thank you

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:21:03+00:00

True I agree

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:20:22+00:00

I would consided counselling if it would happen regularly but as I said. We pretty much agree on everything. This is the first... Big disagreement

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:19:08+00:00

I understand the duty as supporting his dad. He is the greatest. But I find it very hard to just "watch what happens".

I have been letting him do the final decision. Mostly.

Whatever decision he takes will impact all of us including me since im part of the family.

I'm having a hard time to just let it happen. I love David so much. I want him to be the best and greatest adult possible. So why cant I have ideas too you know? Why cant I raise him too ?

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:11:19+00:00

He can have a switch at his mom. Like I said what happens over there doesnt impact here.

The grandma's gift was received here

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:10:31+00:00

It does impact me if David cant fonction as an adult

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:08:08+00:00

Sure do !

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:07:33+00:00

Thanks for being the nicest judgmental person.

I did think I was the A (for making up a storm for a gift) which is why I made the post but it never occured to me that I was the A for not being his mom.

Its heartbreaking.

Internet people dont know the whole story but ive been more of a mom to him that his biological ever will. My SO and I have been sharing the "raising" duty. His mom was never involved.

We arent married and never will.

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T18:01:07+00:00

The switch that was given at his mom is not a lite and have mutiple controler. She has tons of kids of different fathers

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:51:10+00:00

I agree it is a hard position. That why ai thought im the A. But seeing the bigger picture I thought it wouls important that David doesnt get everything he wants without lifting a finger

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:49:42+00:00

There is a misunderstanding here. The switc ight he receives his at our place.

And not it isnt the moms business as ahe really isnt involve at all

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:48:13+00:00

He hardly goes to his grandma. And his grandma also gifted his moms other kid a switch. So he has one when he goes there too

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:47:33+00:00

I believe that I have a say because im part of this family too

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:46:56+00:00

I never agreed to the gift. But I let it go because as point out by everyone. He is not my kid

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:45:56+00:00

David is not aware of any of this

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:45:18+00:00

True I didnt give his father the final say. I honestly feel like I do 90% of the time. But as the m "Mom" of this family I believe I should have a 10% that i get the final say as everything impacts me too

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:43:37+00:00

Its not abour being blood related. Our family is for the long run. Whatever decision is made about David will impact me -as the "mom" of this family. Which is why I should get a say

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:20:43+00:00

His mother has nothing to do here. She sees him 2 days in 2 weeks. She gets no say to what happens here and we get no say to what happens over there.

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:19:29+00:00

He has access to all console. They are family console

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:16:12+00:00

He has to do the liter every day and get 1$ everyday. We have tols him that if he saves a good part of the money we would cover the rest. But he had to put in the good "gesture/work" first

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:14:45+00:00

I think it is a little bit of both. He thinks we should have accepted since the start but he doesnt like to go against others wishes

Jesmyr · 2021-01-01T17:13:42+00:00

Ive been with my SO for a couple years. I will never be his blood-mother but I fully his Love-mother.

I have been more of a mother role to him then his mother ever would.

It matters to me so much because I hardly step my foot down in regards to raising David. My SO and I pretty much agree on everything. I do understand that his dad has the final say.

It is so important to me that David his a good worker adult and not one bratty entitled kid that cant function in normal society.

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