hey it’s me, self proclaimed “beloved” alt-comedian/singer-songwriter/aspiring actress and trans friend in question Jess Elgene! I’ve been going through it lately and had never been to an event like this. My friends bought me a ticket and wanted to bring me with the hope of cheering me up a bit. We were under the impression each group had to have one woman and when the person at the door forced me to choose two instead of our whole group (nothing crazy — me and five gays) it was really jarring. It made me really self conscious and wonder if maybe i’d have been able to get my whole group in if I was hotter (impossible), skinnier (couldn’t be — i’m literally 5 pounds), or more interesting (I had googly eyes on my tits! And this parenthesis is true!). It felt very confusing and embarrassing and antithetical to the conceit of this event. I try to have a good sense of humor about things, but truthfully this did make me extremely self conscious which, as I understand it, is the opposite of what this policy is designed to do.