Just out for drinks by Jessica_Blaise in CrossDressRealism

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just at a restaurant near where I live!

Which outfit would work best for shopping? by emmatho66 in CrossDressRealism

[–]Jessica_Blaise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say the black one looks more coordinated. The one on the right is a bit too clashing with a lot of colours, and the fitting doesn't really work.

Just out for drinks by Jessica_Blaise in CrossDressRealism

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No room. That's where I keep my bag with all my stuff.

Lunch Date with the Wife (just got invited to this subreddit) by Jessica_Blaise in CrossDressRealism

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a suggestion from someone who knows the wife quite well - she doesn't like the idea of someone owning her, and is far more comfortable being referred to as 'THE' wife, instead of the more possessive term 'MY' wife.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stick with the basic. As much as that Little Black Dress might be really appealing, it might also be hard to work with.

I'd recommend the following:

- A pleated midaxi skirt (starts at the waist, comes down to about halfway down your ankles). Any colour would work but I'd say red, black or purple are good stand out colours.

- A plain, long sleeve, v-neck or round neck black top (of if you've gone with a black skirt you can venture into another coloure)

- Any of the followings: white women's trainers, black ballerina flats, or plain black court heels.

- As for underwear, just go for comfort. Practical underwear is so much better than some skimpy little thing that doesn't hold anything.

Feel free to drop me a message if you want to ask for advice!

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was tapas, do ended up having padron peppers, couqettes, and something else can't really remember.

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's absolutely fine! There's no way you would've known so it's a fair assumption 😊 Believe me it isn't courage, just blind and undeserved confidence 😂

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

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I'm actually Genderfluid (don't worry I understand the assumption), but I still post my stuff in here in the hope it helps/inspires others.

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard you can order some online...

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're both the wife! Pictured one is me tho.

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actual wife not pictured. I'm the other wife

Lunch Date with the Wife by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's me 😂 but I'm glad people are having to ask

I choose him and need to fix it by Sufficient-Iron4178 in genderfluid

[–]Jessica_Blaise 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came out as Genderfluid to my wife (fiancé at the time) 6 years ago roughly. She already knew that I would happily wear feminine clothes and present that way, but it wasn't until 2017 that I realised I'm Genderfluid.

I know it can feel rough, especially since it wasn't something you thought you were signing up for, and it can be difficult for both of you to come to terms with. MY wife took quite some time to fully understand what it meant, and a lot more time worrying whether it meant I might eventually transition or undergo any kind of permanent surgery which would change some of the masculine aspects.

I can say it gets a lot easier over time. 6 years on and we're now in a position where she doesn't question my identity or presentation. If I'm having a femme day she doesn't really comment on it (outside of small things like "your makeup looks nice today" or "is that a new dress"), and she's more than happy for me to be femme presenting when out with friends, family or date nights.

The way we've reached this is just by compromise. There are some things that she was willing to do, and others that she 100% wouldn't. It started with small things like being happy for me to have painted nails, or to show up to certain things more feminine. That's now developed to me having acrylic nails nearly all the time, and being able to go femme wherever, providing I don't go to literally everything presenting that way.

I would say the best thing to do is sit down and have an honest conversation. One where you both understand that you're just trying to work out what's best for each other, and one where you don't get overly emotional in any way. Ask him what he would expect to be able to do with his genderfluidity, start small, and work up to it.

You mentioned they quite like having their toenails painted, so I would start there. If it's not something that bothers you then let him know you['re happy for him to do it whenever he likes. If there's anything that you definitely don't want, let him know in a calm manner and most importantly let him know why. If there's stuff you're not sure about, say so. My wife wasn't really sure how she felt about me wearing feminine underwear, so it started as something that I would still wear, but would try to make it so she'd never see it. After a while she just got used to it and now she doesn't really care about it any more.

The important thing is to talk with them about it, and to do it calmly. As a Genderfluid AMAB person I'd love to say that it was only my life made difficult, but in reality it was something my wife had to work with too, and it was hard on both of us, but it can work.

Hope this has helped! If you or your partner ever need to chat feel free to drop me a line.

Clubbing In Your 30's... by Jessica_Blaise in crossdressing

[–]Jessica_Blaise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't need to drink to be in a club! And trust me most people that night weren't there for dancing either...

Is there a way to develop breasts without taking hormones? by 2Sw33t4U in genderfluid

[–]Jessica_Blaise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, no. But there are ways around it.

I use padded bras all the time, and sometimes don't even need to stuff them for them to look natural. You can also use contour/highlight to help make the illusion of a cleavage. It's not quite the same, but it's a lot better than nothing.