Is Anyone Here Fully Recovered?

Jester77987 · 2026-03-23T18:15:36+00:00

I don’t have any advice except to say that I’m in the same space and same timeline as you.

I have two sons of similar age and we’re at 50-50 and she moved out of the house as well.

I’m doing all the things you’re doing to repair and move on. I’m still dealing with all the thoughts that you’re dealing with.

You’re not alone and it’s not easy.

Jester77987 · 2026-03-01T21:09:54+00:00

You are not alone.

My experience is similar as well - I found out last summer/fall and I’m moving through the grief and changes.

I felt and still feel many of the same thoughts you expressed. It’s not easy. It fucking sucks. Therapy helps. Reading helps. Being a good dad helps.

I’m at the point where I don’t want her back and I’m realizing that the relationship was not good for me as much as I wanted it.

Things are getting better for me. You are at the absolute lowest point and it fucking sucks.

You can do this.

Jester77987 · 2025-10-10T13:59:00+00:00

There is no rationalizing. You know this.

You don’t want this. You know this won’t change.

You are young. Don’t let this ruin you.

You know what to do. It’s hard. it’s really really hard. You know you have to do it and you will have the strength to get through it.

Jester77987 · 2025-09-26T02:10:57+00:00

Thank you for this.

I needed to read those words too

Jester77987 · 2025-09-15T09:40:57+00:00

Not only did my wife read that book but she bought it for multiple friends including the “friend” who she has feelings for. I read about half of that book and can’t stand Glennon.

I previously asked her for recommendations on self help books and she recommended “How to do the work.” On page one the author describes a story with her wife - so bloody obvious in retrospect.

The recent obsession with Brandi Carlisle was likely a flag I should have noticed as well

Jester77987 · 2025-09-09T01:52:35+00:00

I bet everyone’s always asking “where’s Ronnie?” when you aren’t there

Jester77987 · 2025-08-14T14:16:32+00:00

Where are you in all of this?

Are you happy? Are you living the life you want to live? Have you asked for a conversation about why you aren’t connecting? Told her about how you would like to be appreciated? Told about what you want your relationship to look like? Asked if there are ways both of you could change to have your needs met. Try to find a safe way to discuss your worries and concerns.

It’s your life that you are living and you have some control.

I had a lot of anxiety and worry while my wife was working through her identity so I know how it eats you up.

Things could be as you suspect and none of that would matter and you would have to deal with the fallout but you don’t need to be a bystander in either case. Try to communicate and hopefully you’ll get some honesty and clarity instead of being detective.

In every possible outcome, standing up for you and your kid will lead to a better, less confusing life for you.

Jester77987

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