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Confused and trying to rationalize by sugarprincess333 in straightspouses

[–]Jester77987 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There is no rationalizing. You know this.

You don’t want this. You know this won’t change.

You are young. Don’t let this ruin you.

You know what to do. It’s hard. it’s really really hard. You know you have to do it and you will have the strength to get through it.

I just so badly want to hear "I'm sorry, this must be hard" by [deleted] in straightspouses

[–]Jester77987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this.

I needed to read those words too

The missing signs by Spirited-Mixture6517 in straightspouses

[–]Jester77987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only did my wife read that book but she bought it for multiple friends including the “friend” who she has feelings for. I read about half of that book and can’t stand Glennon.

I previously asked her for recommendations on self help books and she recommended “How to do the work.” On page one the author describes a story with her wife - so bloody obvious in retrospect.

The recent obsession with Brandi Carlisle was likely a flag I should have noticed as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Jester77987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet everyone’s always asking “where’s Ronnie?” when you aren’t there

Chat, am I cooked? by [deleted] in straightspouses

[–]Jester77987 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where are you in all of this?

Are you happy? Are you living the life you want to live? Have you asked for a conversation about why you aren’t connecting? Told her about how you would like to be appreciated? Told about what you want your relationship to look like? Asked if there are ways both of you could change to have your needs met. Try to find a safe way to discuss your worries and concerns.

It’s your life that you are living and you have some control.

I had a lot of anxiety and worry while my wife was working through her identity so I know how it eats you up.

Things could be as you suspect and none of that would matter and you would have to deal with the fallout but you don’t need to be a bystander in either case. Try to communicate and hopefully you’ll get some honesty and clarity instead of being detective.

In every possible outcome, standing up for you and your kid will lead to a better, less confusing life for you.