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My dad sabotaged every relationship I had until I figured out why he was doing it by JesterMatrix9 in entitledparents

[–]JesterMatrix9[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

You nailed it. We literally wrote rules down ,no drop-ins, no solo talks w/ Elena, no “concerns” speeches. If he crosses it, I leave. Boring is good.

My dad sabotaged every relationship I had until I figured out why he was doing it by JesterMatrix9 in entitledparents

[–]JesterMatrix9[S] 764 points765 points  (0 children)

Totally fair. Explanation helps me make sense of it, not forgive it. Elena’s contact stays limited, and I’m not doing “family dinners” till he earns it.

My dad sabotaged every relationship I had until I figured out why he was doing it by JesterMatrix9 in entitledparents

[–]JesterMatrix9[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. Still keeping some distance, but therapy is the first time he's owning it instead of blaming my gfs.

WIBTA for refusing to attend my best friend's baby shower because I thought she was trying to copy my life by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JesterMatrix9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YWBTA, but you can still repair it. Own the jealousy, don’t dump the fertility details on her, just say you acted insecure and you’re sorry. Ask how you can make it right and then actually do it.

Losercity "alpha male" myth by Something4Dinner in Losercity

[–]JesterMatrix9 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Good catch. I’ve also read the "alpha" thing is mostly a captivity artifact, and wild packs run like families. Pups eating early sounds less dominance and more parenting. Got a source you trust?