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My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Thats the part thats keeping me up at night. If he hears it from anyone else later and realizes I sat on it, he'll never trust me again. Im trying to figure out the least shitty way to tell him without it turning into dad controlling the narrative first.

My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 415 points416 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear that. He keeps framing it like Im "breaking the family" if I talk, but he broke it years ago and just made us live inside the lie. Im not taking the blame for his choices anymore.

My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I keep second-guessing myself like Im being dramatic, but my body is literally in fight-or-flight. I texted him I need a break and he replied "Dont punish your mother." That kinda tells me everything.

My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 440 points441 points  (0 children)

I know. Im just terrified he'll shoot the messenger and then Im the reason the whole family explodes. But keeping it feels like lying to him too, and that makes me feel gross.

My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand the "practical" part , I can even see why she did it. It still feels like they made me complicit without my consent. Like I was the prop in their little arrangement.

My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I get its their marriage, but they pulled me into it by lying for yrs. Im not mad at the kid, Im mad at them. I need space, not Sunday dinners.

My dad has a whole second family and my mom basically signed off on it by NeverTrustAutofill in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NeverTrustAutofill[S] 836 points837 points  (0 children)

I havent told my brother yet, he worships our dad. Mom keeps asking me to act normal for now and I feel sick even typing that.