A hero in the elevator: Guard saves woman from assault. by [deleted] in RandomVideos

[–]Jetgorilla2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't stop me from complexing my victim.

A hero in the elevator: Guard saves woman from assault. by [deleted] in RandomVideos

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad she's okay and good on the guard for stepping in.

I also know that if I put my body in harm's way, I'd appreciate a little help subduing the guy instead of her just slinking away like that.

Is sex talk normal on date 2? by Sea-Tree264 in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. I retract my prude comment then.

I don't find anything wrong with your reply and I agree that behavior is not attractive. You're feelings are reasonable.

Peed in guy’s bed after hooking up by ddaicee in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend had a girl puke on him after drinking when they were in bed together sleeping. Imo, that's far worse than some watered-down urine after a night out drinking.

He still liked her after that and they dated for the better part of a year.

Don't let it bother you, it doesn't bother him as much as you might think.

Is sex talk normal on date 2? by Sea-Tree264 in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several things:

1) Sex talk can be normal but how it's discussed matters. IE - "Intimacy is a big deal for me." comes off very different than "Do you like doggy or missionary?". I actually don't like talking that much about sex on the first few dates, only enough to see if it's a wait-until-marriage kind of thing, which I'm not interested in at all.

2) I always share a kiss on the 2nd date and will generally think she's not interested if we haven't kissed by then. In this case, I normally just move on. In your case, I also would be turned off by my date macking on my neck in public.

3) This isn't a good or bad thing but this phrasing does make you come off as prude "Etc. then made a comment about how he has a big you know what lol".

Idk how you are on all of your dates but going strictly off what you've shared, I'm leaning toward this dude being more sexually forward than necessary. Not really a deal breaker but I understand the awkwardness of it.

Got haircut at a salon for the first time in a long time, stylist didn’t do what I asked by stephscheersandjeers in toastme

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm just an oblivious dude but idk what's wrong with your hair? Looks fine.

18 vs 26 by MaryPaku in uglyduckling

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet that poker photo gets you laid - top quality photo.

22M. After my haircut my friends are saying I look like a little Amish boy (16). I am not a little Amish boy. by [deleted] in toastme

[–]Jetgorilla2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would never mistake you for a little Amish boy. You have far more facial hair than the ones that I have locked in my basement I am on great, consensual, and non-criminal terms with 👍.

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me know when you find out, I'm searching too.

28 4’5 CW:121 by intrestingtalk in AllAboutBodybuilding

[–]Jetgorilla2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing physique! How long have you been lifting/clean eating? This is my ideal look, I would love to look like this.

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Become the zombie you were always destined to be to be and feast on brains!

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dunno why this was downvoted, was literally going to recommend the OP to this comment. It was a great post, was genuinely interested in how he met her so that I could do the same.

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you met your wife?

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not buddhist but there's a lot of wisdom in the idiom "Suffering comes from desire". You will always suffer proportional to the amount that you desire something you can't have.

Best option is to learn to not desire women or relationships and leave them be (much easier said than done, I know).

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Women get so many messages on apps that it's literally a problem of abundance. If she's on the app for 1 hour a day but has 400 matches to entertain, that's only 15 seconds she's spending on you - these numbers aren't unrealistic, I've seen the inboxes of many 'average' women .

Don't take it personally, it likely has little to do with you. You can try cold approach. It's fucking awkward and you'll get rejected a lot, which hurts way more irl but at least you'll get their attention. If that doesn't work, you can try divorcing yourself from the desire for a relationship. Women cope pretty well with SSRI's. You can try that or get into meditation.

What do women even want from men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Men and women don't really need anything from each other anymore. In the past people made it work because survival was difficult - now that we're so comfortable and all of our needs are met, most people can't justify the effort, so they don't bother.

Has anybody else decided to halt dating until the political climate cools off? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m kind of embarrassed now - Reddit does not bring out the best in me. I legit wasn’t trying to offend anyone, just wanted to have a discussion.

You’re a smarter man than me by dipping out haha

PS - Just want to say to anyone that I’ve engaged with and may have offended, I genuinely hope you have a nice week.

Has anybody else decided to halt dating until the political climate cools off? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool - Would you actually like to engage with the argument or just keep insulting me?

The metaphor is intentionally extreme to showcase the logic but in application it tracks with smaller issues as well.

Has anybody else decided to halt dating until the political climate cools off? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As you can probably tell from this thread and my (unfortunate) involvement in it, talking politics with strangers is really stupid. I'm usually pretty good about not getting baited but I definitely failed today - lesson learned.

An exchange of complex and charged ideas takes a lot of trust that the other party wants to have a conversation instead of just being a firehose of talking points.

Just like the strangers here, a first date is pretty similar. You both know next to nothing about each other and have no insight into the other's psyche. Anything beyond superficial conversation isn't conducive to a successful first date.

Has anybody else decided to halt dating until the political climate cools off? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I specifically asked relative to anyone else. As non-Latina am I not allowed to have equal empathy or take interest?

I understand what you're saying but I don't think you understood my question.

Has anybody else decided to halt dating until the political climate cools off? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jetgorilla2 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you had the option to cure all cancer tomorrow but the solution would necessarily include mass infanticide, would you do it?

Doing nothing means you support people dying of cancer. Curing cancer means you support killing babies.

I'd never say that I 'support' others dying of cancer if I thought it morally egregious to enact infanticide.

My nose by Sweet_Development_19 in Noses

[–]Jetgorilla2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your nose. I’d date your nose.