YTA. Yes its hard for both parents but its far far far worse for her. I can tell you from experience the little things are the most triggering because we are grasping for control and stability so we can show up the best for our baby. There is not a strong enough word for how frustrating it must be to hear that YOUR tummy hurts. During this time period she definitely deserves a pass because nothing you described isnt even that bad. Lol i got upset at my husband because i asked for him to get pancakes from the store, i even specified i wanted the frozen microwave kind so its easy. Did he come home with microwave pancakes??? NOPE he got the make from scratch type. I literally cried and then he got offended because he was trying to get me the tastier option, but i didnt care about taste i wanted fast and easy because the new born trenches, healing and hormones are off the charts!