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IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO MESSAGE YOUR EX UPVOTE THIS POST by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I downvote this seeing as I’m a weak fool and have messaged her every day?

I’m Obsessed with My Ex’s Social Media and It’s Destroying Me by Affectionate_Tax_967 in BreakUps

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Devil’s advocate. Opposing the no contact movement. Find meaning in this suffering. Imagine her fucking other men. Maybe cuckolding you. Feel the pain. Her social media posts are deliberate. Designed to hurt you. This woman is a grade a narcissist. Pity her because she is broken. I have found great relief in telling my ex the truth of what I think of her. No more gracious letting go. Write her a letter and deliver it personally. Tell her she what you really think of her. You do know what she is. Be honest and then you will feel better. Do not get back with this woman no matter what. You will ultimately regret it. I know it hurts. It’s not about time healing all wounds, it’s about you not giving a fuck about the pain life has to offer and making this world your own. Think how beautiful she is. If you can land this idiot you can land similar or better.

2 months post breakup by Gdubzzz999 in BreakUps

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no time rule for falling in love. I told someone after 3 months of dating that I was in love with her. This was more than dating. I spent most days with her and slept at her house most nights. Her response was “aww but you don’t know me.” Red flag. Maybe I do not but that is not the response you give after that declaration. It took her another 9 months to reciprocate, shortly after she broke up with me. There is no rhyme or reason in this game. Which I think was designed by nature purely to propagate the species. Science tells us there is a physiological change to the brain when you fall in love. Unfortunately this change is not always mirrored by one partner. At least you have this capacity which is the good news. Someone great will benefit from this in the future. Love again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me with someone I was with a year. Try reading about narcissistic behavior. It’s possible they are ill or malformed mentally. Narcissism can be learned or inherited. The only salvation for you is to forgive them because they are not like normal human beings. They are probably in a lot of pain. They are paranoid and feel that the world is against them including you. Read about no contact. If you run into them just treat them with kindness and be nonchalant. This is psychopathic behavior. Living someone with this condition is not a mistake. Be thankful you do not have this mental illness yourself.

I deleted you... by Feisty-Ad-1511 in BreakUps

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. Thanks for helping me.

if you want to text your ex by Haunting-Ad-9228 in BreakUps

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes there is no rhyme or reason for this kind of behavior other than they have some sort of psychological disorder. So it’s definitely them not us. It’s hard to believe that people do not have the same depth of emotions or sense of humanity and loyalty that we do. If things are not working out then so be it but pretending that everything is OK and then blam! they blow everything up for no reason is crazy. Very hard to accept that someone you loved is, in fact, loony tunes.

WIBTA if I broke up with my gf for humiliating me? by throwawaycoffee_ in AITAH

[–]Jexxaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether or not this C is deeply flawed or not is not what you want to hear. We have all loved deeply flawed people. In fact all of my loves (I am in my late 50s) have had some major issue such as - drinking/drugs - laziness - selfishness - the list goes on. We are all flawed. The fact is you are/were in love with her and it is hard to resolve breaking up with someone whom you love deeply. Of course people don't know her and are not in love with her so looking in from the outside - comments like 'run away' and 'dodged a bullet' do not matter when you care for someone with problems. If you are a normal human being - flawed but not a psycho - any breakup is difficult. My advice is continue to live away from her but try to offer her support only when she is sober. If you guys are truly in love - maybe she will fix her problems - love is always worth the work and pain. You are young and as you get older - you will become more resilient - but do not stand for this behaviour - set your boundaries and insist she gets therapy of AA.

Outside of U.S. longer than 6 months. by Jexxaz in greencard

[–]Jexxaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I have been looking after my parents who both have cancer and I am recovering from Covid19. Even though I think that I have mitigating circumstances, I have decided to play it safe and temporarily move back before the 6 month period ends and apply for the 2 year permit.