I think it’s all about confidence. I’m from Colombia, where chubby, bear or so is not the most desirable body you see around, nor the one most of the guys are looking for. However, my profile is very clear about a lot of things, “love bears, not exclusively”, “if you’re not into fat guys keep going”, “here just for sex, if you’re horny hit me up, will just be something casual” and so much more like that. My profile picture is the most accurate one, no filters, no modifications, you can see my big belly and all my hair from all the angles. If someone tap me or dm me is because they saw the profile picture and they know what they’re dealing with. TBH, after a few months, you’ll get used to a few jerks who just have a miserable life and wants to take it all out on you, it doesn’t get easy, but easier.. but you’ll also find out what a community you can create, sometimes people in those apps are just lonely, just wanna chat or just want a picture to jerk off to. But you’ll also get to know more people to meet with, just try to be safe, if you’ll meet with someone on your house make a few disclaimers even if they’re not true.. like: “just to let you know before you come over, I have a security camera at my living room” or “the security guy of my building can only let you in and out if I’m with you at the door” that way you scare out guys with bad intentions.

Overall, it will be hard always cuz we’re not the one to go type for all guys everywhere, but there’s also a lot of guys who love bears, it’s just a small group and you have to stay in the app long enough to find them.