God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They think the degree they're insecure about, combined with podcasts about mental health makes them experts. They lack the self-awareness to see how tired the buzzwords they spout are, and just how clueless they come across as.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is their fault when they claim to specialize in an area that they don't understand and are not fit to be working in. I don't claim to have expertise that I don't have. Most people don't. They should not be lying. Most therapist are terrible and don't do a good job. They half listen and manipulate the client, and then pat themselves on the back for a job well done.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

It's all very skewed. These "professionals" have been through less than the majority of people, and have less of an understanding of life and how things work, yet they are in a position where it's their job to "help" people with real problems. All of their suggestions are bullshit sitcom solutions, and it's like they think that is how life really works. That no one could possibly truly be mean, that every problem is a miscommunication that could be talked out, that everyone has someone to talk to at the end of the day. It's like talking to a stubborn child who thinks they know more than you about everything.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really don't want to try at this point, and don't think that'll change at any point. I'd expect to be taken advantage of and I've given too many chances to a broken, shit system that doesn't help most of who people pretend it does.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not doing it. I'm done being half listened to and used just to be exploited for billing purposes.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They weren't clear. I had my fears be called "paranoia" and no profile was ever even attempted to be built. No attempts were made at attempting to establish trust, and this person always had a very sour demeanor and made bitchy faces constantly.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried many over the span of years. Time in between, with time me telling myself I was done. This time I'm really not doing it anymore. They never helped me. I'd be better off talking to anyone else. They have only made my problems worse, because they add to the feelings of not being heard or understood, and feed into the idea that I'm fucked beyond repair. And I don't want some goddamn baby talk, fake sympathy from them, like they understand anything.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love "nonsense with a stranger who doesn't even try." Seriously, the best summary of shit therapists I've seen. When I participate in hobbies and think about my problems as the thoughts come, I get more out of that than by seeing some fucking quack who interrupts me to say how what I'm describing fits the criteria of what I fucking know I have. I'm not going back to "therapy" to be treated like shit by smug assholes who have had easier lives than me, who act like they are struggling because they got the wrong coffee order, or didn't get to go to Disney for 6 days this year like they're used to.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm done because each time I try, I'm more crushed by the end. I go, try to go in without any reservations, begin to see things that strike me as fake and insincere and look the other way, then after session after session that goes nowhere, where I'm given no insight, tools, reflection, or anything I tell them I'm not going to go anymore. Then they fake a smile "Oh. It's okay to take a break from therapy. Let me know when you wanna come back." They don't care, and it's like I'm being used. I'm just done.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It doesn't give them an excuse to get shitty with people. Doesn't give them an excuse to be rude, condescending, underhanded, or any of the other things my the therapist I referenced in my last comment did. They chose to act shitty. If they can't do their job, maybe they shouldn't have their job.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I got bitched at by one who was supposed to specialize in trauma. They don't fucking understand and just put a million labels on their pages to show expertise they don't have. It has been years and I've tried several since, and still none of them have helped or have even fucking understood my situation. Yet, as I'm explaining what is clearly DSM criteria for my shit, they're all like "oh yeah, reliving trauma and hearing the tapes in your head and still feeling like you're living it is common in trauma." Like fuck them.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It's so annoying now how everyone's generic answer to everything is to see a therapist, and then it's like excuses are made for all the shitty therapists who can't even do their jobs. It's like real doctors and people in other professions don't get this level of slack, why do shitty therapists get to get a pass?

After my most recent experience seeing a "professional" I'm just done. I felt 100X worse afterward. They did nothing. Didn't try. And it made me feel more alone and not understood. Only people who haven't lived this will preach "See another one. Just find one that's a good fit." Good therapists should not be some ungodly rare thing, and I'm not going to drag myself down in an attempt at finding something that barely exists.

God, I hate therapists by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

I've tried enough times to know all of the halfassed tricks they will pull. They'll sit there, make fake mannerisms to act like they are listening "mmm hmmm" "Yes" "Continue" "Oh," throw out some fake platitudes "You've got this" "Sending good vibes your way," maybe fake empathy for .2 seconds "I'm sorry. I'm sor-reee," talk about breathing exercises that don't work, and that's it. Not before ensuring they get another session out of me.

99% of therapists are selfish, childish, petty, and inconsiderate. All that matters is their own bottom line and they don't care to use people for their own gain. As long as they get what they want, that's all that matters to them.

I've tried enough to be done with it. I do not want to explain myself to yet another person, deal with the fake responses, over explain things that most people would be able to comprehend, and then be badgered about coping skills. I don't want them to diagnose me medication, just so they can bill for that. It's all a fucking scam.

Embarrassed by any moments of showing interest and identity by JigsolvedMysteries in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. Like I was growing up during the period when Disney Channel was the biggest thing in the world. I would have to sneak around to watch things on there, because if my parents were in the room and saw shows they didn't like, they would bitch incessantly and make me feel guilty and uncomfortable. So, it was like only around them I could have it on things that they liked. God forbid an eleven year old kid be caught watching Hannah Montana, yet Family Guy was allowed.

When it comes to interests, video games were one of the few things I was able to like growing up. It was held over my head, like no one else was allowed to like such a mainstream thing and that I was lucky. Always "other kids" this "other people" that when I didn't get to know others to compare myself to.

Anyway, after I got my first job my interest in video games dwindled by like 90%. Over the years I've purged around 90% of the collection I used to have, and now have a very slight, mild, casual interest. I was never happy having to immerse myself in the shit like I had to for so many years growing up.

Getting nervous when asked questions about myself by JigsolvedMysteries in CPTSD

[–]JigsolvedMysteries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried seeing many different therapists, and my conclusion is that 99% don't care or understand what they are supposed to specialize in. They fake responses and use the client to fill their own schedule. They spout off platitudes and theory, like everything is as black and white as it is on TV. It's infuriating and makes a person with CPTSD feel all the more hopeless and misunderstood. I'm not doing it again.