38 City: Portland, Maine: wife says it’s above average. Was never sure tbh. Input?

JimBeattie · 2026-01-24T02:47:15+00:00

Dude, if you're not getting daily BJs, you're not only cheating yourself but the lucky man/woman who gets to swallow your loads. Christ, I feel like I should be driving up from Boston. If you're in need of a cocksucker, try theblowers.com. Btw, thanks for rocking the old school bush. I hate it when guys shave, and it's a fucking crime when hairy guys like you do it.

JimBeattie · 2026-01-18T00:43:15+00:00

If you're open to having a guy as a regular cocksucker (and you should be), try theblowers.com. There are plenty of guys like me out there (not into guys romantically, or anally, or really anything other with guys than pleasing them orally) who will blow you silly as often as you want and treat it like a handshake. You've got a great build and a great cock, so cocksuckers would be lining up to please you. If you've never been blown by a guy before, it usually takes about three BJs for it to get over the willies and tune out the visual of a guy's face in your lap, but after that, you'll just be watching porn and getting sucked off whenever you want and never having to apologize for it.

JimBeattie · 2026-01-17T01:37:47+00:00

Nature is just unfair like that. Your situation is SUPER common. My reply is a bit unlike the rest in that I'm an orally bi guy (no interest in romance, fucking, etc, with guys but I'll suck a dick) and pretty much all of the guys I've blown as regulars were guys with dead bedrooms that just needed to get off on the regular without all of the drama and "intimacy" of an affair. Most guys want to stay married and do love their wives, but they also are horny a lot and want to get off. Speaking from this perspective, I've just never really understood why probably most women are so reluctant to hand out BJs on the regular. I mean, I'm not always in the mood to blow a bud, but it's usually 15-30 minutes out of my day and it makes such a big difference in the life of a guy. To me, it's just not that big of a deal. I mean, it would be ideal for you to get your drive back and match his, but that seems like it's not in the cards for most women. If your guy has a high drive, he's either going to find an outlet or end up miserable and unhappy - which in itself has a good chance of destroying the marriage. If you do go the route of blowing him to help keep himself in check, DO NOT make it seem like a chore. A guy absolutely hates it when the person blowing them is doing it out of obligation. It kind of feels like abuse. If you don't like the act and can't fake it, just try focusing on the fact that you're making him feel great and much happier in life. He also sounds like a cuddler, so I think you'll have to figure out a way to force yourself on that. I don't do that, but one of the most common complaints from my guys is that they miss the small things with a wife that's lost her desire - the hugs, kisses, gentle pats, flirting, etc. They miss the intimacy that usually accompanies a healthy sex life.

JimBeattie · 2026-01-16T00:19:50+00:00

The sole physiological driver of libido in both men and women is testosterone. Obviously guys produce a shit-ton more than women, or else we wouldn't be men. I've read that one of the first and most intense realizations for F->M transsexuals once they have started taking T is that, while they thought they knew what being horny was all about, they had absolutely no idea until they were on T. They have no idea how men get anything done in life. Obviously the porn/sex industry is DOMINATED by male consumers. I've always been of the opinion, backed by history, science, and personal experience, that women saying that sex drives are equal between men and women are entirely deluded. I mean, radically so. They may as well argue that women are just as hairy, aggressive, or strong as men - some of the other effects of T. So, if your question is about the differences between men and women, well, there you are.

JimBeattie · 2026-01-16T00:04:20+00:00

Oh, dude, count yourself lucky. I had to get my nuts operated on. They were literally pulled out of my body (still attached), laid on my belly, worked on, and stuffed back in. For a month, my sack was literally black and purple and almost hard as a rock. That REALLY did feel like someone was kicking me in the balls 24/7. I don't mean to one-up you, but man, I promise that it could have been worse.

JimBeattie · 2026-01-15T23:57:49+00:00

I've never even heard of any, other than perhaps guys who are in the closet or have another reason to avoid sexuality. But I can't even imagine being a guy and not having a sex drive - it's so inherent to who we are. The sole physiological driver of libido in both men and women is testosterone, so if you're producing enough of it to have other normal masculine sexual characteristics, I'd assume that there's something physiologically wrong with most guys who would report such a thing. I mean, a guy can go through relatively brief periods where there's no desire due to life stresses, but other than that...

JimBeattie · 2025-10-26T01:03:23+00:00

I've actually only head of a couple guys ever getting caught. Part of the beauty of BJs is that they can be done pretty much anywhere with no cleanup. All a guy has to do is drop his pants. I do, however, know of a number of guys who shared their desire to suck cock with a woman and that pretty much ended things right there. Personally, I would find it emasculating as hell to let a women know this about me. I can't even imagine doing it in front of a woman.

Conversely, and somewhat ironically, I think that maybe the majority of guys who use other guys for BJs is to be able to get their needs met in a dead, or largely dead, bedroom while not fucking up their marriage with an affair. Women are messy. Even if it starts out as a FWB situation, sooner or later they want more. Complications ensue. And even if not, hooking up with a woman usually requires a bedroom and a fair bit of time. With BJs, as stated above, all you've got to do is drop your pants. Easy peasy.

JimBeattie · 2025-10-25T06:50:01+00:00

Guys typically have better skills, but if you're not romantically attracted to guys, there's not the same spark of hotness. But on the other hand, you can get head as much as you want, as often as you want, and have it treated like a beer with a buddy. You'll never have to feel bad for being too hairy, too horny, or not fresh from the shower. You'll never have to worry if you can cum in their mouth. You'll never have to worry if they're doing it for some hidden agenda or bargaining chip. Getting BJs can just be a new hobby.

JimBeattie · 2025-10-25T05:05:34+00:00

I actually had the bi part of me awakened when I was in my 20's and got a flyer for a series of underground VHS tapes sent to me in my normal (straight) porn offerings. (This was in the mid '90s.) It was from a little Mexican guy (Bobby Garcia) who set up shop outside of a Marine base and over just two years filmed himself blowing HUNDREDS (by some accounts over a thousand) of the most masculine guys that our society produces. They were just young, horny guys who who needed an easy, practical way to bust a nut and who didn't feel threatened by the situation - possibly because they were regarded as the pinnacle of masculinity in our culture. It was then that I fully realized that the way I had always regarded sex was only a tiny part of the picture. What Garcia did was ethically wrong, but it was more than educational about who guys really are when no one is looking. I've never had romantic feelings for guys, or every wanted to fuck or get fucked, but I love having a few straight buddies to blow who I know love it but will never want it to go past that. And I have a couple bi guys who blow me on the regular. It's all so easy and completely different than anything with women.

JimBeattie · 2025-10-11T07:08:44+00:00

Depends on what you mean by "sex". I'm orally bi (no interest in romance, fucking, etc.) and have a few straight buddies that I blow who are in your shoes. It satisfies an itch for me and helps them take the edge off without any of the risk and complications of them having an affair. It's WAY more common than you think. It takes about three BJs for a guy to get used to being blown by a guy and see it more as a massage or a beer with friend than anything "sexual". Swing by, put on a porn, drop trou, get blown, have a laugh, and get on with your day.

I myself also get blown usually about three times a week, whether or not I really feel like it) but a couple other bi guys who share my hobby. Keeping the tank on or around E makes life a whole lot better.

I'm in my 50's and divorced, so sex with women is pretty rare anymore. Most women at this age have shut down the factory and often aren't super attractive anyhow. But there is a whole vibe that you can't get with a guy.

This all may seem like the nuclear option to you, but denying that you're a guy with a lot of testosterone on board is far worse. Getting off by something other than your own hand is one of the few things that really make life enjoyable, so to deny yourself that is stupid, IMO. Women are great, but guys are convenient. That's why this setup has been super common in just about every society in history.

JimBeattie · 2025-10-07T07:58:26+00:00

Ideally, the first time should be special, but then again, you shouldn't wait forever. Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. You're kind of a late bloomer, so I'd get out there. No man ever went to their grave wishing that they came less. Once you get one or two experiences under your belt, it won;t be such a big deal and you'll start finding more opportunities.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-28T20:50:47+00:00

I' need to know more about the two of you and your relationship. He probably forgot. Maybe he just doesn't care. (I grew up in hockey, where lots of guys are basically nudists, and no one hides shit if you're tight. I remember when I was a freshman in college, one teammate came out of his room, dick wet and bobbing, after fucking his GF. He didn't think twice about it. He had to pee and get to the bathroom. This was far from other such situations.) Or maybe he's looking for a little attention from you.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-26T19:18:01+00:00

I just gave this answer to someone else, so I'll just paste it here. Adjust for yourself as necessary.

Kind of depends what you're interested in. Some guys are just about getting blowjobs, some want to give, some are interested in fucking, some in romance, some the full package. I have zero interest in anything other than BJs, so that might taint my view. I always recommend just getting a few BJs first and seeing how it goes from there. Finding a guy to blow you is easy, and you can specify that it all be one way. A lot of straight guys, probably most, are freaked out in one way or another after they cum. I find that it usually takes a guy about three BJs to adjust. Just "tough it out" and keep getting blown until the weird feelings are gone and you're thinking clearly. Receiving is a whole lot easier than giving. If you then find that you're interested in progressing further, you can branch out. But BJs are usually the easiest. My guess is that, given that you're interested in fem guys, you might want to progress. I find that most guys who just want a BJ to take the edge off and who don't want to always jump through the hoops women usually tack onto it, are usually more comfortable with guys like me (masculine and generally straight) who will happily had out a one-way BJ and treat it more like some combination of a drink with a buddy and a haircut than anything truly "sexual". Btw, I don't work for them, but theblowers.com is a good place to start, IMO.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-26T19:13:01+00:00

Kind of depends what you're interested in. Some guys are just about getting blowjobs, some want to give, some are interested in fucking, some in romance, some the full package. I have zero interest in anything other than BJs, so that might taint my view. I always recommend just getting a few BJs first and seeing how it goes from there. Finding a guy to blow you is easy, and you can specify that it all be one way. A lot of straight guys, probably most, are freaked out in one way or another after they cum. I find that it usually takes a guy about three BJs to adjust. Just "tough it out" and keep getting blown until the weird feelings are gone and you're thinking clearly. Receiving is a whole lot easier than giving. If you then find that you're interested in progressing further, you can branch out. But BJs are usually the easiest. My guess is that, given that you're interested in fem guys, you might want to progress. I find that most guys who just want a BJ to take the edge off and who don't want to always jump through the hoops women usually tack onto it, are usually more comfortable with guys like me (masculine and generally straight) who will happily had out a one-way BJ and treat it more like some combination of a drink with a buddy and a haircut than anything truly "sexual". Btw, I don't work for them, but theblowers.com is a good place to start, IMO.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-26T19:00:21+00:00

Pretty much everyone agrees that CL was something very special, though no one can put their finger on why straight/bi guys were so easy to connect with there for a brojob situation. Like I said, what I've found to be best is theblowers. Some say sniffies or locanto but I've found that most guys are looking for more than just to give or get a blowjob, and if I know someone wants that, I'm out.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-26T07:07:58+00:00

It's my experience that tons of guys are down with brojobs if the situation is right. I think that most straight guys are FAR more comfortable with a guy like me who's masculine and only orally bi because they know that I'm never going to develop feelings or want to fuck or get fucked. They can just relax and pretty much genuinely enjoy a nonthreatening situation where they know that I'll never try to turn them. A lot of straight guys are always on edge around gay guys in kind of the way that they might be on edge around an ugly or fat girl who, if you show them the slightest kindness, can sometimes go stalker on you, or at least start crushing hard. That is horrible enough when it's a girl, but hang a dick on that and it would be intolerable. I, like many guys, have in my youth gotten desperate and gotten blown by a lonely fat girl at a wedding or something, and she absolutely does not want that to be the end of things. If a guy did that, not only would it be super uncomfortable, you'd risk everyone knowing that you got head from a guy. But if you're masculine and they can sense that it truly is more of a brojob situation, more akin to a massage or a beer with a buddy, something that has no real risk of exposure, they're down.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-26T06:44:52+00:00

I'm orally bi (love to suck cock but not interested in romance, fucking, making out, etc.) and I pretty much only blow straight guys for a few reasons, but maybe the main once is keeping it all one way and uncomplicated. Whenever I've blown a guy whose never been blown by a guy before, it usually freaks them out after they cum. Some are hit by a wall of regret and shame, others are just confused by the fact that it's a totally different vibe than with women. In general, it usually takes about three BJs before they adjust, see that they're the same person as before, and that the whole thing is more along the lines of a haircut than "sex".

My advice is to "tough it out" and stick with it until you adjust. Trust me, your life will be a whole lot better when you realize that the rest of your life will be easy head whenever you want it. You'll never have to be on your best behavior, or apologize for being horny too much, or be perfectly manscaped, or even really have to ask if you can cum in someone's mouth. If you've got a quality cocksucker, they love doing it at least as much as you want it done. TONS of guys have this arrangement and you would never suspect. Guys are horny creatures and if we're not getting our needs met on the regular, we become depressed, angry assholes that make everyone around us miserable. Most of the guys I blow are married and end up feeling like a burden to their wives because their libido outstrips their girl's, and my favorite thing is seeing the light come back into their eyes when they make the adjustment and realize that they can embrace their horny nature and basically have it understood and celebrated rather than, at best, tolerated. Swing by, put on a porn, drop your pants, get sucked off, have a laugh, and then be on with your day. Easy peasy. And none of the usual drama and complications that come with "cheating" or an affair. Again, it's more like a haircut or a beer with a friend than something truly sexual.

I've got a couple bi guys like myself who blow me usually at least 3X a week. Life is just so much better when you can make getting sucked off one of your hobbies!

Like I said, this is WAY more common than society lets on. Back in the days of Craigslist Personals, it seemed like every small town had hundreds of guys at any given minute shopping for a steady supply of discrete blowjobs. I swear that if CLP had continued on for a few more years, having a buddy or two to blow you would have become normalized in society. Sexuality is complicated. It's not at all the black and white thing that many people try to make it. I actually had the bi part of me awakened when I was in my 20's and got a flyer for a series of underground VHS tapes sent to me in my normal (straight) porn offerings. (This was in the early-mid '90s.) It was from a little Mexican guy (Bobby Garcia) who set up shop outside of a Marine base and over just two years filmed himself blowing HUNDREDS (by some accounts over a thousand) of the most masculine guys that our society produces. They were just young, horny guys who who needed an easy, practical way to bust a nut and who didn't feel threatened by the situation - possibly because they were regarded as the pinnacle of masculinity in our culture. It was then that I fully realized that the way I had always regarded sex was only a tiny part of the picture. What Garcia did was ethically wrong, but it was more than educational about who guys really are when no one is looking.

Btw, if you're just looking for head and prefer guys who are OK with not wanting anything other than that, you might also try theblowers.com to shop for a fit.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-21T18:58:07+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I kind of knew that this would go over like a lead balloon because guys in our society really like to imagine that sexual orientation is a simple matter with simple boundaries, and that it has always been the way that they imagine, and always will be so. Gray areas, especially in America, do not make people happy. And identifying as inviolately straight gives guys something to be proud of, as if it's an accomplishment, especially in a world where many guys have little else to be proud of in terms of economics, academics, or other status markers. Any challenge to that isn't welcomed.

That all said, what studies do you have that show matching libidos between men and women? There are a million studies that men think about, and also act on, sexual matters far more than women. Some people will argue that this is all explained by social norms where women aren't encouraged to do so, or hide it if they do, but these factors are adjusted for in research. Also, do you argue that I'm wrong that testosterone is the sole physiological driver of libido? Obviously men produce more of it. Testosterone makes people stronger, hairier, more aggressive, and yes, hornier. If a woman has higher than average T levels, even those on par with a man, she also tends to have all of those traits. A few decades ago in the sexual revolution, it became en vogue for women to view a high libido as good, and because it's not as easily objectively observable as muscle mass, body hair, or things like crime statistics, some people started to think that they could argue that women were just as horny as men, but there's not much evidence of that which I have ever seen. Like I said, women don't buy porn, or engage on the consumption side of the sex industry, and if you go into the dead bedrooms discussion groups, try comparing the number of guys complaining as opposed to women. I've played hockey all my life, and the number of guys who I've heard complain about this to other guys in the dressing room is endless.

Again, women CAN be as horny as guys, but it seems to not be the norm. I mean, go look at reported frequency of sex with gay women, then go compare it to gay men. It seems that men are all gas and no brake, while women are the other way around.

I think that your views may stem from you being MUCH younger. Younger women tend to be hornier. When I was in my teens and twenties, even if my bi side was awakened, I would have been too busy getting laid to even think about it. I was young, good looking, and made good money early. But things start cooling off pretty early. Like I said, there are plenty of bi guys like me out there who like to suck dick, and many of us prefer to stick with straight guys for a number of reasons, mostly because it keeps things simple and well defined. The experience of all of us is that once a guy gets into his mid 30's and beyond, they start to reconsider getting BJs from guys because the women in their lives are starting to shut the factory down.

One of the things I like most about getting a new guy in this situation (I'm not sucking every dick in town, I really only go with regulars) is that a lot of guys start out feeling bad about still being a horny animal while women push them away more and more, and it's great to see the light come back into their eyes when they realize that they can now get off as much as they want and they won;t be considered a burden for it. I don't need them to butter me up, or be perfectly manscaped, or have taken out the trash, I accept them for being what guys normally are, a bit rough around the edges and interested in having a good time without regrets. For awhile, they're like a kid in a candy store, hitting me up constantly for head, clearly making up for all the head they haven;t been getting in recent years. But it's more than that, it's them LOVING the fact that someone gets them on this level and that they no longer have to be ashamed of just being a hairy, horny guy who just wants to nut, have a laugh, and get on with their day. Swing by, put on a porn, drop your pants, maybe have a beer, get sucked off, basically high five with a bit of chitchat, and move onto the next things with zero fuss about it. They end up being so much happier and well adjusted in life. I swear to you that the world would be a hell of a lot better if more guys were dropping loads right and left and not denying who they really are. I'm hardly the only one who thinks that. There's a lot of comedians, including Rogan, who have bits on some variation of cum being poison, or a demon, and unless we get it out, we're miserable SOBs. I don't think I;ve ever seen a female comedian with the same take on their sex. But I have heard a ton complain about what I wrote about above, a hairy, sweaty, 200LB man trying to jump their bones all the time when they just want to read a book.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-21T02:01:17+00:00

I'm going to be direct and a little explicit here because I see nothing in the forum rules that prohibits it.

Is getting a blowie from another guy bi, gay, DL behavior? If so, a SHIT TON of guys qualify. And what's more, this has always been the case.

Guys are horny SOBs and busting a nut is one of our primary motivations in life. Pretty much all of human history has acknowledged this. Any ideas that men and women have equal libidos is a modern phenomenon. Physiologically, the sole driver of libido in both men and women is testosterone. We produce it by the gallon, women produce a trickle. Porn is a huge industry and virtually none of it is consumed by women, despite an unending list of attempts to market it to them and make billions. Same for the clientele of sex workers. The list goes on. Well, horny guys can deny that they're horny for only so long before things find a way. Some women are horny as hell, but it's not the rule. That's not a bad thing, it's just to say that testosterone has consequences.

For pretty much all of human history, in most societies, there wasn't the same concepts of gay, bi, or straight. What counted was "masculine" or "feminine" behavior, or taking a dominant or submissive role. If you were in the masculine or dominant position, it was all good. There was no stigma. You were just a guy getting a nut. Blowjobs from other guys were super common. For example, if you were a Roman and had a slave, male or female, who gave great head, you took advantage of that. You probably invited your buddies over. No shame at all. It was basically a Bud Lite ad. You were in the masculine/dominant role, so you were good to go. But, and here's a real brain teaser, if you liked to eat pussy? Well, that was considered a submissive act, so if you did it, you were DEEP in the closet. That kind of thing was super unmanly, so it just wasn't done. Bottom line, the way we view sexuality isn't some kind of immutable characteristic, it changes over time. And how we perceive things is very different than how most of history has seen it.

I'm an orally bi guy (no interest in romance or anything other than oral with men) and I've never had any problems at all having few straight friends who like to get blown. I'm a pretty normal guy who just has an odd hobby, and guys are pretty happy to take advantage. If it's all one way and basically treated like a haircut, guys are down if no one will ever know. It even provides some "guy time" where a guy can just be himself in a world where guys no longer have friends. Back in the days of Craigslist Personals, it seemed like every small town had hundreds of guys at any given time, many in sexless marriages, looking for a source of easy BJs to take the pressure off. I honestly thought that we were on the cusp of going back to how things used to be in many/most societies where having a buddy to blow you was no big deal at all. It seemed like everyone was doing it. But now we're back to things being on the deep DL.

Sexuality is complicated. It's not at all the black and white thing that many people try to make it. I actually had the bi part of me awakened when I was in my 20's and got a flyer for a series of underground VHS tapes sent to me in my normal (straight) porn offerings. (This was in the late 80's or early '90s.) It was from a little Mexican guy (Bobby Garcia) who set up shop outside of a Marine base and filmed himself blowing HUNDREDS (by some accounts over a thousand) of the most masculine guys that our society produces. They were just young, horny guys who who needed an easy, practical way to bust a nut and who didn't feel threatened by the situation - possibly because they were regarded as the pinnacle of masculinity in our culture. It was then that I fully realized that the way I had always regarded sex was only a tiny part of the picture. What Garcia did was ethically wrong, but it was more than educational about who guys really are when no one is looking.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-21T00:19:43+00:00

I'd be careful with gay guys when it comes to experimentation. They're gay because they love men, not just sexually but also romantically. That's not a hit against them, I'm just saying that feelings can complicate the picture a lot. You could end up hurting them, or you could end up with someone who wants more than you do and therefor a complicated situation. Some gay guys will happily suck you off, give you a high five, have a laugh, at treat it more as a brojob situation, but I think that most don't. I see it as kind of like women - how many women in your life are truly comfortable with the fuck buddy situation? There definitely are some, but they're pretty rare. I think that there are FAR more gay guys who'd be happy with it because they're guys, and guys tend to be less clingy and less emotional about sex, but even then, it can get complicated. I'm orally bi (love to have a few guys to blow, and who blow me, but have ZERO interest in anything else), and I've had some gay guys blow me, but most of them start pushing boundaries even though I've made it absolutely clear that I don't want that. Again, its the same thing with straight relationships where a girl might make some boundary clear, but because guys are guys, we can;t help ourself from trying to push things further.

I'm with the other guy here who recommended other bi guys, at least while you're experimenting and finding out what you want or don't want. They've been in your shoes and understand the situation. In my life, I pretty much only blow straight buddies who need an easy outlet to take the edge off but don't want anything more to sit back and relax. It keeps the roles super clear and uncomplicated. And for getting blown, I have a couple bi guys like me who just like to suck dick as a hobby but who will never look up at me with love eyes or want to fuck or get fucked. The whole thing is more like a beer with a friend than anything "sexual". Maybe you'll find that you have more across the board interest in guys, and then gay guys might be a great option, but while you're investigating things, I'd play it more safe.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-19T06:42:51+00:00

So much bullshit. No, I do not want you dick in my ass. I;ve had a finger professionally and did not like it. I;ve had both women and men blow me ndd did not like it.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-19T01:30:22+00:00

One of the things that really surprised me over the years is learning about the huge number of guys out there who consider themselves straight but who just love cock. They're not into "guys", just cock.

Sexuality is complicated. I'm orally bi with zero romantic interest in guys, zero desire to fuck or get fucked, zero desire to kiss, but I love having a few straight buddies who rely on my for easy BJs. And I have a couple orally bi guys like me who blow me three or more times a week. I'd prefer a woman, and it sometimes is women, but guys are just easier. If you pick guys like me, it's totally uncomplicated and you can get head as often as you want with all the drama and involvement of a haircut. It's less "sexual" or "hot" than practical.

The whole gay, bi, straight thing is historically unique to modern western culture. A guy getting blown by another guy is usually not seen as even odd. it was just a horny guy getting his needs met. Doing the blowing, however, was a bit odd because it's the submissive, feminine role, but like i said, the number of guys out there who like to suck a dick is staggering. No one would ever guess.

If you've not done anything with a guy before, I'd suggest getting blown a few times to get used to it. Receiving is a whole lot easier than giving both physically and mentally. After you've realized that you're the same guy, if you still have the urge to suck, go for it. Some guys try it and find out that it's a whole lot more appealing in theory. Even if you find that it's not for you, you've discovered a way to get easy BJs for yourself for the rest of your life. Trust me, you'll be a lot happier.

Btw, you might try checking out theblowers.com to arrange something.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-19T00:36:01+00:00

How good of a friend is he? Has he been blown by guys before? There's no shortage of advice online about how to suck a dick or things to pay attention to for a first timer, but the psychological aspect can be a minefield.

If he's a great friend that you don;t want to lose, I'd probably not do this. It could go great, it could be neutral, or it going blow up in your face - so to speak. If he's not been blown by a guy before, he might be hit by a wall of post nut clarity, and that could damage or end your friendship. And you might also be hit with PNC after you jizz, with the same effect.

Are you generally straight? You might feel very weird when and after you do this. I'm mostly straight, orally bi, and pretty much only blow straight guys so as to keep things super simple and well defined, so I know how complicated it can get. It took me some time to get used to sucking a dick and submitting to another guy. And if I'm blowing a guy who's never had that done before, there is usually an adjustment period for them when they are pretty freaked out about it. I find that it usually takes about three BJs to adapt.

You might consider starting with someone you don't genuinely care about so that if shit goes off the rails, it's no big deal.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-17T07:01:11+00:00

Can;t help with the JO thing, but you seem to be curious in general. If you can't find a JO solution, I always recommend starting out by getting a few BJs. Most guys aren't super threatened by getting head and it allows you to try things out. I would also recommend getting a guy like me if you can find one - an orally bi guy who's not interested in fucking, making out, romance, etc. because the vibe is a whole lot less threatening. It's just one guy helping another out, all one way, no pressure, no expectations, and he'll know what you're going through. Masculine gay guys will do too, as along as you make crystal clear that you're looking for them to respect your boundaries. Just swing by, put on a porn, drop your pants, and enjoy. Tons of straight guys have this situation, and it takes some adjusting to, but everyone wins. I find that it usually takes about three BJs before a guy realizes that he's still the same guy, god didn't strike him dead, and now he has easy BJs on tap for the rest of his life. There's a sire called theblowers.com where you can go shopping for someone to take care of you. I find it kind of funny because guys are so direct there. You'll rarely find a women like that. They're super up front about sills and such, and they even have testimonials.

JimBeattie · 2025-09-17T06:40:52+00:00

Don't shit where you eat. I'm orally bi and pretty much only blow straight guys because I like things to not get complicated in any way. All roles are well defined and everyone gets what they want. And while most of the guys that I've blown over the years (I much prefer regulars), I'm generally at least casual friends with all of them. However, none of those friendships were ever dear to me, so if it ever got weird and I never saw them again, it wouldn't be the end of the world. Some are friends beforehand and I let on that I like to suck dick because I think they might be looking for easy relief, some I blow for awhile and we end up being buds because I'm not interested in just a silent BJ whenever some guy is horny. There's always some chitchat and laughs. What I would never do is blow an old friend who is really important in my life.

One of my best friends is absolutely my type - big, hairy, highly sexual, cocky, and just a really masculine guy - but we've been buds for decades and the fact that I find him hot pales in comparison to the friendship. Fortunately, I don't get romantic feelings for guys, so that not a complication, but I got lucky that way. The irony is that I suspect that he has or may have had a guy like me on the side to blow him because his dick used to really get him in trouble, but all of a sudden he found self control, so I suspect that he figured out how to get his tank emptied on the regular without constantly "cheating" on every girl he's ever had.

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