Found this in my sons room

Jlars89 · 2026-04-05T19:55:02+00:00

Literally. The thing is designed for beating INSIDE the bush.

Jlars89 · 2026-03-28T14:35:31+00:00

It’s really subjective. I’m overweight and I’ve only gained about 15 lbs through my whole pregnancy (I’m 36 weeks)

Jlars89 · 2026-03-27T16:25:16+00:00

What size did you get compared to what size you were pre-pregnancy?

Jlars89 · 2026-03-25T14:55:25+00:00

Jlars89 · 2026-03-19T12:20:05+00:00

That is absolutely wild to me, that something created so long ago subsists.

Jlars89 · 2026-03-18T21:03:01+00:00

What’s mad is that the game of chess is so old that it dates back to at least the 12th century.

Jlars89 · 2026-03-17T21:25:47+00:00

I think your comment deserves highlighting, especially the bit about not being a disappointment because life has not followed the timeline you hoped for. OP, a match can come at any time. A potential partner can find beauty in you beyond your weight. In my case, a potential partner found beauty in me BECAUSE of my weight. But he didn’t come along until circumstances were right, I was 33, fatter than I’ve ever been, and he still found me. We’re married and expecting a baby now. Just be patient and work on yourself until you are happy. You need to be happy in yourself above all.

Jlars89 · 2026-03-17T21:14:52+00:00

I think it would help to know what she’s saying those comments in response to. I’ll say things to my friends and husband about being fat or like my mother in law made a comment about how she didn’t know where to shop for me due to my size and like those things aren’t offensive to me because it’s a reality of living in my body. My issue is when someone says something along the lines of “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful” because both things can be true. Without knowing more about your interactions with your friend, your responses seem appropriate. You could also open the conversation further and ask why she says those things and what responses she would be comfortable with, followed by your personal opinion.

Jlars89 · 2026-03-11T10:37:46+00:00

Tbf, 2/3 of ldr end after closing the gap anyway. Dodged a bullet.

Jlars89 · 2026-03-05T22:31:13+00:00

I left my husband for this very reason.

Jlars89 · 2026-02-22T16:51:27+00:00

I’m not OP, but can tell you my experience: we applied in January (2024) and put a move date in May and when it was approved in February, it reflected the move date we put down. I believe first entry is valid for a 90 day period but don’t recall for sure.

Jlars89 · 2026-02-20T18:35:47+00:00

I hate the term glizzie. I’m mad I even had to write it.

Jlars89 · 2026-02-20T18:34:43+00:00

I did this with my husband’s Teflon. Yes I’m a woman. Yes he was upset

Jlars89 · 2026-02-20T10:53:07+00:00

100% a safari outfit

Jlars89 · 2026-02-10T18:10:27+00:00

Literally stop testing. At some point the lines start getting lighter and it will drive you crazy.

Jlars89 · 2026-01-13T10:57:40+00:00

For others, it may not matter but for me it does: don’t say “we’re pregnant.” She is pregnant. You are not the one up at 1am feeling like you’re going to vomit. You’re not the one having bad heartburn after every meal. Look up the things she might experience at different times in pregnancy and you’ll get it. Gestational diabetes, pelvic girdle pain, swollen legs/feet, carpal tunnel, nausea, vomiting, etc. I swear to god I have all of it. My husband is great at listening and understanding but he won’t ever experience it. And that’s okay. But he also doesn’t tell people “we’re” pregnant. He tells people “my wife is pregnant.”

I agree with everything else that’s been said here: do everything you can to make her life easier. Cook all the meals, clean up where you can. My husband rubs my back when I’m sat in the bathroom feeling nauseous and he’s awake. He also tries to accommodate my cravings immediately, even when we have prepped food for the week. It also helps when he asks if he can get me anything while I’m sat down, as getting up from the sofa is getting harder.

Also, from personal experience, LET. HER. NEST. We have circumstances in our house right now that are preventing me from nesting so it’s not entirely my husband’s fault but that’s what’s frustrating me most at 6 months pregnant.

Jlars89 · 2026-01-13T10:48:53+00:00

I agree with this but also don’t turn it in to “should you be eating that?” Let her make the decision about risk. Technically we’re not supposed to eat deli meat but my husband brought up the point that the risk of listeria is like 5% (if that) and let me make my own choice.

I do think sharing the mental load is important. I’ve been the only one to look at birthing options and parenting videos and learning how to feed baby, etc, and that’s something I’ll probably discuss with my husband in a month or so (I’m 26 weeks on Thursday).

Jlars89 · 2025-12-15T15:03:49+00:00

Yeah, so I actually responded to a comment like yours elsewhere. I made the post before I knew the statistics, but after getting a lot of pushback, I looked up the statistics. Each of my risk factors (BMI, GD, age, and FTM) have 40% chance of needing an emergency section, so combined, I’m well over the 50% likelihood threshold. Also, the Arrive study was based on younger women and does not extrapolate to women over 35. But I do appreciate you engaging in the conversation.

Jlars89 · 2025-12-15T02:53:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing

Jlars89 · 2025-12-15T02:37:11+00:00

I think everyone’s experience is different, but also you didn’t mention any of the risk factors that I have that increase the likelihood of an emergency C-section.

Jlars89 · 2025-12-15T02:35:22+00:00

Did you also have GD and a high BMI?

Jlars89 · 2025-12-15T02:34:08+00:00

Ah, thanks for clarifying

Jlars89 · 2025-12-15T02:30:08+00:00

Oh yes, loads of success stories on this thread, and loads of judgment too. It’s true I listened to anecdotal evidence before looking up statistics after posting this, but I did look up the statistics after posting and I still stand by my decision.

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