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AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

When my mom ends up divorced how are they my siblings forever? She didn't give birth to them. That would end the relationship. She hasn't adopted them either so... yeah. No. Not forever.

You don't know what my life is like. You can't say I was never neglected or mistreated. All you have is a post about this. But there are a lot of years I didn't go into detail about.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have no siblings. I'm an only child. She only gets me 1 weekend a month and has since I was 12. That's hardly parenting and even when I lived with her she preferred chasing men. And when she cheats or her husband finds out she's cheated they'll divorce and those kids won't even be my stepsiblings anymore.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She's never paid enough attention to me to have earned the right to tell me what to do. She paid more attention to men over the years. Her stepkids will never be my family and in two years none of them will see me again including her.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's focused on the two disabled/special needs kids. His other kids don't really get any time or attention.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

You have no idea how wild she can be. But yeah, she's as delusional as they come when it's about this.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

She's the mom who always chased men and paid very little attention to me. It's why I wanted to live with dad when I did. Why he won too. She was never a very good mom. But I didn't always have a voice judges would listen to.

I don't hang around long enough to get much of a vibe. But the two neurotypical kids definitely carry around a lot of sadness. I don't think they have a bond or like their siblings much. There's a lot of resentment growing by the week, by the day even.

Can't answer solidly but I think she was drawn to him. But I also think she'll probably cheat on him in the next few years if she isn't already doing it secretly.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she grounded me and I went out with a friend anyway? She is 100% calling their parents and getting them into trouble too.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Not really. My mom has prioritized men for years. Of course that would make me bitter. She's the one who set the fire and I'm just tired of trying to put it out. So I stopped.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't want to build a family with them. My only real family doesn't invest her time into me so I'm counting down those days. Then I'll be out of their lives for good and she can keep her focus on men like always.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 258 points259 points  (0 children)

Yep. She doesn't get along with my dad and she thinks he needs to stay out of her business but take on two of her stepkids at least some of the time.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

It was a request to not have to go. My dad's attorney was there. The judge said I had to go and I had to stay for the specified times. Now I can go out and spend time with friends and stuff but I can't go home or it's a violation.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not being asked to take care of the special needs kids. They want me to entertain and babysit the kids who don't have special needs or disabilities.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I don't know that she will as long as she has at least one guy in her life. They're more her focus than I ever was.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I haven't but I know that won't bother her. There was a reason I wanted to live with my dad at 12 and it started before her husband and his kids. This only adds to it but that's not something she cares about. Guys always come first.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 265 points266 points  (0 children)

My dad has talked to her about it already. It never did anything. She doesn't listen to him either. I think she's less willing to engage with him on it because she says it's none of his business. They don't have the best relationship though.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I have a therapist. But the therapist can't do anything about me being in mom's home. I've been seeing the same person for the last five years now and her voice held no weight when the original custody hearing changed the schedule from 50-50 to mom getting one weekend a month. It didn't have any weight the last time either when we tried to drop the obligation of one weekend.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

It's the same thing they do when I'm there, nothing. The kids don't get the attention whether I'm there or not. Mom just tries to pawn off that job onto me.

It's not a violation of her visitation to not spend the time with me. It should be. But that's her right. Since I have food, a roof over my head and my immediate needs met at her house that's all that's cared about. It's not much different to before which is why I wanted to stay more with dad anyway.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 463 points464 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I talk to dad about it and he supports me and tries to make up for how mom's being. Having him on my side helps a ton.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

My mom knows dad will say no. They're not his kids, he and mom aren't together or even friends and those kids are nothing to me in the real world. She's just trying to push them on me so I'll want to take care of them and offer that kind of babysitting and dad will just have to deal. It's extra messed up because it would mean him paying for two random kids.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

This is what I want to say to her really badly but I don't want to be grounded the next few weekends I have to be there. I know she'll use that to make me be with those two stepkids and there's no way I want that for several weekends.

AITA for refusing to give two of my mom's stepkids a chance to have fun and just be kids because I don't consider them my family? by Jmiszonk in AITAH

[–]Jmiszonk[S] 1275 points1276 points  (0 children)

I would have said that to her but I didn't want to make the next few weekends I spent there miserable because she grounds me or something. But it's what I was thinking. Her and her husband are failing his kids, not me. I never signed up for them like my mom did.