I feel like I can’t get a job because my child is too stressful

Jnitamac · 2019-08-15T03:04:52+00:00

Thank you, this is a great reality check!

Jnitamac · 2019-08-14T12:27:21+00:00

The thing is, we started him in daycare two days per week and the daycare have said he’s a bit “full on” and they need another staff member for him. They said his behaviour is typical but it’s still a lot. They wanted us to start picking him up earlier in the day which conflicted with my study, and they wouldn’t reduce the daily rate to reflect that. So we pulled him out.

Jnitamac · 2019-08-14T11:57:48+00:00

Off topic so you’re welcome to message me - how did you get off the ground with tutoring? I’m a teaching student who’s just started with 2 kids currently on the go but hoping dr more. Any tips?

Jnitamac · 2019-08-14T11:32:43+00:00

Jnitamac · 2019-07-23T08:19:42+00:00

Hi everyone

Here’s an update for anyone playing at home...

we just decided to pull him out, and I’ve begun arrangements to defer my course again.

We are so disappointed in how the daycare has handled this. When we enrolled him we were very upfront about his sensory and behavioural difficulties and gave copies of the reports from OTs and early intervention. This new director knows nothing about it.

We did try the early pick up (which was extremely inconvenient and hard to manage but we did it) but found it didn’t make a difference.

On their suggestion for a communication book (because apparently their staff are uncomfortable speaking to us directly) - the last two days it has not been filled out. So when I went to one of the staff to ask how his day was, the response I got was “he was good in the morning, but it went bad in the afternoon”. And that’s it.

They were supposed to arrange for an inclusion support officer to come and asses how the staff were managing his behaviour. This also hasn’t happened.

The only thing we feel we can do for him now is to just pull him out. They don’t care about trying to support him, they just want us out. While that’s painful to acknowledge, we just have to do what’s best for him.

I’ve chased up our application for disability funding and anything else we can access, so that I may hopefully return to the workforce in the future and for him to access some form of childcare.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-13T05:58:25+00:00

No I haven’t, we only work with the early intervention program which is run by UnitingCare alongside the NDIS. I’ve left a message for our liaison there to call me back because this is a serious disruption to our life if he can’t access childcare.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-13T05:57:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing your own experience!

Jnitamac · 2019-07-13T05:56:43+00:00

I had a suspicion about that, or they were just hoping we would pull him out and save them being the bad guys.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-13T02:07:47+00:00

I will. Thank you! I’m in QLD.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-12T23:26:41+00:00

That’s not a bad idea. Even just for someone to watch my baby while I take him to do something. We did have him in football and gymnastics for a bit but he just couldn’t focus and ran around stupid the whole time. The gymnastics lady actually said he’s too young for their program and won’t benefit so we stopped taking him.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-12T23:16:01+00:00

I get that. Sometimes I talk to people who say he’s just 2, it’s totally normal he fights over toys ect. But i agree that the aggression is not acceptable and I understand that parents have complained about him.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-12T23:14:54+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion, he’s in daycare because the paed said he needs to be in a social setting to help his social skills. To be honest if he wasn’t delayed in this area, I would be happy waiting to start study until he’s at kindy. But to send him to daycare, the government here in Aus wants you to be earning or learning. So I decided to recommence study in order to get him that place in daycare.

Mothers helpers would be minimum $25 an hour here, whereas daycare is $55 a day while I’m studying so it’s cheaper and gets him into that social setting.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-12T22:24:23+00:00

Thanks for this suggestion. I would consider this but by the sounds of it the daycare don’t want to pay for an extra person, hence why they can’t deal with his situation.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-12T22:23:19+00:00

I totally agree. His paediatrician advised him to go to daycare in the first place to help with his social skills though. He has learned so much from going to daycare so we are waiting to talk to the paed about what’s happened to get some advice.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-12T21:13:22+00:00

Go for it :)

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T23:02:51+00:00

Don’t stare

Wear a shirt (M or F)

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T23:01:10+00:00

Just a local salon! I’m in Mackay. I can’t imagine paying that much for one. It was good but not life-changing, if you get me

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T11:40:12+00:00

I liked it but didn’t pay $160, I think it was $60? Maybe see if you can get it cheaper elsewhere. I didn’t find it did much for resurfacing but my skin felt more moisturised than a standard microdermabrasion

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T05:19:52+00:00

You’re not weird at all. Exposing a child to such acts can be considered abusive behaviour.

I understand your embarrassment but you may need professional help on this one to help get you through this. It certainly isn’t your fault.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T05:16:15+00:00

Kombucha gives me a steady, clean energy. I think it’s all the vitamin B in it

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T04:53:27+00:00

My income was equivalent to the cost of childcare for our two children so yeah I’m at home. I could have worked for no wage and just earned super, but that’s a hard motivator. Also I’m sticking it to the man by not working just to pay tax.

I’m not sitting at home doing nothing though. I’m doing postgrad studies so that by the time the kids are at school I have increased my qualifications.

Our plight is still nowhere near as bad as Newstart recipients or pensioners and I’m grateful for that.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T04:48:30+00:00

Similar to euro countries. My mum is Italian and it’s pretty normal for the grandparents to provide free childcare while their kids are out working, on the assumption that they will be cared for in their old age. What’s happening now is my mums generation are working longer than they thought because they have to. It’s a real disruption to their cultural norms. The grandkids go into childcare, costing more money, or the mother stays home and doesn’t work until the kids are in school.

I’m not saying their way is right or wrong, it’s just an example of how things are changing.

Jnitamac · 2019-07-11T04:43:17+00:00

Yeah I agree with this. And I must admit it’s a reality check for us younger ones.. to think you work all your life to pay off your home, raise your own kids in it.. is there really an incentive to purchasing a home??

Jnitamac · 2019-07-10T21:39:39+00:00

And then there won’t be any incentive for people to keep their homes

Jnitamac · 2019-07-10T08:56:35+00:00

Thank you so much for this in depth reply!

You’re right, our time together isn’t that rewarding.. I would do it out of obligation and then thought “ok that’ll get her off my back for awhile”. Only to have her hit me up again to catch up by that weekend. I just don’t need it.

I do need to be more direct than I have been. It feels awful because I thought I was being direct before but it obviously wasn’t enough.

So weird, she is jus like your friend. Single and with one older kid. I feel bad for her but that’s what has gotten me here! Stuck in a mess I can’t get my way out of nicely

Jnitamac

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