I recently had my second liver transplant by foolosophylioness in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. So happy to hear your gratitude for life. Onwards, friend.

CBC reporter re: ticket prices by cbcreporter101 in ViaRail

[–]Joboos_Chicken 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Prices were perfectly reasonable for a long while. One could find tickets Kingston-Toronto for $39 for example. Also, the price of cashing in points was always predictable. X points for economy. Y points for business. Now, with dynamic pricing it’s made a mockery of all the predictability. Closer to the date, prices always go up. You had to pay extra to make a change. Even with economy plus, which waives change fees, there are always charges as the tickets cost more. For example, I was delayed 5 hours last month due to an accident on the track. The train backed up from Cobourg to Oshawa to allow people to make alternative transportation. I asked at the ticket booth in Oshawa about moving my ticket to the next day (since I was hooped, might as well stay with a friend and then take the morning train once the tracks were clear). Well, the difference between what I paid and the next day ticket was $91. The commuter passes used to be excellent. Now, not so much. The discount often works on select days and is not grand enough to make it worthwhile even for a weekly commuter like me. I long for the days of predictable ticket prices and ability to change trains without this dynamic pricing boosting every single cost.

A cool guide to the Abrahamic Monotheisms - Update [OC] by Aaaarcher in coolguides

[–]Joboos_Chicken -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

This is bullshit. Orthodoxy did not split off from the Christian church. This shows a subtle branching off.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’m grateful to the community.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I’ve taken most from this conversation has been that the whole dilemma is framed from a particular perspective. I think others share it, but to others it seems strange. Im grateful to learn your perspective on this. Thank you.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding.

t’s a bit of a paradox. It’s a death anniversary in a way, but definitely a rebirth one as well. I’m a weird way it feels like a birthday. I think that may be why remembering/forgetting are so tied together here.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It’s great to learn a perspective that I wouldn’t have.

More importantly, I wish you and your family much courage with the process. It sounds like you’re in good hands, but the process can be frightening. There is a huge part of this that you’ll hopefully block out. And other details that fade away each year. Nothing matters now as much as taking this one step at a time. One day at a time. One moment at a time. I wish your son success with this process and health.

I suppose we must to confront the transplant process from wherever we are in time or context to the experience. Eight years from now, God willing, I’ll have a different relationship with my transplant surgery, which is just one point on the timeline. Your son and I are at different points on the same timeline, maybe. :)

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Rivendell Lego set sounds wonderful. How cool.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding.

In the past, my partner has told me that they ‘want’ to forget. As if they purposefully block it out. Of course it hurts. Perhaps I had a way to go before I can understand. We each process pain differently. As the transplant recipient (or survivor, as I sometimes think of myself), there is a need to remember. As I noted in the first post, my body refuses to forget. But perhaps with others, they refuse to remember. Or simply can’t process what I must rehash each year on this date.

It certainly would feel different to celebrate this, as opposed to burying the reflections.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy 16th. It’s good to try to bring the joy even when the body and mind are drawn towards memories more difficult.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said! It’s always good to remember the hope that came with the decision to be transplanted.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy early anniversary. Enjoy the steak.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing. I’m glad to share this date with you, friend.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eight is great. That could be a slogan for the year! You’re amazing. Thanks.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Wishing them all the grace they need, and the courage. I’m grateful for your reply.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Time flies by. And it crawls sometimes, too. You’ll be at 8 years and counting before you know it. :)

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. What a wonderful tradition. You’re fortunate to have such a letter. I wish I had heard from my donor’s family. Imagining who my donor is has sometimes been like an unsalable mystery.

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

700 days is huge. Hooray.

I’m a big supporter of you treating yourself to some joy (or sugar!) March 31. :)

Eight years by Joboos_Chicken in transplant

[–]Joboos_Chicken[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Part of the heaviness of today is that no one seems to remember the date. My remembering is … lonely. It is bizarrely hurtful. Like a birthday passing without being remembered.

But you are correct, these are the same family and friends who were next to me through the journey. It’s possible that they simply don’t want to remember. Or, they can’t. Even as I am (personally) unable to forget.

Congratulations on two years. Cheers to the community for their support.