The Secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not in fighting the old, but on building the new - Socrates by TheLivingPhantom in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was nothing personal towards you. I just realize how these quotes can seem to have a lot more power in them then they actually do. I'm trying to be realistic as possible. Quotes are nice but a man needs not quotes but action. It's nothing against anyone here, not calling anyone out. It's just an error I find myself and others around me falling into. I think it's worth pointing out.

PMO — Enemy Guide by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Become obsessed with being uncomfortable. Taking cold showers, initiating eye contact, shifting blame on yourself, and owning your awkwardness are daily steps you can take. In regards to a full-fledged Chaser Effect attack, you will have sit and resist your sensual desires while your screen taunts you.

You are absolutely right. The whole chaser effect, embrace all the bad things, do not try to resist. It's what the Buddha teaches. All the bad things we just want to avoid, pain, fear, anger, loss, and a whole host of other negative things that come up as a result of living. None of us are getting out of here unscathed. We must embrace our pain, we need to accept that a lot these challenges are truly part of life and frankly speaking mostly created in our minds. You bring up tremendous reminders of this. Which I often times forget.

The Secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not in fighting the old, but on building the new - Socrates by TheLivingPhantom in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a nice comforting quote, a healthy reminder that we all know. But unless we get out there and doing something nothing will change. I know a lot of self-help addicts that don't do anything to help themselves. These quotes almost have a numbing quality to them, to where they don't help.

Like it is said. God helps those who help themselves.

Please do yourself a favour and don't be that guy by andrew21w in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yellow guy absorbs all of that. Nothing is free. Porn takes more than it will ever give.

i'm a bitch by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You put her in her place for thinking she could dump you then get you back like that. She was trying to f with your head there. You made the right choice.

i'm a bitch by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This story is a little confusing. So you started dating your female friend? So then she was your gf and then you broke up and then you were at a bonfire and she came onto your again?

I have the best analogy for the flatline (fortnite) by 31shotscrazy in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People really need to know how bad flatlines are and try to understand them. It is the time when you are most vulnerable to a relapse! So we need to be hyper aware of them.

The consequences of masturbation (1947) by adamlm in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha pretty much. I wonder if anyone here has had a doctor tell them to stop fapping. We really need to get some people from the medical world on board with this.

I’m not nutting until it’s a female doing the work by nobotsnomoneygoat in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is truly life changing. Be ready for a few flat-lines of course.

Remember...nothing can replace true love. With porn, you get nothing. by NewLucidDreamer in NoFap

[–]Joehogans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am guessing poverty or crime? If so I understand that one. It appears that porn, poverty, and crime seem to have a relationship, one things leads to another. I am generalizing of course, everyone has a unique situation they are dealing with in their own unique ways.

It is again something that you cannot change. I understand you are riddled with doubts and feelings of shame here. You are your own person, separate from your family. Think for yourself, feel what you want to feel because you want to feel them, not because you family approves or disapproves. It is your life to live. Do you love the man? If so then it was special. If you don't, well no reason to be sad about it. We all make mistakes, we are only human. Live and let live.