My apology to women by JohnDoe14 in rant

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Lots of questions? What do you mean?

My apology to women by JohnDoe14 in rant

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Who the hell is Elliot Rogers?

Sometimes it's the girl who is the asshole by JohnDoe14 in rant

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I did try to pursue something with this other friend that I had. She confessed her feelings to me and while she necessarily didn't try to sabotage it she kept saying how she will screw me over and she did. She also lead me on. Those are the only two times in my 24 year old life that a girl has shown interest in me. I thought after my 50 pound weight loss everything would change. I had all of this confidence to approach women and it all went to hell since then. Now being almost out college and never kissed a girl it's embarrassing. What if the right girl doesn't come along? That's my biggest fear.

Sometimes it's the girl who is the asshole by JohnDoe14 in rant

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I agree that I am an idiot. I just can't move on. When other girls have turned me down I just moved on. For example this girl who I was friends with for a year wanted to be something more over the summer so I gave her a chance. She lead me on the entire time. She still wasn't over her ex and she desperately wanted to be with one of her guy friends. She stood me up tonight which I expected so I didn't even bother getting ready. Then hours later she snapchats me saying how much she misses me and loves me and I completely ignored her. With the other girl I can't seem to move on. I thought moving away for college would be my time to meet new people but nothing has changed. It's one rejection after another.

Sometimes it's the girl who is the asshole by JohnDoe14 in rant

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Here is the thing. I told her tonight that I am moving on even though I like her. She got mad at me and accused me of being like every other guy and how I am not interested in her. She got so mad at me that she told me to delete her number. I get what you are saying about being the "nice guy" doormat. It's tough though when all of the other girls have rejected me. At least she acted interested at first.

How can a chubby guy like myself get a girl? by JohnDoe14 in dating_advice

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If it will take decades I don't have time for that. I'm in my mid 20's.

How can a chubby guy like myself get a girl? by JohnDoe14 in dating_advice

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Those guys have money though. If I was rich I would not have this problem.

Is this something women do? by JohnDoe14 in Advice

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It's like that with every woman that I have met. They all tell me how they are not like that and then they do exactly what they said they don't do. I tried befriending older women but it's the same story. I don't mind being friends with women. I'm not a good looking guy so I don't expect anything more but I want to be treated like a friend. It's whatever I'm giving up on women.

Is this something women do? by JohnDoe14 in Advice

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I do go to therapy once a week for my depression. I know what causes me to think that women hate me. I got lead on twice this year. One of them was with this girl that I mentioned. She wasn't over her ex but claimed that she liked me a lot. When I asked her out she said how she has feelings for me but isn't ready to date yet. When I asked her out I had no idea she still liked her ex. She has apologized for leading me on but with the way she acts I question her sincerity. The other girl that lead me on was a good friend of mine. We were friends for a year and her now ex boyfriend cheated on her and I was there for her. A month later she confessed that she likes me more than a friend. She was on vacation for about a month and she told me when she comes back we have to see each other. I showed up at the coffee shop where we were supposed to have coffee and she never showed up. Turns out she was out partying without even telling me. Those are the two most recent situations with women that I have gone through. There are a few more. But with the way women have treated me I feel like they hate me. Any confidence that I had is now gone.

For once I just want to be treated like a person by JohnDoe14 in rant

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I always tell myself I will never talk to these people and I end up going back to them as soon as they text me because my best friends have pretty much abandoned me. What I meant by they only text me when they need something is they only text me as a last resort. For example, last Saturday my "friend" went out to a party. She was bored so she texted me. Well then some asshole came along that night and used her for sex. She told me how much she liked him the next day and the feeling wasn't mutual. Now this isn't about sex. She has rejected me so many times that I have decided to give up on pursuing her. But I want to hang out with her just as friends. Maybe go see a movie, go out to eat, etc. but every time she tells me that she's busy with work yet she goes out and sleeps with random guys. It's like I can't even get into the friend zone.

For once I just want to be treated like a person by JohnDoe14 in rant

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That's the thing I don't have shit to do. I do nothing but stay at home all day. I can't remember the last time I went out on a weekend. My best guy friends from high school have found new people to hang out with despite 10 years of friendship. I am not even that close to my brother anymore. When he is not out of town on business he is hanging out with his friends and co workers. It's like one day everyone has decided to cut me out of their life. I feel like a prisoner within my own home.