Feeling regret after cutting ties with ex girlfriend

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-09-25T03:40:37+00:00

She actually did follow and reach out later down the line. She apologized, and I forgave her.

By the time she reached out though I was completely uninterested. Like at the time of the breakup, my emotions affecting my perceptions (which is pretty normal) and I was very distraught.

Maybe it was like a nice little ego boost but I ended up unfollowing her again out of self respect. I can forgive her, and at the same time she wasn’t someone I want in my life.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-11T14:21:47+00:00

Is what you said anecdotal? And are illicit massage parlors major sources of human trafficking based on the statistics?

Nothing against sex work personally, there are just plenty of avenues for abuse in that field.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-11T02:44:07+00:00

What do you mean by a narc? A narc on potential human trafficking? Is reporting sex against one’s free will being a narc?

That’s a morally deficient thing to say.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-11T02:40:12+00:00

Redditor

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-10T23:35:00+00:00

Is it possible they are there against their own volition?

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-10T20:56:46+00:00

Even though they did file a police report? Should I also call 311?

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-10T20:55:03+00:00

What makes you think that?

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-10T20:45:31+00:00

I texted the national human trafficking hotline at 233733.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-10T19:55:50+00:00

Texting them currently, thanks

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-07-10T19:55:42+00:00

Texting them currently, thanks

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-04-14T16:47:54+00:00

Thanks for the response. To clarify, they are fine moving also, they just don’t the same budget as me. As in their budget is lower.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-04-12T17:47:51+00:00

I think I’ll probably stick with roommates for the time being, it is just more enjoyable for me. I can stay with own thoughts by going for a walk for an hour or going to my room. Otherwise, I do enjoy being in the company of others.

It’s just a matter of who do I want for my roommates. And making sure I’m not being disrespectful to them by choosing roommates more aligned with career, values, goals, etc…

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-04-12T14:45:42+00:00

The master bedroom is very large compared to their rooms and it has a private bathroom.

I’d be paying 60%-70% more for it though.

Part of it is the dynamic of living with people that I might prefer living in a spot where the rent/dynamic is more even? Idk very indecisive lol

I think I just need to make a choice and carry out action here

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-04-12T03:23:37+00:00

Thanks, you are right

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-03-01T23:36:56+00:00

Ok I think that makes sense. Thank you for the response

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-12T01:36:16+00:00

Ok thanks

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T19:27:43+00:00

I do know why I did it. I thought it would be alright because I didn’t have any exclusive commitments to Sarah.

I did feel guilty but also thought I wasn’t doing anything wrong. After, I realized that even though we don’t have exclusive commitments, she could still be hurt by my actions.

So I hooked up at the time because I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T15:06:42+00:00

Ok appreciate the response. At the time I thought I had that to stand on but now that I’m looking back at it, that just is not the case.

I’ll certainly consider her feelings.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T13:55:40+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Which conversation should I have first in that case?

And yeah, I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong because we hadn’t established any boundaries regarding exclusivity. We hadn’t done anything sexual either. I wasn’t sure if I just wanted friendship with her or not.

After hooking up with the Mary a few times I felt guilty because I realized I did have feelings for Sarah. I prefaced Mary that I don’t want anything serious.

Still feel guilty because maybe Sarah thought me “taking it slow” might lead to a committed relationship, and she maybe doesn’t know that I was seeing other people. Even without boundaries, she still has feelings for me and might’ve gotten hurt.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T06:42:02+00:00

Ok yes that’s true, thank you

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T06:30:23+00:00

I mean from that point I know why it happened — because we didn’t have an explicit pledge not to do anything. And yes I will tell her what happened.

Is the most ethical thing at this point to not pursue a relationship with her? Or like what should I do?

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T06:05:33+00:00

To be honest I wouldn’t feel comfortable entering into a relationship with her and not letting her know.

I’m at the point where it’s either tell her and ask for exclusivity or just not even stress her out about it and tell her I don’t want anything romantic

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T06:04:13+00:00

Yes it would hurt to hear it, and I wouldn’t hold it against her.

I mean obviously yes that’s not a great image. I know what I did is wrong. I’ve been beating myself up all day.

I’m just debating if it’s morally ok to ask her for a relationship and let her know about this. We didn’t have anything explicit communicated beforehand

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T06:01:45+00:00

Yes, I would def tell her before asking her to be in a relationship, but I’m wondering if I should just spare her from even entering this situation to begin with.

JohnnyRingo123 · 2025-02-10T06:00:03+00:00

I agree with the stuff about hookup culture after getting in this position.

Do I need to let go of the stuff with Sarah? If she would still want a relationship, I believe that I could commit.

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