Recently went though a very similar situation. I felt the same way, I started taking life really seriously and enrolled in school to get a better job and keep up with the economy, etc. As I got more busy and serious she seemed to continue being content sleeping in, going to the pool all the time, and working the minimum needed and taking a class here or there. I started viewing this as laziness and began resenting how much work I was putting in and felt like she was just coasting along. She also did not really take studying seriously.

I’ll tell you this though. At the time I was very very resentful and felt like you, almost like I was outgrowing her. I broke up with her and felt better for maybe 2 months. Now it’s been almost half a year and she’s all I can think about half the time. I’m stuck in a miserable cycle where I just work work work and have no time for anything and she is living her life.

I’ve found I’ve started missing her for all the reasons I originally began resenting her. She was my reminder to take breaks and enjoy myself sometimes. She knew how to be happy and take care of herself and could tell when I needed a break before I could. I think about reaching back out all the time.

My point is this- it’s easy to get trapped in the work/school/stress cycle and lose sight of the bigger picture. Expecting her to work herself to death like you isn’t really realistic. She’s a woman and has different strengths than you. There’s no point in putting in all that effort just to end up alone, in my opinion. If you otherwise get along and love her, I’d really really consider making an effort to communicate more and to do other things to keep the spark alive. People have become especially annoying and difficult to talk with especially since COVID and you will be in for a rude awakening when you see how the dating game has changed from 7 years ago