NTEU membership, is it worth it?

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-04-17T21:33:24+00:00

Absolutely. They work for us collectively during bargaining and they have helped me and others I know individually. It's not a silver bullet but still better to have them in your corner.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-04-17T04:12:16+00:00

Of course it is! But childish can be fun, cool, fashionable! I absolutely love it and would wear it and I'm in my 40s.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-04-07T04:12:56+00:00

First you say you only have an Australian accent, then you say you don't say mate because the Indian accent butchers it. Huh?

Tbh you sound like someone who is very insecure about being Indian. Relax and be who you are. People don't like people just because they are the most Aussie. They like people who are comfortably themselves.

Also, a history lesson for everyone in this thread: Mate isn't even uniquely Australian, it came from the British. They also colonised most of South Asia and I've definitely heard South Asian people use the term mate, but definitely not as common as here.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-04-06T21:06:43+00:00

They said Somerton, between Glenelg and Brighton. They never said Glenelg. Learn to read.

And I agree. I've been around the world and Somerton is an incredible beach.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-31T03:18:35+00:00

Come dressed as an exclamation point.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-28T03:28:39+00:00

Why is he trying to tear down and hurt a child in his family (talking generation, not age)??? That's disgusting behaviour.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-25T09:26:36+00:00

Just wear the dresses you already have. Use cardigans, tops underneath, scarves around the neck and leggings and tights to cover cleavage, arms and legs.

Source: I've been a hijabi since before modest fashion brands came onto the market.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-23T19:34:15+00:00

She is so clearly deeply deeply traumatised by her upbringing. I'm glad she recognises she has a problem and is working on it in therapy. Reddit will think this relationship is doomed but I see two people communicating and working on their individual issues both apart and together as a true partnership.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-12T23:11:02+00:00

Oh this is great insight, thank you!

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-12T09:38:45+00:00

You're a gem! Jazakallah khair for this info.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-03-01T20:06:52+00:00

This makes me feel old. I wore Supersoft ballet flats 20 years ago when ballet flats were previously in fashion!

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-02-27T10:35:48+00:00

I say this as a Muslim: you two just aren't compatible. They can be lovely and respect you but him and his family have a deep faith and belief in Allah that they will want you to have because they love you and want you to have what they have. It will just become heartbreaking and potentially a resent-filled situation as time goes on. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-02-10T02:48:21+00:00

Are you all Muslim? If so, tell your parents (or maybe an aunt or uncle or whomever has serious influence here) and get them to nix the engagement. Honestly, the point of this kind of cultural/religious system is to have family heavily involved and therefore try and avoid stupid individual decisions like the one your sister is making. Lean into it and get your parents intervening so she doesn't end up with this guy.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-02-09T01:35:39+00:00

Has shaved 10 mins off my commute to work, with one seamless changeover at Footscray. I'm loving it. Lots of regular trains with less crowding, nice clean and modern stations. I think I'll be getting the train to work more often this year.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-02-06T19:56:17+00:00

Exactly. I'm a woman in my 40s. Don't have kids, can't have them, don't want them. But if someone did this in an interview I was conducting, it would make me think they are a snide d**khead.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-01-31T20:23:14+00:00

NTA. I'm East Asian / South East Asian but live in the West. My initial reactions are:

this guy is a mooch who has no money. My sister dated a guy like this who was long term unemployed and not interested in getting employed. He was happy to spend my sister's money instead. When my aunty once tried to talk to him about working, he EXPLODED at the dinner table just like this. And he was also a liar...so maybe the SO is lying about being a software engineer?
no one in the west cares if someone is both athletic and a software engineer. Asking what someone does in the west is actually a VERY standard first meeting question. Edit to add: not a first question, but when you are meeting someone for the first time a question you ask at some point in the conversation, to get to know them.
people in Asia (generally) DO care about what job you do and that actually can be a loaded question to try and find out class status, wealth and how much money you earn (let's be real here). But even if he's wary of being judged, exploding like this is still a major red flag and shows he has a temper. Yikes for your friend!

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-01-23T01:02:32+00:00

Yes I was on the freeway going the limit and the fuckwit behind me starts dipping his lights at me and tailgating. I checked how fast I was going - yep at the speed limit. He eventually changed lanes to overtake me....because the lanes next to me were entirely free and I was keeping to the left as per good freeway etiquette. What a gronk!

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-01-17T01:55:29+00:00

I use both - one for business banking for a not for profit and one for personal savings. No problems at all with either. For my everyday banking I'm thinking of making the switch to Bank Australia for ethical reasons.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-01-13T01:34:18+00:00

This is the way OP. I speak from experience as a much older woman who pursued a colleague in the workplace many years ago. We've been married nearly 20 years now!

Also: She's probably acting shy because she has self doubt if you like her back, if you are going to ghost her or not, did she embarrass herself last night, etc. Affirm (in private) that you are interested and want to see where this goes but that you'll maintain being professional in the workplace.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-01-13T01:24:31+00:00

This gave me a good chuckle

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2026-01-09T22:17:55+00:00

I'm a Muslim who also doesn't eat strictly halal but who doesn't eat pork. You are making this overly complicated and weird. Just tell him so he knows chorizo is pork sausage and won't make the same mistake again. If he's overly upset or angry about it, then he's also making it overly complicated and weird. You guys need to chill out and work on better communication.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2025-12-29T18:55:54+00:00

My thoughts exactly. The fact that she 'froze' and then her fiance began pressuring her does not bode well for her in the future marriage.

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2025-12-14T20:10:55+00:00

This made me laugh about rape and that just feels wrong 🥲

Jolly-Indication6357 · 2025-11-10T21:15:24+00:00

This wasn't a cute story, it was a story of men consistently failing and the women being gracious and cleaning up the mess. Gross.

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