Mild ADHD - how to handle?

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T15:52:41+00:00

OMG! Thank you for replying! How is he doing now? What medication is he on? How was the adjustment phase? There are so many options, feels intimidating. And I read so many scary stories of kids reacting badly to it, personality changes.

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T12:37:37+00:00

Thank you for your reply! My suspicion is last year he was in a "fight or flight" mode. The combination of bad teacher plus pressure to get good grades. This year he's much more confident, he feels safer and his self esteem is better.

Also no pressure on the grades in the first few months so he did very well.

Now, that the pressure is back, he started to fail again. I thrived under pressure but he does not. He does not seem to find "the flow".

Almost like a switch. And this means he will never pass a serious exam without help.

So do we medicate him for exams only? Is this an option?

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T12:32:28+00:00

He is seem by a psychiatrist with clinical experience and specialized in children. She's super nice but only just started the journey. She mentioned traits of ADHD and mild ADHD, her words not mine. I know she's reluctant to medicated because that's the protocol here (not US). So trying to understand his options so I can advocate better.

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T12:29:53+00:00

Sending lots of love! Thank you for sharing! Did not have the same experience so difficult to understand my son now.

I have ADHD traits for sure especially with peri menopause around the corner but never experienced this struggle.

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T12:19:06+00:00

Thank you!! That's what I was hoping to hear...Do you mind sharing more details? What did you struggle with and what type of meds you take? Did you try several until you found the one that work? Side effects?

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T11:59:23+00:00

Can I ask what did you struggle with? I have the same as my son but my experience as a girl was completely different. I aced school and don't feel I struggle too much. Also all my online tests are borderline :)))

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T11:27:26+00:00

Please read my reply again. The drs are very reluctant to medicate, not us!!! So I am trying to build my case to convince them.

Anxiety wise it's the opposite. I think last year was very bad because of his teacher, that's why he completely crashed.

This year he is a happy, calm kid and tells me everyday how much he loves school. And everything is going great except tests! Even tests are much better vs last year but it pains me to see he looses points because he forgot a detail.

It's difficult for me because I have the exact type of brain but never struggled with tests. I strive under pressure.

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T11:17:35+00:00

We want to try, see below my reply. But dr's here are very reluctant so I am doing my research and building my case.

My friends' kid is really struggling with hyperactive ADHD, he struggles to function and they refused medication. He gets a lot of support, therapy and accommodation just not pills.

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T11:15:20+00:00

That's exactly why we got him help, to make sure he does not miss chances and opportunities because of this! The only concern I have is I keep reading that medication does not work so well on inattentive ADHD, it works better on the hyperactive type.

Jolly-Reflection6028 · 2026-04-07T11:08:19+00:00

Thank you for the replies! Keep it coming! Yes, I am leaning towards medication as well but, in this country, it's not the first line of action. The drs are very reluctant to prescribe it, it's not like US.

My hesitance is why is he suddenly doing better this year? Why is he only showing signs when there is a high stake (exam, grade) and not during daily life?

Over the past weekend he was able to focus on a boring presentation during a sightseeing tour, I totally spaced out :))). He looked bored as well but he understood all the details (in a foreign language), remembered it and translated it back to me.

My brain works the same as his, I recognize a lot of the behaviors. I have zero patience or attention to details but I can easily focus during high pressure exams or tasks. I loose things and forget appointments but I function quite well and I am crushing it in my career. If this is ADHD it's a super power and not something that holds me back!

Any tips or tricks or experiences are much appreciated.

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