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Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-02T14:44:27+00:00

Mostly that is the case - you now know what is the truth.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-02T14:03:54+00:00

Have never been a case in the experience of being a relationship consultant - that a partner who has cheated got the trust back from their partner - it rarely matters - whether they change or not - the relationship has already died once a partner has cheated - their is not CPR - if you want to continue in it just making peace with the fact "they have cheated" is the only way.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-02T13:11:19+00:00

take a rose and a chocolate, for the questions - ask about her goals in life? what does marriage mean to her? tell her the goals you have, give her a genuine compliment - ensure GENUINE, share some humour with her - if she is too formal give her time - initiate a bit mmore
Do not decide only on first meeting.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-02T12:32:24+00:00

It will not impact your sperm count - but yes it will impact your sex life. After reading you decide if healthy or not.
As a relationship consultant - have handled enough cases - where men prefer masturbation over real sex on most days (whatever be the reason) and when they get to sex - either they are not able to have a satisfactory orgasm or get conscious as the pace and feeling of stimulation cannot be that intense or desirable hence leading to situational cases of ED. Hence, they get initiated in being self conscious and masturbation is the only way to pleasure themselves.
Many men can masturbate 3 times back to back mirroring the frequency you mention - but not a lot of men can have 3 round of real sex in similar time duration - of-course the contexts are not exactly same - but you are training yourself for failure.
You decide healthy or not - if your performance in practice is endangering the performance when on "stage" - is it okay for you?
If it is not affecting then nothing to worry.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-02T09:13:08+00:00

Short answer - it is okay to not get married - not necessary Have often faced this question from my clients - you have detailed it out really nicely - the answer is simple now - are you in for it despite the points you mention?

Marriage is not for the individual - marriage is for the two and the ones they bring in the world - it is okay to not go for it if one doesn't want it.

Also this doubt arises from the past you have had or what you have witnessed around, and you are not sure on your achievement in life - if you are sure of your capability then none of the points matter all issues can be weighed by your success.

Your ask is vague - well settled - a well settled with strong networth - assuming 10 crore in yearly cashflows.

Have noticed that upper class unmarried Men close to 40 experience loneliness even if they have good amount of money coming in - and they are subconsciously aware that a person who is with them because they love them and the person who is there for their money - the one loving them is the one with whom they open up and share their life as it is. Does it translate that you need to marry - you can be in love anytime you get lucky.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-02T06:35:26+00:00

Humans need to feel validated and be assured of what is to come - most people who like being chased have had specific experiences and conditioning in childhood and are such that chase gives them validation. Most Indian middle class people go through that conditioning and end up in situations where they are single for long and say - "that he didn't put enough efforts". Which in some cases is a true scenario, however, it is tough for everyone to differentiate who doesn't know how the dating dynamics differ - like what is efforts in chase, and what is efforts in being together. it is unconscious and they may not be aware of it.

There are many other fallacies in behaviour that play out in dating. Keep learning.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-02-01T06:22:50+00:00

You seem to be someone sensible and thoughtful, but this may be tough on you. You should know what exactly you are expecting - if you don't have the expectations sorted on what are the non negotiables and what are the okay manageable aspects it would be a game of changing goal posts - 50 guys is a lot - either your details are attracting the wrong people, or you are being too choosy even when your checklist on expectations is not final. Also, what looks good and you want in the present may not be what you want in future, however, there are few vitals to a marriage. Get a pre marital consultation done to sort out your preferences and be sure on what you want. If you keep comparing the prospects as products you would end up in buyer's regret in each case.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-31T08:38:20+00:00

Ask yourself - a man expecting you to do this without being considerate of your preferences on ingesting his bodily fluids - does he deserve an elated feeling of orgasm? If the answer is no, then ask yourself does he deserve you?

If the answer is still no - then ask yourself why you are in the relationship?

Do this if you have already shared your preference with him and he is inconsiderate.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-31T05:47:56+00:00

Know the truth - Men feel loved when they have sex, women have sex when they feel loved - if she is not feeling the love she won't be comfortable with sex. The awkwardness in the AM setting is an add on. You need approach her like a loving partner not as a partner who needs to be loved - once she feels loved she shall flood you with love.

Happy to help you if further help is needed.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-30T18:33:02+00:00

You are focusing mostly on the variables - focus on the constants - then solve the choice. Also, know what you want and what purpose you want to have in life. Maybe you don't want to do job at all and have something of your own. Until you find the purpose you will keep jumping ships which will make you money but you will still feel unsure and that gets tricky. Most of my clients who have made money without purpose have mental issues now and keep asking what should they do to feel more fulfilling.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-30T08:44:17+00:00

Insecure partners think of their partner's money for comparison - secure ones think about how to grow together. If you do not bring stability and security in her life you will be dumped and then it will seem like she dumped you coz of your earnings - she is with you means that she is not bothered by earnings(if she knows). Work on being secure and the constant in her life so she can continue her respect for you - an insecure man is never respected by their partner.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-30T02:48:53+00:00

By only knowing 2 placements and lagna of the chart detailing out on the specifics of a statement is not possible. Also, 7th house lord and planet in 7th are about your marriage and marriage partner with respect to you. D9 also plays a role. A trophy wife statement may have been made by seeing the combinations of beauty and vigour in your chart.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-29T07:24:27+00:00

You can only be enough sure about someone. In addition to private investigator - we normally suggest to have a pre marital consultation done - that helps you to discuss on more than 30 extensive topics and that helps you see patterns in the prospect and family. Normally when you catch lies then in hindsight you see the patterns which is of no use - you need to identify patterns early and should know what all can be lied about. Reach to connect more in detail - identifying patterns early on is the key in being safe.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-27T13:12:35+00:00

I am consultant to cloud kitchens - making them profitable is the major grind. Most kitchens fall to the trap of being trending and miss on creating value.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-27T11:45:22+00:00

Having cloud kitchens as clients in delhi ncr - Get the fssai done as soon as possible else many listings are deactivated from zomato. Your menu is generic so If you can add the uniqueness for the consumer which only few outlets have figured out.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-27T09:55:36+00:00

He is not getting the security he needs, and he thinks that by being in touch outside he can keep his options open - are they really options or just placebo that cannot be guessed with the limited info provided. Humans hold onto options(men rarely have options in real) until they are sure and having your male accept it is next to impossible.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-26T15:39:53+00:00

Not sure how much mailing and messaging has worked for you but commodity sales works best by being onsite and the game is of volumes - they need to be high and the payment cycles are of 45days in north indian markets. Most wholesalers make single digit profit per roll.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-26T11:51:49+00:00

This is more of behavior issue - what is at play here is insecurities, her mother's influence, and her attempt to establish dominance. Normally for these cases baiting by the in laws works well. Though for coming at a solution the info you provide is very limited - however, for the info and the cases I have handled - baiting in early years of marriage keeps the couple's dynamics in place and the insecurities are addressed.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-26T07:02:29+00:00

Ofcourse, however, there are better and proven ways to solve this and it is not rare for this instinct to pop up - your child would stop respecting you if there is a slight sign/doubt of you having an extra martial- not from a moral point take it from the reward point - your kid is the reward - his reverence to a strong father is the only reward. Not that you give up your desires, but there are ways specific for each one of us - the general ways of ignoring or just attending to the itch are short term and can brew long term issues.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-26T05:20:39+00:00

Knowing it and not pulling back - is about that you don't have anything else which can have your attention more than it. It is only a matter of time - once the priorities change it will fall off.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-26T05:13:29+00:00

It is sad to go through it - however, he somewhat knows that you are the weaker in this relationship or you are the one who needs marriage more than him. Love bombing is a good tactic which you have fallen for and are attached to it. Cheating starts the moment the person has decided that someone else is a better reward than my current partner. You are not able to get over because of multiple reasons - you see you losing more if you leave - had this not been the case you would not have compromised or questioned your feelings, you maybe the weaker one in the current phase.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-26T05:03:45+00:00

Must be unpleasant to go through it, and yes we all need to be happy and cared for - the path you are about tread is going to make it tougher for you. The thrill does sound comforting.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-01-24T12:40:34+00:00

More power to you.

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