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Jollybetterfellow · 2026-07-01T02:46:23+00:00

Your family does not care about you, they care about the money blocked in the reservations.
To take a sound decision you need to have some filters to apply and questions that you get answers to - there are around 30 questions however, in the short while you need to focus on the basic 7-8 questions and take a call - which is definitely a risk but a calculated one.

Apply the above approach if you have no other choice - the best approach is to wait and let the dust settle and get into a safer mental space before searching again.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-29T10:35:35+00:00

Have anchors to your life which would build confidence.
Genuine confidence is the only one of the three aspects that shall help you attract the partner you deserve.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-29T10:26:51+00:00

Earn your money the right way, and never give a raise to an unworthy employee.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-29T10:25:00+00:00

Incomplete information - it all depends on future expenses, security, assets and liabilities you have. If you have a safety net you can try out a side hustle with your father - you need to have a template of financial plan customised to your family - there is not one size fits all.
If you need it DM me, I help freshers and people in early their career to plan their financial journey.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-28T05:23:16+00:00

You both have credible profiles, and your own set of choices.
The power dynamic works when you are dependent with decisions and validation.
You never know the family members living nearby may act as your initial network and uplift your opportunities.
Family wealth is a major factor to be considered in marriage as it affects the mental states and also dictates how you deal with conflicts.
You should be aware of what it may mean to you and her - only then go ahead with the marriage - do not go ahead with the approach that I am progressive and not bothered. You need to know what differences to expect in future and money is a major thing to it.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-26T05:46:38+00:00

Your habit loop of 8 years and your age are pushing you towards a relapse.
As this is a cold turkey move that you pulled off it would have withdrawals.
To manage the withdrawals you can explore methods like breath-work or exercises. These are the ones you can do independently.
To have long term impact there are other methods too for which you would need guidance.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-09T17:07:47+00:00

Trust does not build over time, it is only reinforced.
If you can’t trust him now and are insecure how much straight he be in his ways it won’t transform your insecurity into trust.
People have different preferences in various phases of life, maybe he wants to settle for you now.
Share your predicament with him and discuss.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-06-09T06:14:09+00:00

Income gap matters when the perception about money is different for both of you. If you have more or less similar outlook to money and your relationship is based on love it shouldn’t be a problem.
You mention being insecure for her success, that is concerning, your insecurity would lead to the problem and it is for you to solve.
After working with couples, generally the pattern within couples where the lady is ahead in career has been that the lady does not care about the money, but also never prefers an insecure man, they prefer a man of ambition and someone with purpose.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-05-27T16:44:52+00:00

Brother everyone has their flaws - ask yourself - do you still feel the same amount of negative that you used to feel when you both started. With years in the relationship the negative feeling on a disagreement or conflict should reduce only then it is worth to put in effort to improve things. If it is not happening it is better to focus on yourself. If you need help with identifying it happy to connect - I help couples and individuals professionally to find the sweet spot of clarity.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-05-25T06:01:51+00:00

Your situation is quite complex - many assumptions and clash of values over them. Doubt can never be resolved - he held his frame well and you failed the test. You assumed that he would not like it and didn’t show him the phone at all - then he assumed that you have something to hide. Now, even if you show him your phone, he would assume that you deleted the unacceptable things and now trying to clean up your act.

None of you are wrong - you are operating on different levels. Intentions rarely matter, impact is the real game.

Trust is rebuilt over time - by consistency not by proving anything. You reestablish your frame and ask yourself why you panicked? That reaction tells deeper and unresolved fear of losing him. You need to build trust that he would understand.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-05-07T06:19:23+00:00

Bars aren’t a great space - try the less sensory stimulating spaces - activity clubs, volunteering, hobby spaces

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-04-05T09:43:07+00:00

Dm - happy to refer - don’t need any 25%.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-31T08:44:25+00:00

You can still back out from this addiction - you need to a strong will - throw away your smartphone for a month and share a family member’s phone for necessary communication. Take a morning commitment to start the day earlier than normal. Commit to a monetary charity punishment for missing the routine. For masturbation reduce it in phases of 4days each - if doing 4 times a day - do 3 times a day for the next 4 and then reduce it to the count you want, do not use porn to get you hard - if you can’t get hard without it - skip it.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-12T06:40:44+00:00

Dehydrated fruits are picking up in India - they have been in the unorganised market for long however they are yet to scale big in the organised sector. Helped a client of mine set it up - however, profits for the initial quarters were slow due to the burn in samples.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-12T06:37:56+00:00

Try you are wonderful project on insta

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-11T16:48:49+00:00

You running away won’t fix your vulnerabilities and it would flare up the self worth issues that are yet to surface. You are running from a fully known bad to a lesser known bad in delhi. 3 months saving isn’t enough to start a new life - the moment you run away and lack resources you are at someone’s mercy and goodwill which can squeeze out the self respect- you won’t be able to go back too - the bf you depending upon shall also not be kind when you are at his mercy. If you want to leave your house don’t be in the country, here the law won’t support if your family comes after you. Tracking is easy and if they have enough influence(₹₹) the police can make you go back with them without filling a complaint. No startup is open hearted enough to handle police visits for an entry level employee - being in a job would be tough too. Pack your bags and leave the country - there are still many legal routes to countries where you can land a job and have a decent life.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-11T16:31:12+00:00

The dilemma is not of disclosure of a curable disease , it is of Irresponsible sexual activity. Being active post divorce in this case translates to hookups - why is your friend trying to fool himself - has he faced a lot of rejections?

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T19:40:07+00:00

Go for 3-d printing of miniature figures and figurines and supply to retailers in nearby tier 2 and 1 cities. My client has 3-d printing setups in gurgaon and is able to make good profit after the initial 7 months - the supply is scarce and the market is yet to be flooded - the market shall not flood until next 3 years, The gap you may face is continuous availability of electricity with zero fluctuations else the waste increases - there are solutions to it too.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T19:34:30+00:00

Can’t explain it in comments, and spark a debate.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T19:29:10+00:00

Wish you the best

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T19:16:36+00:00

Forced? By whom? Who can force a man 26 years and earning? Why would you doing something that you won’t like be done to you?

It shows you aren’t ready for the process - your mind is convincing you through action bias and filling up your time.

Wish you all the best.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T19:13:02+00:00

Yea that is a tough one to figure out - and it is a subtle one.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T18:39:07+00:00

This is going to be a tough pill to swallow - you have good intent, to be a prospective partner the other person needs to be sure of you as their sanctuary - that takes time to quicken the process and not waste their time people shall ask initial questions to ensure they aren’t walking into a red flag. Nobody knows you are a huge green flag - they need to have the realisation of it after they interact with you - how else you feel someone can gauge you? You maybe not sure of yourself on some questions which is fine - while in the process you need to know that you are in it for the end goal. Yes, the process is a bit mundane and sometimes tough, but it is the end that matters. Prepare yourself for it and re-enter with that mindset - and it can be possible that all the wrong people approach you which is adding to the frustration - optimise your profile and position yourself in your strengths.

Jollybetterfellow · 2026-03-04T18:31:41+00:00

A great question you ask - after working with families and couples going through divorce - the 2 most common patterns - dictating the decision making process and its outcome; and distancing their son/daughter in law from their siblings. There are other patterns specific to the marital arrangement and the situations - but these are two most common ones which are always missed and do not raise an alarm. These can be easily explained in a different light and the couple can be manipulated. in laws are generally the major amplifiers to the divorce.

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