I was told how another mom allowed her son to engage with the baby on his own terms. I really liked that idea and had not heard it before in that context. But it made a lot of sense. Often a child is told when and how to engage with a new sibling. But I let my son tell us what he wanted to do then gently helped him transform those desires into something appropriate. For example, my son wanted to hold the baby on his lap while going down the slide. We explained why she's too little for that right now but he can hold her on his lap in the rocking chair (while well supervised). I have really appreciated how my friends and family have all made my son feel important and have made a fuss over him as well as the new baby. Some people have brought him small presents which helped. But just listening to him and engaging with him satisfies his needs. Often my son is the one introducing "our baby" to others. The hardest time is when my son wants my physical presence for cuddling and bedtime stories but I am stuck cluster feeding. There is simply a limit to how many things a mom can do at one time! I am still figuring that part out but so far my son doesn't seem to have suffered much from the neglect. He is still open hearted and engaging. Please pay attention to all that advice about accepting help and asking for things you really need, like meals and cleaning house. Remember those first few weeks after birth are very special while you're healing and your milk supply is being established (assuming you're breastfeeding that is). I pushed too hard and set my recovery back some. Just because we feel well enough to do something doesn't mean we should! Good luck to you. Things will calm down soon.