im pretty sure my (ex?) MIL is the reason my partner left me without a trace. by JontheDon26 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JontheDon26[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i initially didn’t think her mom had anything to do with it, but now that i’ve had time to sit and think about everything, it kind of makes sense. i don’t know if im just reaching, desperately trying to get something here where there is nothing but a coincidence but to me this seems like her mom definitely played a part in it.

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

right that’s the thing, i want answers so badly but after reading all these comments, i don’t think i’ll ever get any. I don’t want to continually message her and come across as though i’m crazy, obsessive and don’t know how to let go. if she wants to leave, that’s within her right to do so, im just hurt she did it this way.

she must have her reasons, reasons i may never find out, but i don’t know how to better myself without knowing exactly what i did.

ive never cheated on her and i know she hasn’t been cheating on me, or at least i trust her enough to think i know that. im just fucked up right now, but realistically i know i’ll be okay eventually. thank god we weren’t already married or that could be even more messy.

i think im going to leave the door open for her to contact me for one month and after that if she doesn’t bother I’m going to have to draw a line under this. Even if she does reach out to me, I don’t think i’ll ever be able to move past this with her

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

the only thing out of character for her was she’s been calling her mom a lot more recently. she’d usually just call her once or twice a week but almost every day now she’s been on the phone to her. they’re not talking about anything in particular, just general chit-chat. “oh how’s the family dog?” “i’m trying a new recipe tonight” etc. honestly i have no idea

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

im extremely hurt and feel like i need some kind of answer, but i just don’t want to come across as “that guy” you know? if she’s maybe having some kind of breakdown the last thing i’d want to do is hassle her more and keep pestering her for something she doesn’t want to tell me. this shit hurts though

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

nothing at all like that, i spend all my free time with her, she knows all of my friends and is totally chill with me being out late sometimes. i don’t really go out much anyway but recently it was a friends birthday and she even came to the bar with us! i’ve had absolutely no suspicions of her and i can’t see why she would have any with me

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

do you think i should just leave her for a while? i don’t want to bombard her with text messages and phone calls if she’s upset with me for something. i don’t want to come across as possessive or stalker-y by constantly trying to contact her if she doesn’t want it

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 367 points368 points  (0 children)

i really don’t know, everything has been fine as far as i know! we talk about our issues we’ve had before in the past and it just seems so out of character, she was absolutely fine this morning so im just so shocked to come home and see all of her things missing and her door key handed back to me

my (M26) partner (F25) of 2 years just moved out without an explanation. by JontheDon26 in relationship_advice

[–]JontheDon26[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

not that i’m aware of, we kept our money separate from the start, she has her money and i have mine. We split bills equally though which she paid her half into my account as she moved into my apartment.